My Friend, Moose, died Monday night

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As many of you know I found my way to sobriety through AA and am still an active member. My homegroup - a group I helped to start - six years ago meets at my home parish. We are a small group - about 10 or 15 - and there are a core of four ‘founding members’ that are there almost every week without fail. One of these people was Moose.
Moose was 16 years sober, about 6ft 10 inches tall, wore leathers and rode a harley. He also knew all the words to the opening songs of every major American musical written and produced in the past 50 years - why? Because for thirty years he worked as a carpenter and stage hand in the Theater. He loved the Theater and all it could and did provide in terms of artistic integrity, beauty, silliness and fun.
He came to the first meeting of the Principle Study Group with a chip on his shoulder the size of a boulder. He wanted to make sure we were not a “Catholic AA Group” (AA is not affiliated with any particular faith or religion or political organization - you cannot have a protestant AA group or a republican AA group). Anyway, he had heard this “Catholic Chick” (me) was starting a meeting at St. Joe’s and having the ego usually found in abundance in AA (:rolleyes: ) he came to make sure our meeting was ‘kosher’ (and yes, that is a joke). He hated Christians in general and Catholics in particular, having been damaged by some very mean people in his youth under the guise of Church Authority.

At the time of his death Moose had an AA sponsor who is a practicing Catholic, a ‘sister’ in AA who is a practicing Catholic (me!) and had developed a great relationship with the pastor of our Church (way to go, Faddah! he would often tease him as Father rode by on his motorcycle). He had come to the conclusion that Catholics were generally ok - it was those darn evangelicals he couldn’t stand (and yes, that was a joke too).

He loved his wife, his dogs, AA, the theater and his motorcycle. He was a loving, opinionated, giant bear of a man who would go to any lengths to help a suffering alcoholic but had no problem looking you right in the eye and saying, “If you don’t want to do this, fine…go somewhere else, but this has saved MY life and I love it”.

He once attended Celebrate Recovery at the urging of a sponsee who had become ‘born again’. I had had my own experiences with this organization. I asked him what he thought and he said, “If it works for you, fine…in my opinion it simply proves that white people should not try and sing Gospel music”.

I am going to miss this man more than you can know. My family is fractured. I do not have the relationship with my brother that I once had and Moose was someone I could always talk to, laugh with, argue with and love for being sober and available - 24/7.

I don’t know what his last moments were like - but I hope he was met by Our Lady who said, “Oh, so you’re the guy Leslie has been talking to me about for the past 6 years…welcome home, my son”.

Please pray for his wife, Andrea, in this time of sorrow. Please pray for the repose of the soul of James “Moose” Parsons.

May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace.
amen.
 
He sounds like a great guy. I’m sorry for your loss and will pray for him and his family.
 
Moose and all his loved ones have my sympathies and prayers, too.
 
Daily Mass for the repose of his soul and for everyone affected by his death.
 
Prayers and a candle lit for the repose of Moose - and for all who love him.
 
I’ll remember him in my rosary. I will remember you too.

I am sorry you lost your friend.
 
What a beautiful story to remember your friend by. Think of all the people he has saved over the years and brought them out of their despair and into a life full of hope and happiness. That is a great gift to share with God’s children.

Prayers for Moose’s family and friends may they be comforted now and always by God’s love and compassion. Amen.
 
What a beautiful story to remember your friend by. Think of all the people he has saved over the years and brought them out of their despair and into a life full of hope and happiness. That is a great gift to share with God’s children.

Prayers for Moose’s family and friends may they be comforted now and always by God’s love and compassion. Amen.
thank you - and you are right…last night our homegroup met (in AA a homegroup is the one group you just love and try never to miss). We cried, we laughed and we talked about the 10th step. He was paid the highest homage one can be paid in AA - “He was a man who worked a solid program, and as a result he died sober”.
I am going to miss him so much…he cried with me when my Roddy the Scotty died and was the first one in the group I brought my new puppy to meet. I told his wife yesterday that I feel like I lost a brother and that I am so glad that in MY spiritual tradition I can still talk to him anytime I want…she agreed.
Thank you all so much for your prayers…
 
So sorry for the loss of your friend, Leslie. Will pray for his soul and his family.
God bless
 
Leslie, I’m sorry for your loss. I’ll pray for your acceptance and for mercy on his soul. God bless you.
 
So sorry for your loss! 😦 It is always hard to loose one you care about! :console: Prayers for your friend!
 
Leslie, I’m sorry for your loss. I’ll pray for your acceptance and for mercy on his soul. God bless you.
Thank you. This has hit me so hard. I cannot believe how much I miss him. I think because I watched him work patiently with so many suffering alkies, never giving them an ‘out’ but always giving them a break.

I was at Mass two nights ago and will be there again tonight offering that sacrifice to him. One of my sponsees emailed me today - she attends that group too and loves Moose - and said, “I have decided he is sitting in heaven, Roddy on his lap, talking with John Paul II about what books are supposed to be in The Bible while Jimi Hendrix plays in the background and Margot Fonteyn dances”.

YUP - if there was individual heaven that would be Moose’s heaven.

I lost my husband suddenly like Andrea (Moose’s wife) lost him. It is such a weird experience. You say, “Good-bye, honey, I love you, see you tonight” and then you get home and someone is there on the front porch saying, “I have something to tell you…”.
The next month you walk around in a fog thinking, “There has been a terrible mistake”. You do what you are supposed to do, one day at a time, but it all seems unreal. When you look around you it is as though vaseline covers the lenses of your eyes.

Andrea is just lost. She is trying to figure out what shoe goes on what foot and who will speak at his funeral. I am watching AA come together to help this women in a way that is amazing…from Modesto to San Jose…and we are being helped by opera singers in Marin County, motorcycle clubs in Sonora and dancers from Las Vegas…

Please keep us all in your prayers. This is so hard…and such an incredible experience.
 
I’m so sorry for your loss. You, your family, Moose and his family, have my prayers. 😦
 
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