My Friend is asking for advice

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Hello there, my friend (Let’s call him Josh) has not so recently been dumped by his crush(Let’ call her Julia). Now he has completely moved on from her and has already forgiven her. When he was trying to pursue his crush, he contacted Julia’s friend and tries to be friend with them. To this day he is still on good terms with Julia’s friend but not with Julia herself.
Recently he told me he kinda liked one of Julia’s friend (Let’s call her Sophie) that he befriended back then. They both haven’t chat for about half a year but Josh said he is planning to contact Sophie again and will try to be a good friend with her (hopefully this can blossom into a relationship).
Josh doesn’t have any competition on this girl, since Sophie is that quiet girl in class that isn’t usually considered attractive by anyone.
The question is should my friend(Josh) try his luck with Sophie? (Is this a good idea or a bad one?)
PS no need to ask why my friend didn’t go ask here by himself. He’s just too lazy to sign up here.
 
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This is Catholic Answers, not a romantic advice column.

However, if a man has completely broken up with a woman he was dating and has not even been in touch with her for months, I see no reason why he cannot start trying to get to know a mutual friend of his and the woman’s, or ask the mutual friend for a date. If the mutual friend is not comfortable with the situation, she is free to turn him down.

In olden days when one’s dating was often confined to one’s immediate social circle in a town or neighborhood, it was often virtually impossible to date anyone who wasn’t a friend of a person you were previously dating.
 
Well that was a quick reply.
First of all I’m sorry for asking romantic advice here.
I just didn’t know any site that offers romantic advice that is clean and pure ,the sites I know are just those kind of sites that encourage hookups, that’s why I will never ask any advice there.
 
So you think this Josh guy is me?
What? He’s 20 and I’m only 19, jeez… This guy used to be my upperclassman, we remained close friends because we ‘clicked’ a lot.
 
I understand how maybe someone might see these situations as a moral issue requiring a Catholic Answers type response.

At the same time - whether to date someone or not, assuming that a person is free to be dating (not married to someone else and with no annulment), is really a matter of that person’s own personal judgment.
 
Allright then, thanks, your answer will be apreciated by my friend.
 
There is nothing sinful about dating the friend of your former girlfriend. Your friend would be wise to date women who share his faith and his values, not to date as a passtime but in order to find a spouse.
 
Of course it is perfectly okay to chat up Sophie.

Word of advice-your friend should not approach Sophie in a mode of hoping to become friends and maybe it will blossom into a romance.

Instead, he should approach her by asking her out on a date.
 
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Josh doesn’t have any competition on this girl, since Sophie is that quiet girl in class that isn’t usually considered attractive by anyone.
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This line made me cringe but whatever.

Any unmarried person may pursue a romantic relationship with any unmarried person of the opposite sex that they please. (Assuming they’re not an adult pursuing a minor or a close relative…you know the drill…)

Sometimes young people conflate dating with marriage.
“I’m not single, I’m dating someone!”
Erm, no dear, you’re single.
Might there be jealousy among that friend group? Possibly, but two people dating is not immoral, even if it’s your best friends ex.

Best of luck to Josh and may he have the maturity to appreciate Sophie at her true worth
 
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