Grace & Peace!
This will be one of many threads, on CAF, dealing with this subject …]
Of course not. Nor would a sane person expect them to.
Sorry, JD. I may have misread you, thinking that you were attempting to make an argument for marriage from biology alone. There are indeed arguments to be made from biology (such as the argument *for *procreative acts as a good), but other arguments cannot be made so easily on the basis of biology alone. I think you know that though, so I’ll stop there.
Our Church is not telling them not to “love” one another. But, neither are we stupid enough to believe that cohabitation will not lead inexorably to same sex sex.
I hope the church is also disinclined to believe that people
must sin, or that some people *cannot *avail themselves of the grace needed to refrain from sin. Of course, we’re all sinners and sin can disfigure any relationship, including validly confected and otherwise happy marriages. The good news, however, is that such relationships can be healed, and repentance, true repentance, is possible. That there is a possibility that sin
may occuer in a relationship is no reason (in itself) to suppress a relationship that begins in love and virtue and could otherwise lead to growth in love and virtue.
Not so. If that were the case then a rapist might simply inform his intended victim what he is about to do. That would not in any way, shape, or form, mitigate what he does.
The question is not mitigation, but the proper end to which communication is ordered. In my (admittedly paltry) attempt at defining an end, the two important concepts are “appropriate” and “needful.” In a relationship characterized by abuse, such as that between a rapist and a victim, the speech of the abuser can never mitigate the inappropriateness of the abusive aspects of the relationship. Because the relationship is inappropriate, it becomes difficult, if not impossible, to communicate what is needful–that is, the speech of an abuser is by nature inappropriate and unable to properly convey what is needful because the abusive nature of the relationship renders it inappropriate. An abuser may say things that are true, but until the relationship is restored to appropriateness in such a way that it can become once more conducive to human dignity and growth, the speech of such a person will always be a casualty of the abuse in the relationship and unable to communicate what is actually needful. Or something like that. Maybe. I don’t know. more thought is needed!
Not everyone wins. Someone has to lose. I wish that it weren’t so.
I don’t think it
is so. No one actually
has to lose–that’s the wonder of the love of God. But one of the great mysteries (and tragedies) of the world is that it seems some would
prefer to lose. Let it be said that I don’t think atheists, by virtue of their atheism, are
necessarily in that category (I wouldn’t like to venture to guess
who is actually in that category). I actually think atheists are closer to apprehending God than many theists who prefer their own image of God to the reality of what God is, falling prey, in the process, to idolatry. in the end, we could all use a little more of the
via negativa in our lives–I think that would serve as a corrective to all of us idolatrous theists as well as to the denying atheists!
Thanks for the conversation, JD.
Under the Mercy,
Mark
All is Grace and Mercy! Deo Gratias!