not married in the church

[Pinkyyy]

hi, I am a Lutheran and my husband was born Catholic. We were civially married, and I have gone through RCIA, but my husband does not see the need to be blessed in the church (he goes to church and believes in God, but he doesn’t necessarily follow the Catholic “rules”). When I went through RCIA I couldn’t enter the church because we weren’t blessed. It has been a few years since I have been through RCIA.

My thing is I am thinking of going back to my old church because I can’t receive communion, etc. I can’t fully be involved with masses and other things in the church.

What if God forbid something happens to me and I am not able to go through confession (b/c) I am not Catholic - will God hold that against me?

 

[rpp]

hi, I am a Lutheran and my husband was born Catholic. We were civially married, and I have gone through RCIA, but my husband does not see the need to be blessed in the church (he goes to church and believes in God, but he doesn’t necessarily follow the Catholic “rules”). When I went through RCIA I couldn’t enter the church because we weren’t blessed. It has been a few years since I have been through RCIA.

My thing is I am thinking of going back to my old church because I can’t receive communion, etc. I can’t fully be involved with masses and other things in the church.

What if God forbid something happens to me and I am not able to go through confession (b/c) I am not Catholic - will God hold that against me?

You can inquire about a “Sanation”. A sanation is exactly for your situation, a married convert whose spouse refuses to consent to have the marriage convalidated. It is basically a statement that says your civil marriage is presumed valid in the eyes of the Church.

I know about this because I had to go through this when I converted. My (now ex-) wife was an atheist/agnostic and would not consent to a convalidation either. As your priest or contact your diocesan Tribunal. The process usually takes only a few weeks, then you will be all set.

The Church would never let a third-party keep you out of the Church. May God bless you.

 

[rpp]

Oh! And welcome to CAF!

 

[benedictgal]

hi, I am a Lutheran and my husband was born Catholic. We were civially married, and I have gone through RCIA, but my husband does not see the need to be blessed in the church (he goes to church and believes in God, but he doesn’t necessarily follow the Catholic “rules”). When I went through RCIA I couldn’t enter the church because we weren’t blessed. It has been a few years since I have been through RCIA.

My thing is I am thinking of going back to my old church because I can’t receive communion, etc. I can’t fully be involved with masses and other things in the church.

What if God forbid something happens to me and I am not able to go through confession (b/c) I am not Catholic - will God hold that against me?

You need to ask yourself a few things. First and foremost, what drew you to the True Church, founded by Jesus Christ, Himself? People walked away from Jesus becasue his teachings, especially those on marriage, were too much for them to bear. They walked away because his teachings on the fact that His Body is true Food and his Blood is True Drink were too hard for them to swallow. Jesus asked Peter if he, too, was going to leave. The Prince of the Apostles replied, “Lord, to whom should we go? You have the words of everlasting life.”

Second, you need to call your pastor and make an appointment to discuss this situation. Perhaps your husband doesn’t realize that he, moreso now, is obligated to make this right. What he doesn’t understand is his immortal soul is at stake.

Please pray over this. God is calling you to be a member of His Church. Satan is putting roadblocks that are not insurmountable, unless you let frustration get in the way. Please, please see a priset as soon as possible.

 

[Br.Rich_SFO]

hi, I am a Lutheran and my husband was born Catholic. We were civially married, and I have gone through RCIA, but my husband does not see the need to be blessed in the church (he goes to church and believes in God, but he doesn’t necessarily follow the Catholic “rules”). When I went through RCIA I couldn’t enter the church because we weren’t blessed. It has been a few years since I have been through RCIA.

My thing is I am thinking of going back to my old church because I can’t receive communion, etc. I can’t fully be involved with masses and other things in the church.

What if God forbid something happens to me and I am not able to go through confession (b/c) I am not Catholic - will God hold that against me?

Before abandoning ship. Why don’t you speak with your pastor about Convalidation together, or ask him about Radical Sanation when one party does not wish to participate in the convalidation. Only he will know if the second option applies to your situation.