It is a warped view in my opinion because in telling people to “come out”, it gives the impression that they aren’t “fully themselves”. How do we address this issue?
Think about it.
You answered your own question.
Just disregard what they said.
I’m not gay or bi-, but I am a kinkster. I can’t fully empathize with SSA, but, what I do know is, we
all experience sexual desires to varying degrees and particular interests.
The Catholic ideology looks at sexuality in two ways: 1.) generative faculty (reproduction, and 2.) unitive faculty (love and charity). Ideally, proper sexuality has to have both, not just one or the other - since we look at what brings us reproducible life in Christ.
A gentically identified XX person cannot reproduce life by natural means with another genetically identified XX person. The same with XY’s. So - since BOTH the generative and unitive faculties are required to produce ongoing life - the entire SSA defense will not fully complete the Catholic idea of life.
What your correspondent was suggesting probably speaks to the unitive, loving phase of SSA. This is a tough call for SSAs, kinksters, and every one of us - because our own particular desires seek fulfillment, and we do not feel resolute or like they have come to closure without fulfilling them. In other words, we don’t feel “complete” or like we are “fully ourselves” (as was described) without “coming out” with it.
Satisfying one’s obligations to onesself and the greater good requires looking at one’s desires. Even in the LGBT and kinkster communities, you’ll find varying limits and interests in how the people want to conduct themselves, so there’s always some compromise required for both parties to get along. Full homosexuals dont always get along with bi’s; Top find switches hard to engage with, etc. They also tend to have short-lived relationships, and they fight a lot amongst themselves. You’ll find a lot of gossip, betrayal, drama and game playing in those communities, which you wont find in church; and, when I have succumbed to talking with them, I usually find the conversations very empty and unfulfilling. There are a few good people in those scenes, but often times they are just confusing, as you pointed out.
At church, you can be fully yourself… we keep our sins in the confessional, but we share in fellowship… unless we harbor some sort of bad intention, whereby we don’t come to the light, we live fully in the light. I dont think I have ever seen people fight in church the way I have seen some people in secular society and its subcultures behave…
We all have to learn to live with each other. Christ sets the best example of who to follow in our struggles. His grace and mercy reconcile all this to himself fully in the Trinitarian sense. Made in his image - you always have all you need within you. Be at peace with it and live a fulfilled life.
That’s what you are telling yousrself, when you say, “what defines me is my faith and my identity is found in Christ.”
You have the support of the entire Christian community at that point.
God’s Blessings to you!
