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Hello, My name is Tim, and the world is beating me down to the point I don’t know if I can take it anymore. In the past 2 years I have been diagnosed with cancer, had a near death experience during chemo, lost my father, caused the death of a woman in a car wreck, lost my mother, been diagnosed with post tramatic stress and been in the hospital twice for depression with psycosis. Last Easter I almost took my own life and experienced a “saving Grace” beyond measure, but I still feel abandoned by God now. I have been blessed with a beautiful family, but my job is tearing me up along with past memories. Im seeking mental help, but does anyone have any good spiritual advice for the despairing. Help , Tim
 
I’ll pray for you…

seeking help/therapy will help and talking to a priest.
 
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Hello, My name is Tim, and the world is beating me down to the point I don’t know if I can take it anymore. In the past 2 years I have been diagnosed with cancer, had a near death experience during chemo, lost my father, caused the death of a woman in a car wreck, lost my mother, been diagnosed with post tramatic stress and been in the hospital twice for depression with psycosis. Last Easter I almost took my own life and experienced a “saving Grace” beyond measure, but I still feel abandoned by God now. I have been blessed with a beautiful family, but my job is tearing me up along with past memories. Im seeking mental help, but does anyone have any good spiritual advice for the despairing. Help , Tim
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Yes. I have been to where I had lost all hope for several months. Know there is always hope, and try to feel it.

This abandonment is surely the labor pains to growth. The family is the most important thing. As long as you have a beautiful family (I am also blessed with one) everything else really takes second place. It’s good, because it can’t be trusted.

Since 2001 I’ve taken spiritual direction, laid off and 20 year career in engineering ended by fools who had me hospitalized against my will, diagnosed and currently treated for “severe bipolar disorder” and last year we were out of the house for 7 months after a Good Friday fire. During that time there was a murder/suicide in the apartment next to the girls’ bedrooms, an apartment fire two buildings down, and several other exciting things. As I am unemployed we’ve also gone bankrupt (got pushed into it and I still think it was a bad idea) and my father died. Sometimes it just all hits at once.

I don’t think Christ came so much to calm the storms, as to allow us to ride them out in faith. Once we let go completely we acknowledge that we really cannot control anything, contrary to the world’s expectation that we do.

Alan
 
I wish I had something other than to offer than this world will pass away and Our Lord and Savior is on the other side.

Your pain is great, your losses are real, and I am sorry for you. May God give you peace. I would only suggest the thing that has helped me in my pain is to pray the rosary. Our Mother has been so good to me
 
Ok I think I can give you advice for this one since my sister was diagnosed with cancer three months after losing my mother to a sudden death. And I could go on with the many other traumas that I have endured within my own household but will save you the trouble of reading anymore depression.

#1 Attend daily Mass (recieve the sacraments frequently)
(If there is a very good reason you can not attend send your angel to Mass daily for you. (I do have the prayer if you can not find it.)
#2 Talk to God all day in your car wherever you are talk, talk, talk.
#3 Buy a Pieta if you can not afford one print one from the computer.
(There has been nothing that has given me more strength than the Eucharist and the Pieta. To look at Mary you really see pain unlike any we could ever experience.
So that is my screen saver, its pasted on my board in my classroom, and is embedded in my mind.
#4 Sing, sing, sing, even if you do not have a voice sing uplifting music be it church hymns, or the sound of music these are a few of my favorite things. I don’t have a voice but I sing everything.
#5 Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, latch on to the affirmative and don’t mess with Mr. inbetween. (Excellent song by Bing Crosby down load the words)
#6 Practice hourly the virtues of faith, hope,and charity.
#7When all else fails think of this little story,
Pope John Paul II was with Mother Teresa one day and she had made a comment about her pain in life. JPII stated don’t you know Mother the more Christ loves you the heavier your cross. To which Mother Teresa responded I know I just wish he wouldn’t hug me so tight. (true story)
Yes there are many times in life that I feel hugged tighter than I can bear but trust in God and he will always give you the strength and grace to go on.

This is what I have for you I hope it helps. If nothing else it made me feel better typing all of it.😃
 
Thanks, My Priest just pats me on the back and say’s “keep fighting the good fight” and walks on. I like him ,but its hard to relate these kind of things to someone who is comfortable with what God has giving them. Tim
 
I feel a little selfish now, I’m sorry. I guess we all have our crosses to bear, but it is good when someone helps lift the weight sometimes, Thanks
 
Tim,
You have nothing to feel selfish about. I commed you for your courage and willingness to share you experiences. As members of the Body of Christ, we have a responsibility to support, console, guide, and encourage one another through both our joys and our tribulations. I recommend frequent Mass attendance, Eucharistic adoration, and confession. Find a spiritual director or a psychologist who is willing and eager to listen to you. Above all, pray. Even when you feel spiritually empty, prayer is a means by which we enter into a most intimate communion with God. Through prayer we peer into the depths of our souls and are often suprised to find none other than the Creator Himself. He is the Source from whom we have our being; in Him we become who we were meant to be. My prayers are with you.
 
I always rely on Our Blessed Mother. She always makes it better. St. Jude is a woderful saint in times of hopelessness. I always ask him to pray for me that I may have the courage and the strength not be afraid–but to try my best!

Stay strong! God is always Our Father!
 
Hi Tim,

About 3 years ago I slit my wrists while sitting in my bath tub, my mom happened to come over to my apartment to give me a house warming gift and found me (thank God). If the ambulance hadn’t of came when it did I would’ve died. I had to endure vascular surgery and had to stay in the psych ward of the hospital for a month. All in all I did it because I was severly depressed.

I have horrible scars on my wrists now, but they remind me how close I came to throwing everything away. An unbelievable amount of good did come out of the whole ordeal; I value my life so much now, I found the Catholic Church and I’m now contemplating becoming a nun. After I woke up from surgery a nurse was looking into my eyes while saying repeatedly, “This too shall pass”. She looked like an angel.

I truly believe that God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. Please don’t give up hope. Remember, this too shall pass. You will be in my prayers.
 
Tim, I took you and your issues to the Lord this morning in Adoration.

We are all touched by your pain and suffering and cry with you and consol you and we all give you a big hug. Dwell on this a while and just think about all of us here cring about you.

May the Lord God give you peace, love, hope and joy.
May Our Lady bring our prayers to Jesus and
May all the angels and saints intersede for you.
 
I went to the Dr. today and he changed my medications, also he ordered me off work a week. My mom gave me a “this too shall pass” coin while I was in the hospital my first week of chemo. I carry eveyday in my wallet. Thanks for helping me feel connected to the body of Christ. All of you. Tim
 
Tim…I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It’s true that the really bad stuff always seems to clump itself together…I don’t know why. I want you to know I will pray for you. You’re not alone - we’re all pulling for you.

God Bless.
 
I have a deadly disease.
My grandmother, more like my mother, just died.
My infant son suddenly and inexplicably died, before that.
And I still have a debilitating, degenerative, fatal disorder.

Not in spite of all that, but because of all that, I feel that I am closer to God than at any point hitherto in my life. Happy, fulfilled. I would not trade it for the world. Through our weakness, Christ is shown strong.

The weaker and more powerless we are, the more powerful vessels of God’s grace we can become. Consult St. Therese of the Child Jesus, esp. via With Empty Hands: the Message of St. Therese of Lisieux, by Fr. Conrad de Meester, OCD (ICS Publications).

Not only my prayers, but my sufferings are with you…
 
Might I suggest a support group. A CHRISTIAN support group? Find out if there are any in your area. It would not matter if it was Catholic as long as it was Christian. I belong to a Bible study of ladies from different denominations. We pray for each other and many have been through terrible messes in the last 15 years. Everyone is loving there and everything is confidential. You need “real” people to talk to. The forum is nice but a living breathing group would be better, I think.

Several years ago my oldest son had three suicide attempts. He talked to me a lot. Talk to your mother–she loves you more than anyone does on this earth. And of course talk to God who loves you even more than your mother does!

May God bless you.
 
Tim do you have a prayer to St. Pergrine?

I copied it from the website below. You can also put in a prayer request. I forgot to mention that was another thing I did. If you need some good Catholic prayer sites pm me I will send you a list. Also for your depression there is St. Dymphna who is another great saint to pray to. We are all praying for you here and hope to here of a miraculous recovery soon but until we do you are in my prayers.

Prayer to St. Perigrine

O great St. Peregrine, you have been called “The wonder worker”, because of the numerous miracles which you have obtained from God for those who have had recourse to you. For so many years you bore in your own flesh this cancerous disease that destroys the very fiber of your being, and who had recourse to the source of all grace when the power of man could do no more. You were favored with the vision of Jesus coming down from His cross to heal your affliction. Ask God and Our Lady, the cure of the sick whom we entrust to you (pause and recall their names). Aided in this way by your powerful intercession, we shall sing to God, now and for all eternity, a song of gratitude for His great goodness and mercy. Amen. stphilomena.org/Prayers.htm

Prayers to Saint Dymphna

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In Nervous or Emotional Distress

I turn to you, dear virgin and martyr, confident of your power with God and of your willingness to take my cause into your hands. I praise and bless the Lord for giving you to us as patron of the nervous and emotionally disturbed. I firmly hope that through your kind intercession He will restore my lost serenity and peace of mind. May He speak to my heart and reassure me: “My peace I give you. Let not your heart be troubled nor let it be afraid.”
Pray for me, dear St. Dymphna, that my nervous and emotional turmoil may cease, and that I may again know serenity and personal peace.
Amen.

In Physical Illness I appeal to you in my illness, dear St. Dymphna. I would be so grateful for a total and happy recovery, for the blessed gift of health in every fiber of my being.
May the Lord Jesus, who mercifully healed the sick during His earthly days, have pity on me and make me well again. Ask Him to command sickness to depart and grant me a full measure of health, that I may rejoice in giving Him glory and praise.
Amen.

scborromeo.org/prayers/dymphna.htm
 
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Marquette:
Several years ago my oldest son had three suicide attempts. He talked to me a lot. Talk to your mother–she loves you more than anyone does on this earth. And of course talk to God who loves you even more than your mother does!

May God bless you.
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Tim,

I forgot to mention, my son’s name is Tim!!

Marquette
 
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tjmiller:
I have a deadly disease.
My grandmother, more like my mother, just died.
My infant son suddenly and inexplicably died, before that.
And I still have a debilitating, degenerative, fatal disorder.

Not in spite of all that, but because of all that, I feel that I am closer to God than at any point hitherto in my life. Happy, fulfilled. I would not trade it for the world. Through our weakness, Christ is shown strong.

The weaker and more powerless we are, the more powerful vessels of God’s grace we can become. Consult St. Therese of the Child Jesus, esp. via With Empty Hands: the Message of St. Therese of Lisieux, by Fr. Conrad de Meester, OCD (ICS Publications).

Not only my prayers, but my sufferings are with you…
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TJ,

It sounds like you have suffered lately, as well. May God bless you for your courage and your honesty. May God heal you of your disease, fortify your will to trust in Him not matter what the situation, and continue to transform your heart with His love. You are an inspiration. I will be praying for you.
 
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