My NEW Sister-in-Law

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Hello to all. I would just like to share my story. My brother has found his wife to be. Even though there should be much joy, i am kinda sad. You see, her name is Joann, and before she met my brother, she never was a practicing Catholic. Yes her family was Catholic, but never went to church or anything like that. When she moved outta her mothers house, she started going to some church that her brother went to. Some 1st Christian church or something like that. She used to go there, then she went to this church called Mid-cities community church. Then she left that church and never went to another church. Then she met my brother, while dating, she told him " Lets go to my brothers 1st christian Chuch", now thank GOD my brother told her that he wouldn’t go to any church unless it was Catholic. So for a while there, they started going to the Catholic church, But for after a while, they didn’t go. They were at her mothers house and they got into a heated debate with her because they were trying to prove Mary was not the Queen of Heaven. After the discussion She said, “Well the Catholics are always attacking other churches!” My brother told her she was crazy and they got into a fight. But now i feel that she is the cause of my brother questioning his faith. That makes me so mad, i hate it. I wish she was more religious, does anyone know what i can do, mabye to convince her to go to church. Oh and i forgot, when i try to tell her the plus of being Catholic, she don’t seem to intersted. She says that she believes that anyone can talk in forgin tounges and i just don’t believe this. So any help would be deeply appreciated.
 
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  1. Pray for them daily.
  2. It’s ok to be mad, probably because you want to help both of them but feel a bit powerless. Just don’t hold a grudge against her.
  3. You sister-in-law sounds like she loves the Lord, but simply doesn’t understand what the Catholic church teaches. Many Catholic teachings are hard to understand at first. Your brother clearly loves her and wants to marry her, he also wants to make their marriage a happy event. Confussion over theology makes a stressful time, like getting married, even more stressful. I doubt your brother is really questioning his faith, he is having some difficulties is all. Difficulty does not equal doubt, we all have difficulties.
  4. I would talk to you priest and ask for some materials or a book that you can give your sister-in-law to be that better explains Catholic teachings. Wrap the book like a gift and give it to her. She will be surprised and realize that you are serious. Let her know that you love her and want her as part of your family.
  5. This will be a good opportunity to learn more about your faith as well. Whenever she questions a Catholic belief, try to find the answer. Read this website, ask other Catholics and ask your priest.
  6. Once again pray for both of them, and remind them that even if they don’t get married in a Catholic church you love them both. 👍
 
  1. Once again pray for both of them, and remind them that even if they don’t get married in a Catholic church you love them both. 👍
Oh yes, their getting married in the Catholic Church! :yup: You see, she feels that she is obligated to be catholic, because her grandparents were.
 
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Oh yes, their getting married in the Catholic Church! :yup: You see, she feels that she is obligated to be catholic, because her grandparents were.
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Sounds like a big chunk of the battle is already won, then. Assuming they get married in the Catholic Church, it *will *be explained to them that they are obligated to raise their children in the faith.

Additionally, it may not hurt to point out to your brother that “Biblically” he is to be the “spiritual leader” of their family and how could she (his wife) possibly go against the Word of God? 😉

👍
 
Ruth… just keep talking about Ruth. Your people are my people and your faith is my faith. If she believes in the Bible she needs to follow her husband’s faith not the other way round…

then it will just be a matter of keeping your brother strong 😉
 
Dear RomanRyan:

We must love others like Christ said, regardless if they are Catholic or not. You can be truly an instrument of God’s love to her!!!Then she’ll want to know your secret!!!

God Bless~~
 
At least she’s a Christian and not Buddhist like my brother’s fiance!

Pick up “Rome Sweet Home” by Scott and Kimberly Hahn. It will make you a little more sympathetic to your brother’s situation. It’s a nice easy read about 2 converts.
 
I can understand your frustrated feelings because you cannot control it and you do not want to lose your brother.

First, try to keep in perspective the fact that they ARE getting married in the Catholic church. Since I am marrying basically a protestant and we will live and worship as Catholics that is really the first big step.

The second is to pray for her. My unprofessional polling shows that it may take quite a while, but over time many spouses convert to Catholicism most often when the Catholic spouse continues to adhere to practicing their faith. So you may have to be more encouraging for your brother, because it is by his ‘active’ witness, example that she will see over time. She will need to see what a good husband she has in a Catholic guy and that is up to him.

Finally, I would say their is a tape series by Scott Hahn, called Getting the Most Out of the Mass, 4 tapes…that is absolutely awesome. He explains the mass based on scripture which for her will be a teaching tool probably for everyone.
 
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