Need advice / ideas on memorial

[Miss_Echo]

Hi y’all,

(I don’t know if I’m putting this in the right forum - if not, I apologise in advance!)

Some of you already know my story, but for those who don’t, here’s the briefest summary I can give about my situation… (gosh, even the summary is quite long, sorry!)

I was supposed to come into the church and receive the sacraments at the Easter Vigil this year. Unfortunately my aunt became critically ill at that time and I had to go to her (clear across the country from where I live) and therefore missed the ceremony, though my catechist assured me they’d do it when I got home, no problem.

While my aunt (my dad’s only sister) was in hospice, my stepmother died unexpectedly, and my aunt died the following day. I will now be going to live with my dad for a few months to try and help him get through all this. It’s been an unbelievable shock to all the family, naturally.

The good news is that my dad’s priest has agreed to give me my first communion/confirmation, with my dad as sponsor!

Now, my aunt and my stepmom were SO supportive of me and so excited about my conversion - they were my greatest cheerleaders, hands down. Both kept expressing to me how much they wished they could attend the ceremony (back when it was supposed to happen at Easter). Both were absolutely fabulous role models of the faith. In fact I chose my confirmation name - Margaret - after my aunt, and she was just thrilled.

I feel like they WILL be with me after all. But I want to honor both of them somehow at the ceremony. I thought of getting 2 little angel pins to wear on my dress to represent them. I don’t know. I just feel it’s so important - these ladies were so very important in my life and my faith formation.

I would greatly appreciate any ideas you can give me.

Thanks & God bless!
Echo :bible1:

 

[CatholicCajun]

I am so sorry for your losses, will keep you and your father in my prayers, if you get the Angel pins, you could get the ones with their birthstones in them, that way it would be more personal, also don’t forget to have Masses said for them. God BLess.

 

[Joannm]

Hi y’all,

(I don’t know if I’m putting this in the right forum - if not, I apologise in advance!)

Some of you already know my story, but for those who don’t, here’s the briefest summary I can give about my situation… (gosh, even the summary is quite long, sorry!)

I was supposed to come into the church and receive the sacraments at the Easter Vigil this year. Unfortunately my aunt became critically ill at that time and I had to go to her (clear across the country from where I live) and therefore missed the ceremony, though my catechist assured me they’d do it when I got home, no problem.

While my aunt (my dad’s only sister) was in hospice, my stepmother died unexpectedly, and my aunt died the following day. I will now be going to live with my dad for a few months to try and help him get through all this. It’s been an unbelievable shock to all the family, naturally.

The good news is that my dad’s priest has agreed to give me my first communion/confirmation, with my dad as sponsor!

Now, my aunt and my stepmom were SO supportive of me and so excited about my conversion - they were my greatest cheerleaders, hands down. Both kept expressing to me how much they wished they could attend the ceremony (back when it was supposed to happen at Easter). Both were absolutely fabulous role models of the faith. In fact I chose my confirmation name - Margaret - after my aunt, and she was just thrilled.

I feel like they WILL be with me after all. But I want to honor both of them somehow at the ceremony. I thought of getting 2 little angel pins to wear on my dress to represent them. I don’t know. I just feel it’s so important - these ladies were so very important in my life and my faith formation.

I would greatly appreciate any ideas you can give me.

Thanks & God bless!
Echo :bible1:

I am sorry for your loss.

I did pick up something in your post that raised a red flag. A parent cannot be a sponsor for his own child, even if that child is an adult. I am surprised that the priest did not know this.