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rayne89
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I wirtten about my friend in New Jersey quite a while back who has an abuseive husband. Well now he’s began beating her son instead of her. The police believed her husband the last time it happened that their son has frequent nose bleeds (when he was actually bleeding from being hit in the face) and her husband convinced the cops that my friend has mental problems. They told her the next time the cops are called they are just taking the kids. Her family is worse than useless, they were beat as kids so her family doesn’t see it as a big deal. It just happened again and she doesn’t know where to turn.
It has gotten so bad for her, she has no access to money, he changed the password on the computer so she has no access to that, everytime she leaves the house he beats her son -so she can not work to get moeny to leave. The one time she had some money saved up, he found out about it and refused to buy groceries so the kids had nothing to eat. She had to use her money to buy food for the kids -which he knew she would do.
She tried calling the legal assistance number I found for her county and they never called back. I spent almost two hours convincing her to call an emergency shelter to go to. I finally managed to and she called just me back all upset because the woman who answered wanted to know why she needed to come to the shelter. When she revealed her husband was hitting their son the woman wanted all her information and told her had to call dyfs (child protective services). She hung up on the woman.
My friend was a victim of sexual abuse as a child and is deathly afraid of her children being abused if they are put in foster care. I have run out of solutions for her to try and she feels utterly hopeless and alone. They always say women need to get the courage to leave but when they try they get cut off at every turn. Her husband is military and she tried getting help from them only to get yelled at for trying to get her husband in trouble and wasting their time. Her husband is a pathological liar and extremely convincing. My friend has a very hard time swallowing her pride and asking for help and everytime she has got up the courage to try, she gets nothing.
I had to hang up with her with no more answers. She is getting tired of reaching out for help and finding another dead end. I’m afraid she’s going to end up a on the 6 o’clock news if she doesn’t get out of there. Does anyone in New Jersey (she’s in Ocean county) know of where she can get help without losing her kids? She said to me she has no one to even hug. It broke my heart. If we were still in New Jersey we would have got her out of that mess along time ago.
It has gotten so bad for her, she has no access to money, he changed the password on the computer so she has no access to that, everytime she leaves the house he beats her son -so she can not work to get moeny to leave. The one time she had some money saved up, he found out about it and refused to buy groceries so the kids had nothing to eat. She had to use her money to buy food for the kids -which he knew she would do.
She tried calling the legal assistance number I found for her county and they never called back. I spent almost two hours convincing her to call an emergency shelter to go to. I finally managed to and she called just me back all upset because the woman who answered wanted to know why she needed to come to the shelter. When she revealed her husband was hitting their son the woman wanted all her information and told her had to call dyfs (child protective services). She hung up on the woman.
My friend was a victim of sexual abuse as a child and is deathly afraid of her children being abused if they are put in foster care. I have run out of solutions for her to try and she feels utterly hopeless and alone. They always say women need to get the courage to leave but when they try they get cut off at every turn. Her husband is military and she tried getting help from them only to get yelled at for trying to get her husband in trouble and wasting their time. Her husband is a pathological liar and extremely convincing. My friend has a very hard time swallowing her pride and asking for help and everytime she has got up the courage to try, she gets nothing.
I had to hang up with her with no more answers. She is getting tired of reaching out for help and finding another dead end. I’m afraid she’s going to end up a on the 6 o’clock news if she doesn’t get out of there. Does anyone in New Jersey (she’s in Ocean county) know of where she can get help without losing her kids? She said to me she has no one to even hug. It broke my heart. If we were still in New Jersey we would have got her out of that mess along time ago.
