No one understands me, no one supports me

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I come from a non practicant family. I converted by myself. My father once called me a fanatic, my brother is an atheist and my mother is a more complicated cause. She goes to Mass but I think she is doing it for me but, when I told her that tomorrow (8th of Decembre) we had to go because it’s a feast day she said she wouldn’t go because she was busy and lazy to go at the 8 AM Mass. I warned her but she won’t come. Later at home she argued with dad and she said that was tired of asking God to do something about it and I told her that she was someone who ask God for things just for benefit and don’t obbey him or really love him (something that the Priest mentioned today at the homily).
When I came home, a friend of us who came for dinner said that he’ll support me but if I became a priest he’d kick me in the balls as a joke. Even though I don’t wanna be a priest I hate that people think that being a teenager and going to Mass means that you’ll be a priest.
About my friends, none of them are practicant except for my Confirmation godfather that just started to come to Mass every sunday and another friend of mine who I don’t really see that much.
Now I feel alone, unsupported and I am in a bad relationship with my mother. I just feel miserable.
 
I’m so sorry to read the troubles you are experiencing. I wonder if people say and do these mean things because they are secretly jealous that you have strong faith and they do not. They certainly do not understand faith. Try to stay strong. Do not let them get to you or bring you down. I’m praying for you, and for those trying to make your life miserable. God help us!
 
christofirst said:
I’m so sorry to read the troubles you are experiencing. I wonder if people say and do these mean things because they are secretly jealous that you have strong faith and they do not. They certainly do not understand faith. Try to stay strong. Do not let them get to you or bring you down. I’m praying for you, and for those trying to make your life miserable. God help us!
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Thanks for praying for me. I apologised to my mother and I will talk to her to explain her that I do those things because I care for her and I don’t want her to sin. I feel really bad for what I told her.
 
I come from a non practicant family. I converted by myself. My father once called me a fanatic, my brother is an atheist and my mother is a more complicated cause. She goes to Mass but I think she is doing it for me but, when I told her that tomorrow (8th of Decembre) we had to go because it’s a feast day she said she wouldn’t go because she was busy and lazy to go at the 8 AM Mass. I warned her but she won’t come. Later at home she argued with dad and she said that was tired of asking God to do something about it and I told her that she was someone who ask God for things just for benefit and don’t obbey him or really love him (something that the Priest mentioned today at the homily).
When I came home, a friend of us who came for dinner said that he’ll support me but if I became a priest he’d kick me in the balls as a joke. Even though I don’t wanna be a priest I hate that people think that being a teenager and going to Mass means that you’ll be a priest.
About my friends, none of them are practicant except for my Confirmation godfather that just started to come to Mass every sunday and another friend of mine who I don’t really see that much.
Now I feel alone, unsupported and I am in a bad relationship with my mother. I just feel miserable.
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I am in a similar situation and I totally relate. it can be discouraging and lonely. I’m sorry you are going through such a difficult time.
Think of it this way despite the fact you are surrounded by people who are not practicing, God has given you the gift of faith. Isn’t that a wondering blessing ? 🙂
Pray for your friends and family and trust God to lead you through it all, in His plan for your life. It may be difficult now but it could be a blessing in disguise- your struggles may help you appreciate the faith more, help your family and friends encounter Christ through you when they see how your conversion has changed you to become more Christ-like and how strong your faith is.
I’ll be praying for you!
 
ChikaisHis said:
I am in a similar situation and I totally relate. it can be discouraging and lonely. I’m sorry you are going through such a difficult time.
Think of it this way despite the fact you are surrounded by people who are not practicing, God has given you the gift of faith. Isn’t that a wondering blessing ? 🙂
Pray for your friends and family and trust God to lead you through it all, in His plan for your life. It may be difficult now but it could be a blessing in disguise- your struggles may help you appreciate the faith more, help your family and friends encounter Christ through you when they see how your conversion has changed you to become more Christ-like and how strong your faith is.
I’ll be praying for you!
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Thanks for the prayers and the support. I appologised to my mother and we are OK now. She still won’t go tomorrow. She says she feels OK with herself and has no time to go to Mass. Pray for me and my family please.
 
I congratulate you and hope to encourage you in your quest for Love, Hope, Righteousness, Truth, Peace, Joy, and Purity.
I offer the conclusion of the prayer attributed to St Francis, which I pray very frequently:

O Divine Master, Grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console;
To be understood as to understand;
To be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

I think mostly God asks us to keep doing the best we can, and to keep trying to improve.
 
  • You are not alone.
  • Pick up a book by Scott and Kimberly Hahn - Rome Sweet Home: Our Journey to Catholicism. It tells the story of their conversion… talking about losing everything and not having a support group.
  • Next, read the Book of Job.
  • Finally, go have a good sitdown talk with your Pastor and Youth Minister, These two will be able to get you into the youth groups and provide some much needed support.
St. Michael the Archangel,
defend us in battle.
Be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the Devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray,
and do thou,
O Prince of the heavenly hosts,
by the power of God,
thrust into hell Satan,
and all the evil spirits,
who prowl about the world
seeking the ruin of souls. Amen…

-z
 
Thanks a lot for all the support and prayers. Have a Grace-filled day and God Bless you all.
 
I recommend a classic of the faith Imitation of Christ, Thomas A Kempis, available online in various free forms, bookstore or ebook. Its not a large book.

I’m in the 3rd section. Along the way it deals with many aspects of your journey in subtle but profound ways. It has helped mine. To even attempt to summarize it would do it a disservice.

I prayed for you.
 
Does your mother really understand what she is doing? The devil, hell, etc. No fun. Maybe she doesn’t really think of it. I had relatives who wouldn’t go to Mass, and they are all dead now. (They died of physical illnesses. The devil didn’t kill them.) I often wonder where they are. I hope they made it. We survivors (my sister and myself) had them all anointed upon knowing they were going to die. They were unconscious. They were anointed, but not cognizant of what was happening. These were people that simply didn’t want to go to Mass. Period. Never. Ever.

I often wondered about the void in their lives.
 
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