NFP and marital bliss

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Is it true that couples using NFP report more satisfaction with their marital relations?

I remember seeing some kind of a statistic somewhere, but I can’t find it. Who can get me some good links to prove to me that NFP couples have a more satisfying bedroom life?
 
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heliumspark:
Is it true that couples using NFP report more satisfaction with their marital relations?

I remember seeing some kind of a statistic somewhere, but I can’t find it. Who can get me some good links to prove to me that NFP couples have a more satisfying bedroom life?
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I don’t have the statistics for you, but YES, I can vouch for that report that couples that use NFP do have awesome “bedroom life”, and lots of it.😃
 
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Jennie:
I don’t have the statistics for you, but YES, I can vouch for that report that couples that use NFP do have awesome “bedroom life”, and lots of it.😃
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Ditto 👋
 
Triple ditto, but I should point out that while we have been tracking temps, etc. we have never actually made any decisions one way or another and just followed our instincts regarding the marital act. BUT the process of learning NFP brought me into direct study of the Church’s teaching which I accept fully and because of that, we have no fear or guilt which has vastly improved the marriage.

Scott
 
I wish I could say that was true!

Unfortunately my husband and I are having many difficulties with our marital sexual bond right now. It is a serious source of frustration and disappointment.
 
I have heard quoted statistics which claim to support the premise that couples who practice NFP have a dramatically lower divorce rate than the average population, though I am unaware of the source of those figures. It would seem logical that couples so obedient to a Church which discourages divorce and forbids remarriage would experience low divorce rates. However, I’m not sure this establishes a correlation with a satisfactory sex life. I am also unsure whether anyone who practices ABC would post anything on this forum about the wonders of their satisfying sex life. In addition to offending almost all regulars, the post would undoubtedly be locked down.
 
No need to offend. NFP requires that couples communicate constantly, curb selfishness, explore creative, non-sexual ways of showing love to each other during times of abstinence, and continously bond as couples spiritually and emotionally, as well as physically.

It should be no surprise that such mutual consideration, respect, and receptivity to all aspects of one’s spouse, including his or her fertility, should find a corollary (if not an effect) in a passionate and satisfying “marital embrace.”

Because NFP is viewed so cynically and negatively by our culture, there should be no reason why practitioners should not (tastefully and with discretion) witness to the joy it has brought them.
 
Scott Waddell:
Triple ditto, but I should point out that while we have been tracking temps, etc. we have never actually made any decisions one way or another and just followed our instincts regarding the marital act. BUT the process of learning NFP brought me into direct study of the Church’s teaching which I accept fully and because of that, we have no fear or guilt which has vastly improved the marriage.

Scott
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My husband and I are going through the process of convalidation. I was angry when the priest said we would have to go through the six month waiting period as an engaged couple would. We have a five month old daughter so we could not exactly move out, so we were asked to live as brother and sister. We have been living as brother and sister since the middle of february when we met with the priest. I at first only was doing it because we were asked to. Well on tuesday morning I went to mass and the priest gave a homily on waiting for things. He said alot of us are impatient and dont understand why we have to wait for things, but that we need to trust in the Lord because he obviously has a reason for it that we do not know of at the time. I went home and I prayed and asked the Lord what was it that he wanted us to have this preperation for and in my heart I knew it was because I needed to know the true meaning of this sacrament. I also noticed that I had still not read my book by Christopher West called Theology of the Body for Beginners. It was so beautiful. I wish I would have read this book a long time ago. I learned so many things that I never knew. I strongly suggest that people read this especially those people who are considering having sex before marriage or for those who dont understand why contraception and sex before marriage is wrong.

After reading this, I can understand why sex is better between a couple who practices NFP.

God Bless,
Kerri
 
Island Oak - I think I misread the last part of your post. You were referring to ABC users, not NFP-ers.
 
I definitely concur with the above post (I’m still single so I can’t comment on the rest :o ). I highly recommend anything by Cristopher West on Theology of the Body. Reading these posts have supported nicely what I have read. You’re all very blessed.
 
I’m Catholic. My wife is Jewish. We have always use the Billings Mucus Method. In our town, everyone knows everything about everyone. Over-the-backyard-fence conversations verified who was using what respecting birth control.

At first, after we moved in years ago, the initial reaction was, “Oh, poor Mrs. BibleReader! Mr. BibleReader is a devout Catholic who insists on using NFP!”

At this point, 25 years later, we are the envy of the neighborhood. We clearly have the happiest, most sexual marriage. We still hug like newlyweds. Neighbors remark, “They’re always happy!”

And, believe me, the sex is great.
 
Personally, I thought it was the pits. This is not an argument about the Church being right or wrong. It’s just that it takes two people to practice NFP. My husband had no self-discipline whatever in this area, so I just ended up having miscarriages when the doctor said I shouldn’t be pregnant because I needed to build up my health first. I thought it was kind of like going to hell and back, and it still bothers me years later. I used to always envy people who could happily use NFP and get it to work.
 
I wholeheartily agree! Before, our relations were purely a selfish thing for both of us, and I would get really frustrated when my wife didn’t ‘feel like it’. Now, through periodic abstinance and an increase in communication, we enjoy the physical intamacy even more, and I have learned to appreciate waiting.
 
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