My friend's sister just had her 2nd abortion

[Jocelyn]

Within a time span of 6 months, my friend’s sister had her 2nd abortion. This girl, who I will call Liz, had other options. Both times my friend told Liz that she would take and raise the baby.

My friend is at her wits end. She is not sleeping and has lost way to much weight. She has taken her sister’s sin of abortion upon her shoulders. I know that she feels bad because she has yelled at her sister and told her that she is going to hell for having these abortions.(It surprises me that she believes that, because she now belongs to a church that believes that a sin is a sin and that stealing a pencil is as bad as adultery)

My friend was baptized Catholic but now belongs to one of those fly by night protestant churches. She is brainwashed to believe the Catholic church is evil.

My question is what can I do to help my friend through this tough time? Sometimes it is so difficult to help friends through tough situations when they hate the Catholic church.

 

[JMJ_Theresa]

I’m sure that the experts would have good advice.

rachelsvineyard.org/

It is too bad that your friend doesn’t have the comforts of the Catholic faith. She could ask the babies to intercede for Liz. She could have Masses said for them. She could go to a healing Mass. In lieu, encourage her to name the babies. To perhaps have a prayer service for the family. To establish some kind of memorial. Perhaps to even take up Pro-life work.

My sister had an abortion two decades ago. I still think of the baby. I named her. I ask her to intercede for my sister, my nephew, and whoever the father is. My sister has been in and out of the church since then. I hope she has confessed the sin. I assume she has. I know it was a great relief to know that she was going to confession–when she first came back to the Church.

Isn’t it ironic how one woman’s “choice” affects so many people?

 

[catlicgirl88]

JMJ Theresa:

I’m sure that the experts would have good advice.

rachelsvineyard.org/

It is too bad that your friend doesn’t have the comforts of the Catholic faith. She could ask the babies to intercede for Liz. She could have Masses said for them. She could go to a healing Mass. In lieu, encourage her to name the babies. To perhaps have a prayer service for the family. To establish some kind of memorial. Perhaps to even take up Pro-life work.

My sister had an abortion two decades ago. I still think of the baby. I named her. I ask her to intercede for my sister, my nephew, and whoever the father is. My sister has been in and out of the church since then. I hope she has confessed the sin. I assume she has. I know it was a great relief to know that she was going to confession–when she first came back to the Church.

Isn’t it ironic how one woman’s “choice” affects so many people?

AS FOR ME I AM THANKFUL TO BE ALIVE I WAS SUPPOSED TO BE ABORTED SO DID MY FRIENDS BUT HEY WE ARE HERE.

 

[1ke]

Jocelyn:

Within a time span of 6 months, my friend’s sister had her 2nd abortion. This girl, who I will call Liz, had other options. Both times my friend told Liz that she would take and raise the baby.

My friend is at her wits end. She is not sleeping and has lost way to much weight. She has taken her sister’s sin of abortion upon her shoulders. I know that she feels bad because she has yelled at her sister and told her that she is going to hell for having these abortions.(It surprises me that she believes that, because she now belongs to a church that believes that a sin is a sin and that stealing a pencil is as bad as adultery)

My friend was baptized Catholic but now belongs to one of those fly by night protestant churches. She is brainwashed to believe the Catholic church is evil.

My question is what can I do to help my friend through this tough time? Sometimes it is so difficult to help friends through tough situations when they hate the Catholic church.

I would suggest getting some post-abortion literature for your friend and her sister. Get some info on local post-abortion healing retreats/meetings-- call a local crisis pregnancy center for that. You can go to the websites for Project Rachel and Rachel’s Vineyard to see what they have available in your area. You can get post-abortion information (books/brochures) at www.hh76.com.

Your friend is grieving, and even if her sister will not go to post-abortion counseling she should go. Abortion affects all the members of the family, and there is help and counseling available for her.

 

[puzzleannie]

this is a heartbreaker, will be remembering these mothers and babies tomorrow during Valley-wide pro-life rosary and Eucharistic procession and the shrine of Our Lady of San Juan del Valle

 

[gardenswithkids]

Jocelyn:

…My friend was baptized Catholic but now belongs to one of those fly by night protestant churches. She is brainwashed to believe the Catholic church is evil.

My question is what can I do to help my friend through this tough time? Sometimes it is so difficult to help friends through tough situations when they hate the Catholic church.

Your friend grieves the murder of neice(s) and/or nephew(s). I agree with what others have said about recommending post-abortion counselling for her, (some of the counseling services extend to not just the woman who aborted but others also affected by abortion.) Your diocese may know some programs that you can share with her that would fit with where she is spiritually at the present time.

It’s too bad that she has such anti-Catholic feelings. What does her denomination teach about abortion? Maybe God will pull good out of this terrible evil by helping to soften your friends view of the Catholic Church because of the Church’s strong pro-life position. Pray for that to happen and pray that she find some comfort in her grief. I’ll pray too.