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I read through some of the posts on the subject of Spiritual Pride and Judging Others. Some is a little helpful, some is still vague to me. Let me explain a couple detailed examples of what I am dealing with and see if the answers to the original thread labeled “Spiritual Pride / Judging Others” still applies as stated.
Example A) hubby likes to listen to music that I find very offensive mostly because of the sexual innuendo and implicit and explicit lyrics. He does not understand that it bothers me so much that he listens to it, even the car with me there. He has no regard for my moral unsettledness about the music and what it says about our society. He claims he just likes the beat of the music, doesn’t listen to the lyrics, and he doesn’t do what the songs say (sexual acts and so forth). I cannot get through to him how evil this is, and I cannot listen without being affected by it. He listens to music and watches movies both of which put women in precarious sexual situations and he does not get it, I don’t like the tempation of it all. How do I deal with this in my marriage without judging my hubby?
Example B) people other than my hubby do things that really upset me, what is most important, that I follow the teachings of the Church and/or help direct others to do what the Church teaches (supposing that I am dealing with other Catholics)? I really don’t want to condone other’s sinning ways and let them not realize their errors, but is that my first duty to being a good Catholic? I am really confused on this issue. I mean do I let others that are doing sexually explicit things just get away with it, do I not stand up for the morally correct things in a Christian world view? What am I supposed to do that advances me and others in a positive moral way, without judging or becoming like a preacher, as many in my family are now calling me?
All of the immorality going on, that I am not sensitive too sense rejoining the Church in recent years is driving me nuts, and I am becoming more cynical and hateful of others that do the obnoxious and immoral things that I detest so much.
Please help me.
A Catholic in Crisis.
Example A) hubby likes to listen to music that I find very offensive mostly because of the sexual innuendo and implicit and explicit lyrics. He does not understand that it bothers me so much that he listens to it, even the car with me there. He has no regard for my moral unsettledness about the music and what it says about our society. He claims he just likes the beat of the music, doesn’t listen to the lyrics, and he doesn’t do what the songs say (sexual acts and so forth). I cannot get through to him how evil this is, and I cannot listen without being affected by it. He listens to music and watches movies both of which put women in precarious sexual situations and he does not get it, I don’t like the tempation of it all. How do I deal with this in my marriage without judging my hubby?
Example B) people other than my hubby do things that really upset me, what is most important, that I follow the teachings of the Church and/or help direct others to do what the Church teaches (supposing that I am dealing with other Catholics)? I really don’t want to condone other’s sinning ways and let them not realize their errors, but is that my first duty to being a good Catholic? I am really confused on this issue. I mean do I let others that are doing sexually explicit things just get away with it, do I not stand up for the morally correct things in a Christian world view? What am I supposed to do that advances me and others in a positive moral way, without judging or becoming like a preacher, as many in my family are now calling me?
All of the immorality going on, that I am not sensitive too sense rejoining the Church in recent years is driving me nuts, and I am becoming more cynical and hateful of others that do the obnoxious and immoral things that I detest so much.
Please help me.
A Catholic in Crisis.