Nullify former marriage

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been divorced 26 years, ex send me a lack of form. No second page. I found the page online. I find out he’s lied about what it’s for. He lives in a different state, I called a local Priest and he said to nullify a marriage requires more paperwork. I told him I will Not sign anything without having all the all the proper paperwork. He’s the non catholic wanting to be baptized so he needs the form filled out. 1. says attach new baptism certificate. 2. new marriage certificate 3 divorce decree. Am i wrong to demand the all the paperwork and not one page he says to just sign it. I sound like he wants his marriage recognized by the Catholic Church. He’s lying about why he wants it. I have a call into his Archdiocese.
 
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mingnuts said:
been divorced 26 years, ex send me a lack of form.
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If I’m understanding, you were a Catholic at the time of your marriage, and your ex was not a Catholic.

Did you marry in the Catholic Church?
 
If you were a Catholic at the time you married and did not get married in the Catholic church or receive a dispensation from the church for the marriage, then a declaration of nullity is not required. A lack of form is all that is required. However, your ex will need your current baptismal record showing no marriage in the church. Your ex does not need to lie or have a reason to seek a lack of form determination if the truth is that there was a lack of form. But he will need you to provide that baptismal cert. He can’t get it without your assistance as they are confidential. He can get marriage and divorce certificates from the state or county for a fee.
 
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  1. says attach new baptism certificate. 2. new marriage certificate 3 divorce decree. Am i wrong to demand the all the paperwork and not one page he says to just sign it.
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Is he asking you to provide this? Or are you suggesting this should have been attached to what you received?
 
I’m thinking that after being divorced for 26 years, you are still carrying around a lot of bitterness toward your ex-husband.

He really doesn’t need you to sign anything, he just needs a current baptismal certificate from you. His reasons for needing it besides showing your marriage wasn’t valid really isn’t your business. Out of Christian charity you should provide the certificate.

Look at the bright side, you can also have a Decree of Freedom in your records.
 
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he just needs a current baptismal certificate from you.
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And if you refuse to provide it to him, this will not stop the lack of form documentation. He or his advocate will simply work through the Parish.

This person desires Baptism. As a Christian, do what you can to make this sacrament accessible.
 
Thank you all for you reply’s. This will between him and God.
 
This is hard for me, it caused a panic attack due to PTSD. This person was was abusive to me and our child among other things. I hope that he is on the road to a better spiritual life. I do not condone his past transgressions against me, nor will i forget. Jesus will offer him Forgiveness. I’ve worked very hard over the last twenty years to put this behind me. But with PTSD you’re walking along in life and. bam to the face with a 2x4. Does he still scare me? yes Do I think if he was closer something could happen? yes Am I in a way better place with a husband who loves me? yes I believe I will get though this episode? Yes
 
Speaking to the Tribunal is first thing to do. They have dealt with abusive ex’s, they will give you a 3rd party for communication.
 
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to do this the correct way. not in a text message
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I’m sure your ex isn’t a great guy, but I’m confused as to why you care what he’s going to use it for. If it’s true that your marriage was invalid due to lack of form, and he’s just asking you to acknowledge that, what’s the harm? He’s not asking you to lie. What he does with that form is really not your business.
 
You only need to send in the current baptismal certificate. You do NOT need to be involved with his petition in any other way. Truly, it is none of your business. Do not contact the diocese or the tribunal, just send the baptism certificate.
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Does he still scare me? yes Do I think if he was closer something could happen? yes
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It sounds as though he has moved on. I mean, he is getting verification the two of you were never really married and he is planning on marrying someone else. I think you need to stop over thinking this, stop putting more motive into it than there is and send the document. If you really are in a “way better place with a husband who loves me” this wouldn’t be an issue. This can also benefit you as you can then have your current marriage convalidated in the Church.

There is no need for you to contact the diocese or the tribunal. You have no standing in the matter. There was no marriage as you did not follow the proper form as a Catholic should.
 
what you failed to understand is he didn’t tell me he need my baptismal certificate I had to get that from the archdiocese. Hence I only got half of the information from him, so I had to contact them. there is no need for you to be hostile to me. I wanted the correct information to do this properly.
 
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