No communion for a year is rough

[Casilda]

Its that I have been trying to go back to the Church. I contacted a parish that had a school and convent attached. I never got called back by either one. That left me drifting as a young adult. Then I got invited to a Baptist church by my supervisor. I was Baptist until I married my husband. He was willing to try RCIA with me this past summer but something just awful happened at one parish and now he will not consider the Catholic church at all. He is going to an eastern orthodox. I can no longer go there. I see the two churches as one, eastern orthodox and Roman Catholic. The more I study the more I see that the Roman Catholics are more like the older, mature brother, and the eastern orthodox as the younger brother. In the eastern orthodox I am not even seen as a Christian. At least in the Catholic church, having already been baptized and formed a Catholic (catechism, first Holy Communion) I am a Catholic. I have identity, yet I am not ‘fully’ formed. I tried starting an RCIA class last year but the deacon in charge never called me back. I called and left several messages

I think I will try that one again, I was attending daily mass there with my friend and it just felt like home. I cry when I read the story of the prodigal son, how he was welcomed back home after a life of debauchery. I didnt lead such a life, yet I have struggled so to get back into the church. Something is definitely missing in these RCIA/adult confirmation programs.

 

[HeadingBackHome]

Its that I have been trying to go back to the Church. I contacted a parish that had a school and convent attached. I never got called back by either one. That left me drifting as a young adult. Then I got invited to a Baptist church by my supervisor. I was Baptist until I married my husband. He was willing to try RCIA with me this past summer but something just awful happened at one parish and now he will not consider the Catholic church at all. He is going to an eastern orthodox. I can no longer go there. I see the two churches as one, eastern orthodox and Roman Catholic. The more I study the more I see that the Roman Catholics are more like the older, mature brother, and the eastern orthodox as the younger brother. In the eastern orthodox I am not even seen as a Christian. At least in the Catholic church, having already been baptized and formed a Catholic (catechism, first Holy Communion) I am a Catholic. I have identity, yet I am not ‘fully’ formed. I tried starting an RCIA class last year but the deacon in charge never called me back. I called and left several messages

I think I will try that one again, I was attending daily mass there with my friend and it just felt like home. I cry when I read the story of the prodigal son, how he was welcomed back home after a life of debauchery. I didnt lead such a life, yet I have struggled so to get back into the church. Something is definitely missing in these RCIA/adult confirmation programs.

Okey, I didnt knew how difficult it is for you. After so many obstacles you havent given up and Your eager to come back home is admirable. God Bless you on Your Journey,I will dedicate my evening Rosary to you.

Keep on calling them and go talk to Your priest and you will eventually succeed.
Welcome Home My friend and God Bless you on Your Journey. Never give up

 

[PennyinCanada]

Thank you for sharing this. I am a reverting Catholic after 44 yrs away from the church and have spent 3yrs attempting conversion in an eastern orthodox church, but suffering spiritually. When I visit a Catholic church I am not agonizing, so I decided to go back home and my heart feels hopeful. I guess I need to find a sponsor/mentor/ and still have to talk to a priest.

Have you been to an Eastern Rite parish? They are under the Pope and are Catholic, but the Liturgy is just the same as the Orthodox, if you love the Liturgy.

 

[Casilda]

I am a TLMer, I love the Latin rite/Roman rite. I have covered all the bases, I have visited an eastern Catholic parish AND a western-rite Orthodox parish. I am Latin, and I am Catholic.

 

[PJM]

=HeadingBackHome;11255234]Yes I’m a baptized Protestant (for now) and I have been talking to my priest about it, but I’m not allowed to go to confession before I’m in ful communion with the church.
Where I’m from its like the confession is the last thing you do before you enter the church. I would like so much to confess regardless of communion as well.
I have mortal sins of a lifetime hanging on my shoulders
It’s a heavy burden to bear until April

Thanks for your (name removed by moderator)ut on the matter my friend
God Bless you!

Dear friend;

Please know that GOD accepts your intent to Do what He say’s is RIGHT.

God will NOT allow “form & practice” to convict you. He WILL Judge your hearts intent.

So be patient; do what your priest advises and DON"T worry: God loves you:thumbsup:

PRAY much!

God Bless you,
Patrick

 

[QNDNNDQDCE]

Yes I’m a baptized Protestant (for now) and I have been talking to my priest about it, but I’m not allowed to go to confession before I’m in ful communion with the church.

Well, that doesn’t make a lot of sense. The sacrament of confession is how you enter into full communion with the Church. What the priest must of said or intended is that he wants to make sure you receive a suitable level of instruction before offering the sacraments to you. I don’t think everyone should be put through RCIA, but that should be decided on a case-by-case basis. Whatever the priest decides, I guess you need to follow what he says. At least you will appreciate the sacraments more when you are allowed to receive them.

 

[ProVobis]

Where I’m from its like the confession is the last thing you do before you enter the church. I would like so much to confess regardless of communion as well.
I have mortal sins of a lifetime hanging on my shoulders
It’s a heavy burden to bear until April

As well as you should. But remember an act of perfect contrition with intention to confess at your first opportunity absolves you from mortal sin as well.

And don’t feel like an outsider because you don’t receive communion. The Mass itself has plenty of graces that one can obtain. If it really bothers you, I’d suggest a Spanish or Polish Mass where many others don’t receive communion (either).

 

[jmcrae]

Well, that doesn’t make a lot of sense. The sacrament of confession is how you enter into full communion with the Church. What the priest must of said or intended is that he wants to make sure you receive a suitable level of instruction before offering the sacraments to you. I don’t think everyone should be put through RCIA, but that should be decided on a case-by-case basis. Whatever the priest decides, I guess you need to follow what he says. At least you will appreciate the sacraments more when you are allowed to receive them.

After three periods of Formation. If the priest decides that you are ready before the formal periods of Formation are completed, then that’s fine, but it’s not up to us lay people to override his decision if he is choosing for the person to become fully Formed before offering the Sacraments. If nothing else, it is a school of obedience, if you are one of the few who knows all there is to know, yet the priest can’t see it. Even Scott Hahn had to go through RCIA, and most people are not Scott Hahn.

 

[PJM]

=QNDNNDQDCE;11257486]Well, that doesn’t make a lot of sense. The sacrament of confession is how you enter into full communion with the Church. What the priest must of said or intended is that he wants to make sure you receive a suitable level of instruction before offering the sacraments to you. I don’t think everyone should be put through RCIA, but that should be decided on a case-by-case basis. Whatever the priest decides, I guess you need to follow what he says. At least you will appreciate the sacraments more when you are allowed to receive them.

I agree,

Having taught RCIA for 3 years and knowing that our priest heard Confession “General and personal”] long before entry into the church.

I suspect wants to make sure one understands what sisns ARE and at least about the nature of sin before hearing Confessions?

God Bless you,
Patrick

 

[m134e5]

The wait will give you time to prepare. You will have many opportunities to learn more about the Faith over the next several months. You will also have plenty of time to strengthen your prayer life. I was where you are eleven years ago, and your post made me think back on those times and how I felt as you do. By focusing on prayer in anticipation of the Sacraments, I prepared myself to keep practicing my faith even when it was very difficult. Spend the coming months devoted to prayer and learning all you can about the Church- it well help you in the future more than you can imagine right now.

 

[Contra_Mundum_1]

Thank you for sharing this. I am a reverting Catholic after 44 yrs away from the church and have spent 3yrs attempting conversion in an eastern orthodox church, but suffering spiritually. When I visit a Catholic church I am not agonizing, so I decided to go back home and my heart feels hopeful. I guess I need to find a sponsor/mentor/ and still have to talk to a priest.

That’s great

The hardest thing - decision to go back - has been done.

Best of luck with what comes next.