New Catholic, Called to Vocation?

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Hi OPSU,

I’m also a college junior and getting confirmed this Easter. I’m opening my eyes to the possibility of a religious vocation, but right now the thought really scares me! I’ve had three people this week bring up the possibility that I have a religious vocation, and some aspects of religious life are really appealing to me. Mostly, though, the thought just scares me. :o

I’ll be praying for you.

Jesse
 
oh my dear tee :hug3:

you are “discerning but not ready yet”…that is the very definition of discernment!! I’ve been doing it for three years, so don’t you worry about not being ready yet :aok:

In those three years I have come a long way…and now, finally, I am pretty positive that God is calling me to be a nun. YAY!!! haha…actually, the past few days I finally took the plunge and started admitting it to myself (this is probably the scariest part…because it feels like you are making a comittment already).

How did I know?

1- In general, just feeling different. I always have. Not in a judgemental way at all…I just don’t enjoy the partying or dating scene. Not because I think its all bad, but it just doesn’t appeal to me as being “fun”. You feel like you are in this world but not of it, necessarily.

2- Subtle signs (or not so subtle…). A few examples: (3 years ago) watching a documentary about the Missionaries of Charity. Afterwards the professor asked, incredulously, wether any of us could see ourselves doing that. I didn’t even notice my hand had shot up until everyone in the class was staring at me (some where laughing…). I wasn’t even Catholic yet…nor had I even considered becoming one :eek:. The signs grew more obvious…to another example a few days ago…I was watching a youtube video of some sisters taking their vows and tears were pouring downs my face…my heart ached…hurt, actually.

3 - HUNGER…for God. Mass is amazing. Its my favorite time of day. I can’t get enough. At the end I want more…" Is it over already? Nooo!!!" Prayer is something we can do whenever we want…but still, imagine living in a community that is centered around Mass, Prayer, and service. My heart desires Him…in a way I can’t explain.

4 - To quote Mother Theresa when asked how a women knows she is called: " She knows, she knows."

…and it might take a while to admit it, or to confront it…but as someone else told me once, you will be selling yourself short if you are anything less than what you were MADE to be. God has plans for you. Will you say “yes!”…whether its marriage or the religious life?

So…happy discerning! I do hope you are braver and/or more in tune with yourself than I have been. The key to everything: PRAYER!!!
Thanks VanillaBean for sharing your story, but have you thought of your family? won’t you miss them? What about connecting with your community? Do you have any problem?
 
yes…I worry about all of those things. But I realized that there is no sure bet for any of those things not happening. What if you marry a wonderful person and their job requires you to move across the country. The sacrifice of marriage requires this.

Would this not also be the same thing?

You only loose touch with your friends and family if you choose to do so. Personally, I’m only looking a communities on the east coast for that very reason; I want my family to be able to visit me and vice versa. Your friends as well…and now with internet plus letters…communication is not hard.

Community? You’ll be living in one 🙂

I am still struggling with this as well…but it has gotten better over time.
 
I know it’s not the same everywhere, but as a religious sister or brother are you allowed to have a computer and internet?
 
JD88,

In my research I’ve found out that the answer is, at least for some, yes. I know you can use internet and such if your duties in the Church or the order require it. For example, I’ve e-mailed back and forth with a monastery in eastern Oklahoma. So I know some of them have it… And my local parish priest also has internet–I think it’s probably only an issue if you’re in a contemplative monastery setting.

I spoke with my priest over lunch today and determined that in order to be sent to seminary by the archdiocese (or diocese), I have to be Catholic for at least a year. That’s to make sure you know what Catholicism really means and what the priesthood really entails. Makes sense to me. Note that the process for becoming a diocesan priest is different than becoming a priest in an order–example: the Jesuits require that you be Catholic for 3 years before joining their order. They also have a lot of extra steps that they require, which to my knowledge most dioceses don’t require.
 
Well, I’m a guy. So I don’t think I’d make a very good nun. lol…
A Brother is the male equivalent to a nun. I, too, am being confirmed this Easter Vigil and have felt a calling for a while to the religious life but never felt compelled to act on it until I decided to become Catholic…I guess that was one of the larger pieces of the puzzle that needed to be put in place before I could really discern my calling. The suggestion to talk with a vocation director now is a great idea! My diocese has a 5 year wait for converts who feel they are being call to a religious vocation…your diocese may have a similar wait, but take advantage of that time to grow in your faith and get well planted in the Church. Pick the fruit too early and it won’t be good to eat. I am currently speaking with the Dominican Order about my future…so, good luck and God bless you!

Blake
 
another thing…

A woman once thought she was weak, sinful, and and unworthy…but Jesus came forward and told her: “You are, I know, the most incapable person, weak and sinful, but just because your are that, I want to use you for my glory. Wilt thou refuse?” He chooses the weak, the sinful, and the unworthy for His glory. He does not choose those who are worthy, He chooses those of whom it pleases Him to call… God could very well be calling you to a religious vocation like he did this woman. Make sure to listen in silence because God speaks to us in the silence of our hearts…also watch the Fishers of Men video! video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-7888067787359415127

Oh yea, that woman was the Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta!

God bless,
Blake
 
it is often seen that the initial zeal is sometimes very compeling. But one needs to discern the veracity of this zeal. it could be the burning zeal of a person wanting to know more. Priesthood is a vocation which requires lot of discernment. just because there are less vocation to the celebate priesthood it does not mean all of us must jump into it. it is always worthwhile to find a good spiritual director who can discuss and weigh the pro and con of the initial zeal.
though the group which can assist through the discussions on the site may help but it is only virtual help. it is like a person who would try to confess on the net and feel relieved he/she has poured out all that is inside. but what is the result that lurking fear it is not yet over and out.
so may be it is wiser to find a good personal spiritual director on the spot.
wish you all the best
take care
in the divine word,
fr.joseph vaz svd
 
Just because you have to wait to do anything official, does not mean you should hesitate for a moment to ask a lot of questions and visit communities and all that. Even if your call does not pan out, you will meet wonderful people and learn a lot.

I am in formation with a Third Order, and was able to begin the process within a couple months of converting. I believe that part of the reason this was permitted, is that I was really pursuing my own spiritual growth and spiritual direction very seriously even before I converted. I’m one of those people who is always asking questions and noticing details, so it was clear that this was who I really was, and not just initial enthusiasm.

So I’d say to go ahead and throw yourself in to this, making sure that your overall pursuit is of God Himself, rather than one or another group. Look for God everywhere you can find Him, and eventually you will discern through your own bent and the wisdom of others, which particular path to Him God is calling you to follow.

And please do remember that even if it doesn’t turn out as you expect, as long as you are pursuing God, it is all good. It was very freeing for me to realize that even if I had it all wrong about my vocation, the formation is priceless. It’s not a win-lose kind of a deal; it’s win-win!
 
I’ve dealt with catechumens who were converting because they were attracted to religious life. I’ve always said that the Holy Ghost works on attraction, but one thing everyone keeps forgetting is the insight one will receive once Our Lord is actually received in Holy Communion. I tell them to keep up their spiritual journey, but just to keep in mind that once He’s on the “Throne of the Heart,” as I’ve come to call it, He’s in charge, and He might lead you in another direction. The attraction to the religious life is not only to learn more about it–and to start supporting it–but also learn about ways of prayer.

One of these days, I will actually get back to my blogs and I will be blogging about “When is a “Call to Carmel” really a call TO Carmel?” One thing we’re learning is that the “mystagogia” (spiritual journey) is being ignored in many cases by churches and their RCIA programs. If that’s going to be the case, they need to start handing out Fr. O’Sullivan’s book, “An Easy Way to Become a Saint,” which is based on the Little Way of St. Therese. Another recommended book is “The Hermitage Within,” by A Monk.

HTH.

Blessings,
Cloisters
 
Is God calling us to a Devoted Life?
The answer to the above question is a resounding YES. THE SCRIPTURE DESCRIBES who are called and how and why they are called. The entire nation of Israel is called to be God’s own people. (Ex.19:3-6) and to be the light of the nations (Is.42:6). This call is transferred to the Christian community in the New Testament writings, you are a chosen race-------people of God. (1 Pet. 2:9-10).
Often those called are commissioned to carry out special , tasks. Some who are called to specific tasks are very talented. Others are barely gifted. In each case, the call of God demands something specific. The call goes out to commoners like Abraham and Sarah to kings like David and Saul, to prophets like Isaiah and Jeremiah and to apostles like Peter and Paul, to disciples like Samaritan woman and Mary Magdalene. To listen to the specific calls, we need prayerful, listening and discerning hearts.
The divine call can come to us in different ways. God may address this directly (Moses, Aaron, Samuel, Gideon, Amos etc) or through some intermediary as in the case of David or Mary of Nazareth. In the New Testament, this call comes from Jesus him self, or through the Christian community for mission, service and ministries. God always initiates the call, and commissions the called. In spite of the divine assistance, the called is, many times, frightened or ambivalent and experiences limitations. (Peter, Moses, Jeremiah, Isaiah).
Often God does not call the ‘qualified’, but ‘qualifies’ the called. Jesus gave the apostles the power to drive out devils in his name and perform miracles. He breathed out on them the Holy Spirit. The entire called together make up one body of Christ. The Holy Spirit provides gifts and charisms in the community and guides and strengthens every one to perform diverse ministries. The likelihood of suffering and sacrifice are high in those who are called to follow Jesus as his disciples. They are challenged to proclaim and witness to the Reign of God. As disciples of Jesus, His life becomes our life and His mission our Mission.
Every call from God is a person to person call. The first call of God is to existence. Then the call to be ourselves in the particular way of life to which God calls us. So, we need to accept life gratefully as we have it. We need to accept joyfully ourselves with whatever talents or deficiencies we have. We need to accept and celebrate our special calling in married life, to be a married person, to be a single person, a religious or a priest. Besides saying “yes” to existence in general, we must say a personal ‘yes’ to our own existence, to ourselves, which includes our appearance, to personality, character, intelligence, body etc.
To lead a devout life, we need daily to ‘listen to the word of God and live by it’ Blessed Virgin Mary listened and responded to her call: ‘Let it be done to me as you have said’. She also had the habit of ‘storing up all these things in her heart.’ And ‘treasuring all these things and pondering them in her heart’. We need to develop ‘a little discipline’ to make the Gospel the norm of our life, daily to read, reflect and respond to it with contemplative and compassionate hearts. We need to get nourished by the sacraments. We need to grow in spiritual life through reading, reflection and guidance. We need to listen to the promptings of the Holy Spirit and examine daily our life and raise our awareness. We need to discern God’s will for us and make Godly choices. We need to love the church and the humanity. We have to do what is good and what God requires of us….’to do justice, to love mercy and to walk humbly with our God’
Devout life is the fruit of passion- passion for Christ and passion for humanity Blessed Mother Theresa had a passion for Christ and humanity. Radically following Jesus, she ministered to the poorest of the poor.
The youth had a special place in the heart of Jesus as is evident in his encounter with the rich young man. “Jesus looked steadily at him and loved him. (Mark 10:17—). Pope John Paul II had asked the modern youth to “look for Jesus; personally with the eagerness and joy of discovering a friend. Love Jesus; he is not an idea, a sentiment, a memory. Jesus is a person always alive and present with you. Bear witness to Jesus; with the vivacity that is characteristic of your age, with the generous enthusiasm of your of your young heart, walk towards Christ. He alone is the solution to all your problems he alone is the way the truth and the life.”
hope you find some answers to your query here
God bless you
in union with the divine word,
fr. joseph vas svd:thumbsup::)😊
 
UPDATE***

I was confirmed as a member of the Church at the Easter Vigil this past Saturday! 🙂

I’ve also been speaking with a few different orders over the past month or so. The Carmelites have really grabbed my attention and they’re sending a priest here to meet with me later this month or early May. Why are they sending someone out to interview me, when by their own standards I can’t apply to the order for another two years? Is this normal? I realize the call to religious life more and more with each passing day. If I had the chance to join the Carmelites this year, I’m pretty sure I’d do it. I do feel like God is leading me there. But it almost seems like the order is getting a bit… Desperate?
 
UPDATE***

I was confirmed as a member of the Church at the Easter Vigil this past Saturday! 🙂

I’ve also been speaking with a few different orders over the past month or so. The Carmelites have really grabbed my attention and they’re sending a priest here to meet with me later this month or early May. Why are they sending someone out to interview me, when by their own standards I can’t apply to the order for another two years? Is this normal? I realize the call to religious life more and more with each passing day. If I had the chance to join the Carmelites this year, I’m pretty sure I’d do it. I do feel like God is leading me there. But it almost seems like the order is getting a bit… Desperate?
Well, I would meet with the priest. It may depend on your background. Also may depend on where you are with your education (I’m tired today, so maybe missed this in previous posts.) If you were still in college and had a couple of years left -by the time you get to the point of entering seminary, you would have been Catholic for awhile. Like I said - meet with the priest and see what comes of it.

Just have to say WELCOME HOME!!!
 
Don’t ask too many questions about technicalities 🙂 Just receive the priest with hospitality and enjoy the visit!

I was reconstructing some of my initial call with the person I do formation with, and I had forgotten how much they had been slowly feeding me before I was even Catholic. I had no formal visit until two months after confirmation, but I spent a lot of time asking questions before then.

So I don’t think you need to worry about formal vs. informal and timing and all that. You;ll figure it out as you go along.

Welcome Home!
 
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