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Hermione
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This is going to be pretty long, but I would really appreciate your advice about this!
I was received into the Church this Easter Vigil, and this question has been in my mind more and more.
When I went up for Communion, I realized that Jesus was giving Himself to me, and the only worthy thing I can do in return is give Him all of myself.
Right now I am very willing to give all of myself to God, and to do God’s Will in everything. The only problem is that I don’t really know what God wants me to do on a daily basis, or what He wants me to work towards in my life.
I am pretty sure that I am being called to married life. Or rather, I think I’m sure, because I feel very good about the idea of being married and of raising a family. I am engaged, however I met my fiance before I believed in God so I didn’t have a discerment period, and had planned to marry my fiance before I started thinking in terms of my vocation in life. My fiance feels called to marry me, and he has been Catholic all his life. Another reason why I feel it’s right for me to marry my fiance is the fact that being with him has transformed my life. He has brought me to the belief in God, and later to the Catholic Church. And this is no small feat given that I was a product of modern secular culture. http://forum.catholic.com/images/smilies/frown.gif Moreover, being with me has increased HIS faith as well. When I met him he wasn’t a very strong Catholic, but now he is a big inspiration to the people around him. So… I am interpreting all these good things as signs that God is leading me to marry my fiance.
Since I am called to marriage, according to Catholic teaching my primary vocation in life would be to raise a family. Among other things, this would mean having as many children as God wants. My fiance and I are thinking that we will have around 5 children. So, obviously a lot of my life would be spent pregnant, nursing etc. I feel very strongly that people should raise their own children, and I don’t feel that daycare would be the right thing to do. For this reason I think that one or both of us would be staying with the children. I also feel that homeschooling would be a much better option than sending the children to a public or even Catholic school.
My fiance says he feels called to provide for me and our future children. He says it’s the most important thing he can do for our family. I was thinking about what I can do for our family, and I feel that I could contribute a lot by staying at home with the children and most importantly homeschooling them. I feel that our future children could benefit greatly from being homeschooled. I remember going to public school and how I never learned anything there (despite being the best student in the class most of the time). My fiance went to a Catholic school that taught masturbation and other immoral things were okay. My fiance was also in daycare when he was a child, and now he says he wishes his parents were there to teach him et cetera.
Considering all these things, I feel that the best thing for me to do now would be to get educated in all areas so that I would be qualified to teach my children all the things they would otherwise learn in high school. And also to study the Catholic faith in order to be able to teach them correctly.
The only problem is that I’m not sure if this is what God wants me to do. I feel very good about the idea of spending my life learning and teaching my children. (And if any of you read my previous posts, this is a big step. I used to be contaminated by feminist ideologies and did not think very much about stay at home mothers.) At the same time, does feeling good about it mean it’s my vocation?
Aside from my feelings, one reason why I feel that this is the right thing to do is the fact that I feel that I would make a good teacher. I have always earned very high grades in school, and have studied a lot independently. My fiance says that I’m great at explaining concepts to him, he’s said I’ve done it better than his teachers.
In the past I thought of using my talents by going to graduate school and possibly going into research, but while this is still somewhat interesting to me, I don’t feel that it would be very compatible with having around 5 children and raising them in person simply because there wouldn’t be enough time, and also because graduate school is very expensive.
My main question is whether you think God would be pleased with me if right now I started dedicating the greater part of my time and energy to education for the purpose of being qualified to homeschool my children. (I would still take some time to help the poor, especially since I need to make restitution, but the main portion of my time would be geared toward learning and later teaching.)
My main worries would be that God would want me to do more volunteering, as in a way learning seems to be more of a self-serving and entertaining activity.
Thanks again!
I was received into the Church this Easter Vigil, and this question has been in my mind more and more.
When I went up for Communion, I realized that Jesus was giving Himself to me, and the only worthy thing I can do in return is give Him all of myself.
Right now I am very willing to give all of myself to God, and to do God’s Will in everything. The only problem is that I don’t really know what God wants me to do on a daily basis, or what He wants me to work towards in my life.
I am pretty sure that I am being called to married life. Or rather, I think I’m sure, because I feel very good about the idea of being married and of raising a family. I am engaged, however I met my fiance before I believed in God so I didn’t have a discerment period, and had planned to marry my fiance before I started thinking in terms of my vocation in life. My fiance feels called to marry me, and he has been Catholic all his life. Another reason why I feel it’s right for me to marry my fiance is the fact that being with him has transformed my life. He has brought me to the belief in God, and later to the Catholic Church. And this is no small feat given that I was a product of modern secular culture. http://forum.catholic.com/images/smilies/frown.gif Moreover, being with me has increased HIS faith as well. When I met him he wasn’t a very strong Catholic, but now he is a big inspiration to the people around him. So… I am interpreting all these good things as signs that God is leading me to marry my fiance.
Since I am called to marriage, according to Catholic teaching my primary vocation in life would be to raise a family. Among other things, this would mean having as many children as God wants. My fiance and I are thinking that we will have around 5 children. So, obviously a lot of my life would be spent pregnant, nursing etc. I feel very strongly that people should raise their own children, and I don’t feel that daycare would be the right thing to do. For this reason I think that one or both of us would be staying with the children. I also feel that homeschooling would be a much better option than sending the children to a public or even Catholic school.
My fiance says he feels called to provide for me and our future children. He says it’s the most important thing he can do for our family. I was thinking about what I can do for our family, and I feel that I could contribute a lot by staying at home with the children and most importantly homeschooling them. I feel that our future children could benefit greatly from being homeschooled. I remember going to public school and how I never learned anything there (despite being the best student in the class most of the time). My fiance went to a Catholic school that taught masturbation and other immoral things were okay. My fiance was also in daycare when he was a child, and now he says he wishes his parents were there to teach him et cetera.
Considering all these things, I feel that the best thing for me to do now would be to get educated in all areas so that I would be qualified to teach my children all the things they would otherwise learn in high school. And also to study the Catholic faith in order to be able to teach them correctly.
The only problem is that I’m not sure if this is what God wants me to do. I feel very good about the idea of spending my life learning and teaching my children. (And if any of you read my previous posts, this is a big step. I used to be contaminated by feminist ideologies and did not think very much about stay at home mothers.) At the same time, does feeling good about it mean it’s my vocation?
Aside from my feelings, one reason why I feel that this is the right thing to do is the fact that I feel that I would make a good teacher. I have always earned very high grades in school, and have studied a lot independently. My fiance says that I’m great at explaining concepts to him, he’s said I’ve done it better than his teachers.
In the past I thought of using my talents by going to graduate school and possibly going into research, but while this is still somewhat interesting to me, I don’t feel that it would be very compatible with having around 5 children and raising them in person simply because there wouldn’t be enough time, and also because graduate school is very expensive.
My main question is whether you think God would be pleased with me if right now I started dedicating the greater part of my time and energy to education for the purpose of being qualified to homeschool my children. (I would still take some time to help the poor, especially since I need to make restitution, but the main portion of my time would be geared toward learning and later teaching.)
My main worries would be that God would want me to do more volunteering, as in a way learning seems to be more of a self-serving and entertaining activity.
Thanks again!
God Bless