Novena and received sign of a good relationship but felt led to let it go? What went wrong?

[RoseJ]

Hi! I recently broke up with my boyfriend of about a year and a half because I felt for the last couple months that my heart wasn’t in it anymore, even though he was my best friend. I felt that the relationship somehow wasn’t enough (it was long distance) even though we did our best–talked every day, visited once a month, and made time for each other. We had talked about moving towards marriage.

Before we’d started dating, I did a novena and asked for a rose of a certain color. I know, it might be silly and you don’t want to test God by asking for a sign, but I was in a place where I was afraid to commit without some indication it was the right path. I also realized I was in love with him after we became best friends for a year before we dated, so I had a long time to realize who he was and whether I wanted to date.

But then after we dated for a while, it was harder and harder to make the time for long distance. We’d been long distance for 6 months at this point, and I no longer felt like it was worth it. After considering what to do for about a month, I broke up with him and have gone through various stages of regret. My main question is why would I feel so convicted of him and even have received an answer to my novena (although I’m aware of the different meanings of novenas and that they don’t always mean what you think), but then feel like I had to end it? Did I make the wrong decision to end it?

 

[Lou2U]

You’re not wrong to end a relationship you no longer want to be in.

Personally, I think the rose is simply a coincidence. But if you wanted, you could also look at it from another angle - maybe the relationship wasn’t right for you, but what you’ve learnt from it is taking you down the ‘right path’, whatever that may be.

 

[Irishmom2]

The rose may have been an affirmation, but not that this guy was supposed to be “the one,” because there is not just one person for anyone. Finding the person you will marry involves the right timing and sometimes that isn’t there. Sometimes it just isn’t meant to be.

But that doesn’t mean the relationship was wrong or anything. I am sure that you grew as a person and refined yourself and learned what you desire in someone because of this relationship. And what you learned will affect your next relationship.

Don’t look back. Keep moving forward.