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Giannawannabe
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I would like some objective feedback on an issue with my mother.
Just to give a little background. Mother has some mental problems–most likely a personality disorder. She has relationship difficulties with nearly all of her family–including children and siblings. She has been known to shoplift, lie chronically, and is hypochondriacal. An example of one of her most bizarre moments: She was caught in an embarrassing situation, not illegal, but embarrassing by a neighbor. When the neighbor greeted her, she claimed that she was not “Jane Smith”, but her twin sister “Joan Smith”(mother does not have a twin sister, btw). The man just stared at her, not knowing what to say. She never backed down from the story, and now wonders why no one in the neighborhood is “friendly” with her.
Of late, she has used my brother’s mailing address as he lives in a county that is eligible for the type of insurance plan she wants. She never asked/told my brother she did this. All of a sudden he began to receive all of her medical bills (there are many), and prescription drugs she has purchased off of the internet. Due to using a false address, she is constantly using different pharmacies, so as to “not get caught”. In fact, she nearly had a run in, as she changed some info on a prescription that a Dr. had given her, and the pharmacist called her on it. She was able to manipulate herself out of the situation, but avoids that pharmacy now.
Yesterday, my sister called her while she was on vacation in California. Apparently, all of her checks are bouncing as she “forgot” to put in her latest check. She asked my sister to forge her name on the check and put it in the bank to cover her bills. I read my sister the riot act. She rationalized over and over to me why it was okay to do such a thing.
Am I the one crazy here? Or are the above things seriously illegal? I’ve discussed these things with my mother, sister, and brother (the one who is allowing her to use his address for insurance plan). No one seems to think there is anything wrong here. I’ve tried to spell things out as clearly and objectively as I can. Is there anything I should do here? Or should I just let things go on, as it has nothing to do with me?
Thank you.
Just to give a little background. Mother has some mental problems–most likely a personality disorder. She has relationship difficulties with nearly all of her family–including children and siblings. She has been known to shoplift, lie chronically, and is hypochondriacal. An example of one of her most bizarre moments: She was caught in an embarrassing situation, not illegal, but embarrassing by a neighbor. When the neighbor greeted her, she claimed that she was not “Jane Smith”, but her twin sister “Joan Smith”(mother does not have a twin sister, btw). The man just stared at her, not knowing what to say. She never backed down from the story, and now wonders why no one in the neighborhood is “friendly” with her.
Of late, she has used my brother’s mailing address as he lives in a county that is eligible for the type of insurance plan she wants. She never asked/told my brother she did this. All of a sudden he began to receive all of her medical bills (there are many), and prescription drugs she has purchased off of the internet. Due to using a false address, she is constantly using different pharmacies, so as to “not get caught”. In fact, she nearly had a run in, as she changed some info on a prescription that a Dr. had given her, and the pharmacist called her on it. She was able to manipulate herself out of the situation, but avoids that pharmacy now.
Yesterday, my sister called her while she was on vacation in California. Apparently, all of her checks are bouncing as she “forgot” to put in her latest check. She asked my sister to forge her name on the check and put it in the bank to cover her bills. I read my sister the riot act. She rationalized over and over to me why it was okay to do such a thing.
Am I the one crazy here? Or are the above things seriously illegal? I’ve discussed these things with my mother, sister, and brother (the one who is allowing her to use his address for insurance plan). No one seems to think there is anything wrong here. I’ve tried to spell things out as clearly and objectively as I can. Is there anything I should do here? Or should I just let things go on, as it has nothing to do with me?
Thank you.
Trying to have your mom evaluated would be an exercise in futlity for you. I tried to do that with my dad before his death and I was just not legally given a leg to stand on. I understand the medical privacy thing, but when one is trying to help someone well it is just plain futile.