NFP users and frequency of relations

[kat71]

I am curious about the frequency of relations of other NFP users. In my marriage there is one of us who is complaining that there is not enough, the other wishes not so much. I just wanted to know what others do or what others consider normal or average.

 

[kristalyn]

Of course it’s going to be different for everyone…and even within a marriage itself, one person may feel happy with the frequency while the other does not.

That said, we average …hmmmm…off for about 5 days at the start of a cycle, then maybe once or so before we get into fertile territory, and since we’re trying NOT to conceive right now, we abstain (as best we can!!) for about a week. Then for the last 2 weeks, we average 2 times each week.

This is hard to say. Sometimes it’s 3 or 4 times in a week…although then sleep deprivation kicks in!! Sometimes we are together 0 times in those 2 weeks before a new cycle starts.

What matters most is that both spouses find a way to be happy with each other. The numbers don’t matter.

 

[Grayton]

It’s going to vary with individual situations: children or no children and how many, work schedules, sleep patterns, age, length of marriage, and so on and so forth, etc. etc. etc.

But I think that if the couple is abstining from relations during the fertile period, it kinda goes against the whole spirit of NFP to try to compensate by overdoing things during the infertile periods. Relations during those periods should not be a burden. They should just be at the “normal” pace for the couple.

It would be like overeating after a day of fasting. When the fast is over, you should just go back to normal eating.