my husband, the seventh day adventist

[mamaherrera]

My husband is a non-active SDA at the moment, but still has all his beliefs, teachings, etc and his family is mega SDA, very involved and all Anti-me, (I’m Catholic of course). He allows me to raise our children Catholic, as we were married in the church and he was aware of that. He even goes to mass with me most Sundays (shhhh, don’t tell his family)! But anyways. . . he is friends with many Catholics and they have invited him to go to a Catholic retreat of just men for four days. I was very excited, but then there’s something that worries me. When he gets together with Catholics (and I’m not around, as i won’t be), he gets into his “bible” talks, but he doesn’t tell them that he’s SDA, he just starts saying things like, " You know this verse in the bible, no. . . etc" and then he starts trying to confuse them. In that mix of men who will be at that retreat, many of them are not well versed in the bible, and I"m scared that is he goes to this retreat, he will end up converting them or confusing them, or putting them against the Church, instead of him wanting to become Catholic. what bothers me is that he doesn’t tell them outright that he is a different religion, so they think he’s talking about the bible and he seems so knowledgeable because we all know that SDA’s know the bible so well, and they think he’s with them as far as beliefs and principles. . . should I dissuade him from going to this retreat? I have this fear that it will do more bad than good.

 

[TK421]

IMO I wouldn’t worry about it. If he keeps doing it and it attracts attention eventually he’ll run into somebody that knows their stuff. Although if he chooses to do that, I would ask him to be upfront about his denomination instead of being all secret agent Seventh-Day Adventist KGB’ish. It seems immoral to be sneaky about it.

 

[Jon_S_1]

My husband is a non-active SDA at the moment, but still has all his beliefs, teachings, etc and his family is mega SDA, very involved and all Anti-me, (I’m Catholic of course). He allows me to raise our children Catholic, as we were married in the church and he was aware of that. He even goes to mass with me most Sundays (shhhh, don’t tell his family)! But anyways. . . he is friends with many Catholics and they have invited him to go to a Catholic retreat of just men for four days. I was very excited, but then there’s something that worries me. When he gets together with Catholics (and I’m not around, as i won’t be), he gets into his “bible” talks, but he doesn’t tell them that he’s SDA, he just starts saying things like, " You know this verse in the bible, no. . . etc" and then he starts trying to confuse them. In that mix of men who will be at that retreat, many of them are not well versed in the bible, and I"m scared that is he goes to this retreat, he will end up converting them or confusing them, or putting them against the Church, instead of him wanting to become Catholic. what bothers me is that he doesn’t tell them outright that he is a different religion, so they think he’s talking about the bible and he seems so knowledgeable because we all know that SDA’s know the bible so well, and they think he’s with them as far as beliefs and principles. . . should I dissuade him from going to this retreat? I have this fear that it will do more bad than good.

Be soooooooo Thankful that your husband is so supportive and involved in Catholicism with you and your kids!!! That is a huge deal for an SDA!

I would highly encourage him to go on the retreat, but I would let the leaders of the retreat know where your husband stands so they can be in tune with it, and anticipate issues. Perhaps they team your husband up with a leader instead of a catechumen for example. I should encourage him to participate in as much catholcism as possible and hopefully he will come to the truth, but at the same time make an effort to ensure that Catholics he is around understand where he is coming from. I would also encourage you to encourage your husband to be forthright about this with the people he interacts with.

 

[mamaherrera]

Thanks so much for the positivity and motivation to encourage him. I will let the leader know about his “habit” and maybe he can let all the men involved, as there are many “new” guys in the retreat, 36 of them, that will be open to his “chats” and even leaders not well versed or prepared so that they have a heads-up. Thanks

 

[Allegra]

I would pray that your husband has a sucessful retreat and recieves the spiritual guidance he needs. I would put it in God’s hands and not discourage him from going.

 

[Indifferently]

Why are you gossipping about your husband on this forum? Does he know you have posted this?

 

[gh4]

Thanks so much for the positivity and motivation to encourage him. I will let the leader know about his “habit” and maybe he can let all the men involved, as there are many “new” guys in the retreat, 36 of them, that will be open to his “chats” and even leaders not well versed or prepared so that they have a heads-up. Thanks

I personally would just let the chips fall where they may. If you must, let the leader know, but let him make the decision as to letting everyone else know. And if I were you, I would let your husband know what you are doing. I think it’s wrong to sneak around and to tell the leader all about him without letting him know what you are doing. Just my two cents.