My fiancé is Greek Orthodox and I have some questions/concerns

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He may have been baptized in the Catholic Church but if he gets baptized in the Orthodox Church wouldn’t that make him Orthodox especially if he never really practiced the catholic teachings and never got confirmed? My priest told me when I was getting confirmed that until a person gets confirmed they can change churches or even religions.
 
Ginnyb98 said:
He may have been baptized in the Catholic Church but if he gets baptized in the Orthodox Church wouldn’t that make him Orthodox
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No. It won’t.

You can only be baptized once.

He can certainly defect from the Catholic faith, but it doesn’t change his canonical status if he was in fact baptized into the Catholic Church.
Ginnyb98 said:
My priest told me when I was getting confirmed that until a person gets confirmed they can change churches or even religions.
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It’s unfortunate you’ve been given so much incorrect information in your short life.
 
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I understand the logic in your argument but I have been through a lot from an earlier age( stuff a lot of people haven’t been through) so it has made me grow up a lot faster and I never really was a kid. I even have relatives tell me when I was 3 I was speaking and acting like a 16 year old. Also I have a very high IQ ( not braving but it is a MENSA level) so that mixed with what I’ve had to grow up with makes me think I will probably always be the more mature and logical person in the situation. I have even dated someone that was almost 50 and he was worse then my fiancé now.
 
So would it changed the wedding if he was baptized first in the Catholic Church? He also doesn’t acknowledge it since it was done when he was so young so he doesn’t remember and just did it because his mom wanted him to ( he was not an infant but still pretty young) also his mom only became catholic because her husband was catholic when they first met but they have both since left the church
 
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Ginnyb98 said:
I understand the logic in your argument but I have been through a lot from an earlier age( stuff a lot of people haven’t been through) so it has made me grow up a lot faster and I never really was a kid. I even have relatives tell me when I was 3 I was speaking and acting like a 16 year old. Also I have a very high IQ ( not braving but it is a MENSA level) so that mixed with what I’ve had to grow up with makes me think I will probably always be the more mature and logical person in the situation. I have even dated someone that was almost 50 and he was worse then my fiancé now.
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Yes, that was exactly my point.

As a young person, you’re going to have a hard time reading where older people ought to be.
 
He acknowledgment has nothing to do with it. Either he’s a baptized Catholic ( it took place) or it didn’t.
That’s why it’s so crazy that people say “I used to be CAtholic”.
 
Also if at all possible, before you go any further, I would try to get his priest, your priest, and the two of you in the same room.
Seems like a lot of he said/he said/he said going on. This has to be so confusing. 😮
 
Ginnyb98 said:
So would it changed the wedding if he was baptized first in the Catholic Church?
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Yes, it could. Given your pastor’s misinformation thus far, I suggest you talk to the diocesan tribunal office, to the vicar general. Find someone who is better versed in both the law and theology than your pastor seems to be.
Ginnyb98 said:
He also doesn’t acknowledge it since it was done when he was so young so he doesn’t remember and just did it because his mom wanted him to
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Uh… and he plans to join the Orthodox Church?

This guy doesn’t have a clue.
 
Ginnyb98 said:
I even have relatives tell me when I was 3 I was speaking and acting like a 16 year old. Also I have a very high IQ ( not braving but it is a MENSA level)
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Dysfunctional and traumatic childhoods that make one “grow up fast” do not equate to actual maturity nor do they substitute for life experience. IQ is not an indicator of emotional intelligence or readiness for marriage.
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I have even dated someone that was almost 50 and he was worse then my fiancé now.
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Which is indicative of girls who have childhood trauma. Their man-picker is broken.

Mine was.

Thankfully by my late thirties that was rectified through lots of hard work on my part.

Your man-picker is definitely in need of calibration.
 
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Ginnyb98 said:
My priest told me when I was getting confirmed that until a person gets confirmed they can change churches or even religions.
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Either you misunderstood or your priest was confused.

You are Catholic when you are baptized in the Catholic Church. You are then Catholic for all eternity, even if you end up in hell, you are Catholic in hell.
 
Well we live 10 hours away so idk if I could get his priest with mine but maybe another Orthodox priest that’s local to talk to father?
 
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Dysfunctional and traumatic childhoods that make one “grow up fast” do not equate to actual maturity nor do they substitute for life experience. IQ is not an indicator of emotional intelligence or readiness for marriage.
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Right.

I was brought up in a family that was big on toughing it out, lots of work and responsibility for kids (my mom had cancer when I was 15), and in retrospect, I wound up with an exaggerated notion of how mature that made me.

The truth is that while I did get some good things out of that background (primarily work ethic and sense of duty), it was seriously lacking as a place to learn interpersonal skills (like how to disagree politely and how to resolve differences amicably). But as a young woman, I had absolutely no idea what I didn’t have.
 
It doesn´t have to be like this. In germany, for example, ceremonies with both priests are possible. It depends on the ersonal choice of the orthodox parish. In areas with less higher orthodox population it is not that uncommon.
 
It´s officially declared in many german orthodox papers for oecomenic issues here. The decision if the marriage is duable is left to the priests, but it´s not out of norm.
Even protestant -orthodox marriages are described here. The officially registered orthodox chruches published together a guidance for this some years ago. I read it during my theology courses at university, so, it´s not inofficial.
 
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No orthodox priest I know would see a catholic marriage as invalid, and this is not a mixed mess - it´s simply that orthodox marriage adds the crowning and would not consider a 4th marriage for example, as valid - a point the priests declare to the bride and groom to prevent misunderstanding later. It´s seen as an kind option out of love and the wish to missionary. The orthodox communities here are small, and most people who enter in mixed marriages don´t marry religious. But who still does usually shows mutual understanding for those differences. I am in such a marriage, and I never exerienced mess or misunderstanding of holiness.
 
You are probably a different Orthodox then he is. He is Greek Orthodox and I know they do allow you to have 2 weddings since the Greeks allow you to get married 3 times in your life. Also they consider the last wedding the final/ most valid one so we could have a Catholic wedding then an Orthodox one
 
I never said they did govern over the Catholics but Russian Orthodox is a lot different then Greek Orthodox
 
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