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[PaulGH]

I figured this would be the best place too post my question it would appear that my girlfriend is a Wiccan and I am a Catholic. As of now we don’t talk aboout eachother religions and we really don’t seem to have any plans to. I’m a pretty open minded guy. I don’t care what other people believe in and I certainly don’t hate anyone, and I also have no plans of ever changing my faith. BUT I do really like this girl. We havn’t been going out for very long, and basicly it kind of odd dating a “Witch”, we have very different beliefs. So if yall could give me anything on what yoou guys think, much appreciated im sry if I posted this in the wrong place, im not new to forums but im not in the mood to look for the right place.

Given your age, you might not be thinking too much about marriage at this point, and that is understandable. But what about physical intimacy? As a Catholic, you are supposed to wait until marriage, and hopefully you are at least making that your goal. But as a Wiccan, she probably has no strong conviction about waiting for marriage, right? This could put you in a precarious situation, where you are constantly led into serious temptation. It is VERY difficult for a 17-year-old guy to continue to say “no” to an attractive girl who wants to sleep with him. And if that isn’t the situation yet, perhaps in a few more months it will be.

Also, even at your age, a major purpose of dating is to try to find someone who you might want to marry. And I just see all kinds of problems that could come from a Catholic marrying a Wiccan, especially if the Catholic is serious about his faith. The biggest problem most likely would be raising children. What will you teach them about God? Will they be raised Catholic? What will they think when their mom gives them very different answers about God than what they are learning from their dad or what they are learning at church? What will happen if she decides she doesn’t want them to be catechized as Catholics, or doesn’t want them to go to church? Also, contraception and openness to children (and perhaps even abortion) are other issues that could be problematic in such a marriage.

These concerns about marriage may seem far removed from your current state in life, but if you stay with this woman long enough, then these concerns must surely come up sooner or later. So it is probably a good idea to give these issues some thought right now.

The bottom line here is I am not going to come out and say, “break up with her,” because my knowledge of the situation is limited. But I will say that you need to consider seriously the potential pitfalls with a relationship like this. Most of all, remember the importance of not putting yourself in situations where you will be severely tempted to do the wrong thing, and take a long-term view, thinking of what would happen if you married this woman and raised children together.

 

[IanCorrigan]

As a Pagan (former Wiccan, now a different sort…) I must say that I would not be able to deal with having a life-partner who didn’t share my spiritual path. To me marriage (and even a serious relationship) is about partnership. I want my sweetie to share some of my interests, likes and dislikes, etc. Of course the seriousness varies - My wife doesn’t like cheesy horror movies and I don’t much like real-life doctor shows, but we can sit together through each other’s stuff when it makes us feel good to do so.

Spirituality, to me, is another matter entirely. I find spiritual things to be so much a part of my core characteristics, so much definitive of ‘me’, that To be unable to share that with my closest companion would be a deal-breaker.

I dated Christian girls in High School, when I was already a committed Pagan, but in the end I married Pagan women, First time not so perfect, but the second mariage has been good, and we’ve been together some 20 years. Our ability to come together in spiritual practice is a core part of our relationship.

I’d advise not planning to marry someone who doesn’t share your spiritual way.

 

[ThatKrazyPagan]

I figured this would be the best place too post my question it would appear that my girlfriend is a Wiccan and I am a Catholic. As of now we don’t talk aboout eachother religions and we really don’t seem to have any plans to. I’m a pretty open minded guy. I don’t care what other people believe in and I certainly don’t hate anyone, and I also have no plans of ever changing my faith. BUT I do really like this girl. We havn’t been going out for very long, and basicly it kind of odd dating a “Witch”, we have very different beliefs. So if yall could give me anything on what yoou guys think, much appreciated im sry if I posted this in the wrong place, im not new to forums but im not in the mood to look for the right place.

Hi hon! I’m a witch of sorts dating a Catholic, so I can tell you that it really isn’t as big a deal as the others here seem to think it is. Basically you believe different things, but you both probably have a lot of similar values. You should probably start talking more about religion, as you obviously have some anxiety about it. Remain respectful of her religion, and she should remain respectful of yours. If one of you loses respect for the other’s religion, you will need to get out of the relationship. For me, that has only been an issue with a hardcore atheist, who literally laughed at my beliefs. If you can maintain respect and talk maturely about religion, you should have no problem. However, you are both 17 and might not have mature religious opinions yet.

 

[Publisher]

Hi hon! I’m a witch of sorts dating a Catholic, so I can tell you that it really isn’t as big a deal as the others here seem to think it is. Basically you believe different things, but you both probably have a lot of similar values. You should probably start talking more about religion, as you obviously have some anxiety about it. Remain respectful of her religion, and she should remain respectful of yours. If one of you loses respect for the other’s religion, you will need to get out of the relationship. For me, that has only been an issue with a hardcore atheist, who literally laughed at my beliefs. If you can maintain respect and talk maturely about religion, you should have no problem. However, you are both 17 and might not have mature religious opinions yet.

Friend you speak my mind.

 

[PaulGH]

Hi hon! I’m a witch of sorts dating a Catholic, so I can tell you that it really isn’t as big a deal as the others here seem to think it is. Basically you believe different things, but you both probably have a lot of similar values. You should probably start talking more about religion, as you obviously have some anxiety about it. Remain respectful of her religion, and she should remain respectful of yours. If one of you loses respect for the other’s religion, you will need to get out of the relationship. For me, that has only been an issue with a hardcore atheist, who literally laughed at my beliefs. If you can maintain respect and talk maturely about religion, you should have no problem. However, you are both 17 and might not have mature religious opinions yet.

Is the person who you are dating serious about his or her Catholic faith? If the answer is yes, or even if the answer might become yes some day in the future, then it is very likely that he or she would want to raise their children in the Catholic faith. This means that he or she would want their children to receive the Catholic sacraments, to attend church at least every Sunday, to pray regularly, and to be educated in the faith – meaning to be taught that what the Catholic Church teaches is true, and that what other religions teach is only partially true. Would you be OK with this, if the two of you eventually marry and have children? If not, then you might have more problems down the road than you are currently anticipating. Just something to consider, if you haven’t already.