J
joyfulandactive
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I married my husband 22 years ago and we are happily married. My husband was raised Catholic and his parents divorced when he and his sister were in their 20s. I didn’t realise until we were married that the divorce had been so recent and had only happened quite soon before we got married.
We met at a Catholic college on the East Coast and my husband is from California. I am from another country. We got married in my home country because I was going to emigrate and about 10 members of his family came, although his father did not.
Our whole marriage I have never felt that his family have tried to get to know me or befriend me. Initially I did all I could to be kind and friendly. His father in particular has always been very judgmental and my husband does not have much of a relationship with him. He and his second wife do send us cards during the year which are very pious stressing how Catholic they are and criticizing us in a passive aggressive way. It makes us both very uncomfortable. We therefore don’t have much of a relationship. We also lived in another country for a number of years when our children were small.
I don’t see our relationship changing, especially as my father in law likes to constantly remind us that he thinks he is a better Catholic.
I am not sure what kind of answers I am looking for but it makes me feel so uncomfortable and unaccepted that he is always judging us and criticizing us. We have ended up living in another state as my husband did not want to be close to his family. Obviously my father in law is now in his 70s so I don’t expect anything to change.
We met at a Catholic college on the East Coast and my husband is from California. I am from another country. We got married in my home country because I was going to emigrate and about 10 members of his family came, although his father did not.
Our whole marriage I have never felt that his family have tried to get to know me or befriend me. Initially I did all I could to be kind and friendly. His father in particular has always been very judgmental and my husband does not have much of a relationship with him. He and his second wife do send us cards during the year which are very pious stressing how Catholic they are and criticizing us in a passive aggressive way. It makes us both very uncomfortable. We therefore don’t have much of a relationship. We also lived in another country for a number of years when our children were small.
I don’t see our relationship changing, especially as my father in law likes to constantly remind us that he thinks he is a better Catholic.
I am not sure what kind of answers I am looking for but it makes me feel so uncomfortable and unaccepted that he is always judging us and criticizing us. We have ended up living in another state as my husband did not want to be close to his family. Obviously my father in law is now in his 70s so I don’t expect anything to change.
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