Niece Kiss Husband on Cheek

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Hi, we come from a family of cheek kissers from our culture and my niece is in her twenties and pretty and when we have family gatherings she greets my husband with a kiss on the cheek recently. My husband is a decent man and I trust him but I feel uncomfortable and I feel the enemy is trying to put things in my head that aren’t there. None have given any indication that this normal custom should be cause for concern.
With that said I wondered what other married Catholics would say regarding this, innocent enough to ignore or if it’s inappropriate how to end this custom? Thank you to everyone. Sincerely.
 
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definitely innocent so ignore. I have european friends who greet just about everyone with a kiss or kisses on the cheek.
 
Definitely innocent. In fact, if you look across the point of history, it was more American (and later ages) that have a phobia on kiss on the cheek for someone close.

We in fact have a term for it: the Kiss of peace. We just replace it with "sign of peace, first with Pax, and then later, just shake hands and etc.

Which is also a reason why Judas Kiss is such a betrayal. He didn’t do it because suddenly gone indecent. He did it because it’s an action reserved for those in close relationship, such as family or family like group, and he perverted it.
 
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Hi, we come from a family of cheek kissers from our culture and my niece is in her twenties and pretty and when we have family gatherings she greets my husband with a kiss on the cheek recently. My husband is a decent man and I trust him but I feel uncomfortable and I feel the enemy is trying to put things in my head that aren’t there. None have given any indication that this normal custom should be cause for concern.
With that said I wondered what other married Catholics would say regarding this, innocent enough to ignore or if it’s inappropriate how to end this custom? Thank you to everyone. Sincerely.
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A niece kissing her uncle on the cheek.

How is this even remotely considered questionable behaviour?
 
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With that said I wondered what other married Catholics would say regarding this, innocent enough to ignore or if it’s inappropriate how to end this custom?
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Wouldn’t sweat it. Since you ask here though, I wonder if you asked your husband. Just talking to him might make you feel better.
 
If this is part of your culture, then I’m presuming the whole family does it and there is nothing special about this niece doing it.

I’d suggest talking with your husband if you have some concern that’s making you look for signs of cheating going on here.
 
I remember Raging Bull and others kissing the dude’s wife
 
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she greets my husband with a kiss on the cheek recently
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Doesn’t sound worrisome to me.

Did she not kiss his cheek in the past?

In your family, is cheek kissing something that adults do, but not children or teens?

Maybe the niece is just doing like the other adults now that she is grown up.
 
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Be impressed that in this day and age in her 20s that she retained a cultural form of endearment.
 
It’s just a cultural form of greeting. Nothing to worry about.
 
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If you feel the evil one is putting thoughts in your head say a Hail Mary, when she does it.

Thisis a common greeting as others posted, and innocent.
 
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You say you are a family of cheek kissers so it sounds as though this is a cultural norm for your family as it is for many. The act in itself is not abnormal. So have a think what is bothering you… Does she great you the same way? How does your niece greet other men? or other woman? How do other woman in the family both single and married greet your husband? and how do these greetings differ? and do they make you feel uneasy

If they all greet your husband and you with kisses and you feel fine about it - except her… then ask yourself why? is it jealousy? because she’s pretty etc. Does she do it differently? Personally I’d say any of these thoughts are worth going to confession over because like you say, it could be the enemy trying to put temptation in there and the best way to put paid to that is telling your confessor all about it. That and in the meantime prayers to Mary, your guardian angel and Jesus of course.
If you don’t think it’s jealousy or any temptations (confession still wont hurt just to make sure) then have a quiet word with hubby and/or get a good friend to check your suspicions it could be that a young girl has just gotten carried away with a little crush that could get nipped in the bud before any harm is done ( as you say your trust your husband). I wouldn’t try end the custom as you put it, especially as that’s likely to stir up a fuss in the whole family and perhaps unnecessary embarrassment and shame, but keep praying and see how it goes observing, then acting as you feel called to act. let God lead you in this.
Good luck
 
Are you having increased anxiety in general? Sometimes, when life is particularly hard or painful, we get set off by something we know is silly, but we can’t help it (like handling a major grief gracefully, then crying over lost car keys!)
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I see nothing that could be problematic.

In fact It is a cultural question.

It could be not usually the case in the US, but in my contry (France) Kisses on the cheek is the norm in the family and between friends,

You are the only person who can deternine if the niece has a bad intention, or a sexual one, we don’t know her.
 
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