My uncle is dying

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My uncle has been dealing with cancer for about 8 years now. He is at home dying…it is so sad. My goodness to see him this way. My mom loves her brother so much. Today, I wanted to go see him but I could not…I am so emotional why? Do I not know how to deal with death? Maybe I am scare and fearful of death. It is heartbreaking…I literally feel numb inside. Like walk thru life just doing what I need to and crying the next minute.
When I think back to my dog who was just about 15 years young, it broke my heart. I still grief the lost of my dog a beautiful yellow lab who was my life. Losing him still feels like I lost part of myself.
Now my uncle who has been a part of my life as well and close to my mom. This is her brother. A beautiful happy respectful man, father, uncle and brother. I feel like I am going thru this anticipatory grieving again. God, please let my uncle go peacefully in your arms. Comfort him with your love and meet him in heaven with his brother and sisters surrounded by familiar faces who love him!
 
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I am sorry that you experience the end of life of your dear uncle.

It is normal and even sane to grieve. Don’t be ashamed to cry.

If you can, go to see him. He would probably appreciate it.

He is near the end of this earthly life. It is also the last time to love him and for him to love. Size it.

If he is a believer, and you are confortable, you can propose him to pray with him. Otherwise do it privately.

Is there anyone, maybe your mother who carry for is spiritual needs, such as to contact the parish or the health pastoral, as he is at home? (if you are minor, it is obviousely not your role).

Prayers for you and him.
 
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I think if you can visit him go and do it. If you regret not going afterwards, you will not be able to turn the clock back. I will say a prayer for your uncle, for you and your mum.
 
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Yes, thank you. I am new to this so I am not sure if I am replying to the person who answered my msg. Yes, I went to see him last week when we found out he was in hospice. Today I was off, but I just could not go… I feel like I would be a crying mess. He was doing okay today, my mother calls him everyday. He is in hospice at home. I have been praying to God and asking him to help my uncle maybe he could get better but I think it is the end and my uncle did say there is no more of a fight left in him.
 
You reply to the right person, no worry.

You do God’s work in praying for him. It is the best.

I am sad that you couldn’t go to see him. You should not blame you, or be ashamed of anything, and be aware that a person in the last days can leave unexpectingly.

Maybe you will not have a lot of others opportunties, so you have to decide what is the better, to see him if it is possible and if he wants and maybe cry (that is not the end of the world) or not go because you feel it may demoralized him…
 
No, Anicette. I did go see him a few days ago with my family. Today, I did not go. I am sorry if I am confusing.
 
You’re welcome.

Your uncle is blessed to have family who cares for him, even if they are not his direct descendants.
 
This is such a hard part of life and it takes some maturity to handle it without at least some discomfort. I haven’t yet reached that level iof maturity…I’m at the fake it 'til you make it stage.

That said, visit your uncle if possible. Save yourself from regret as well as brightening his day. It may help to not think about him dying but living…albeit at the last stage of life. Pray with him or for him. You’ll also be performing both a corporal work of mercy (visiting the sick) and a spiritual (comforting the afflicted).

Oh Mary, conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to you. Please pray for the OP , his uncle, and family.
 
The Divine Mercy chaplet is a wonderful prayer to say at the bedside of the dying, or if you cannot be there, to say it for him at home. It is a gift you can give him as he leaves this world.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.

How to recite the chaplet…


May God be with you and your family during this difficult time.
 
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