So if there were a decision to approve the consecration of the state of widowhood, it had to come from The Holy See?
My husband is considerably older than I am and now has a terminal disease, so there’s a real possibility I will be starting a life on my own in a few years and I’m close, but not 50 yet. I pray for his healing and a miracle cure every day but I also know that sorrow like this is the norm in life, not the exception. And sacred, beautiful moments can come from it. I have experienced a boatload already. I’m talking enough fish to break the net.
I will not remarry. I love The Church, she is my mother!. The widowed women in my area that devote their time to prayer and parish life are my heroes. Mary, living out her years on earth thinking about all that happened in her life…my hero!

I have been looking at the various secular orders, third orders, a little confusing there, looking at Carmelite spirituality.
This is a gift from God, it’s a calling to be caring for my husband of 23 years in the end of his life and the calling after that is to be a widow with no intention to remarry.
I love the idea of some kind of Order of Consecrated Widow. I also love seeing the countless widows already living out this life as a natural progression.
Has it not been taken up because perhaps widowhood is just part of life? I mean, ultimately, forgoing a circumstance where both spouses die at the same time, there is one or the other left behind. My pragmatic widowed parish members might not like the idea of drawing attention to their state in life in the form of a consecration.
Thanks for the topic. Sorry for the long winded reply. It has been a quiet, snowy day here, lots of time for ruminating!:coffeeread: