One Study on Older Parents and This is the headline!

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Research: Older parents have advantages

Researchers say older parents have some advantages. A study of 30,000 households showed that people who had children in their 40s were better off financially, spent more time with their children and had a closer connection to the children’s friends than younger parents, said Brian Powell, a sociology professor at Indiana University.

“The older you were as a parent, the better off the child,” Powell said.
 
I remember when I had my first baby in my early twenties. I was soooo physically taxed. I remember thinking how can they (older parents) do it? I was in very good physical condition, and I felt like I was climbing Mount Everest!🙂
 
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Research: Older parents have advantages

Researchers say older parents have some advantages. A study of 30,000 households showed that people who had children in their 40s were better off financially, spent more time with their children and had a closer connection to the children’s friends than younger parents, said Brian Powell, a sociology professor at Indiana University.

“The older you were as a parent, the better off the child,” Powell said.
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Verrrry interesting!! Do you have a link?
 
The husband working two jobs while the mother stays home desn’t indicate a favorable financial situation compared to most couples I know. Nor did anything indicate where they spent more time together. Unless it was the swimming?:ehh:

She commented she would consider having more children if she wasn’t so old. She wasn’t too old five years ago. Or is she feeling the immense reality of having children at that age?:eek:

The pastor comment that they were proof that as parents got older they got better also lacked proof. HOW were they proof?

The niece of the couple said she would recommend that other older couples NOT have children. Why would she say that if older parents were so superior?

I don’t really see where the the evidence was to prove the authors conclusion. It did say that the couple was married recently. Was it a second or third marriage?Did they have previous children? How many grandparent’s would do things differently if able to have a “do over”. How many of us would do high school differently?

Even if they were first time parents. Wisdom does come with age, but I am sure God had a reason for creating us with a fertile period that peaks in our twenties and begins to decline in our thirties. I’ll trust His knowledge.

The author did say no long term conclusions could be drawn yet. Yes, mother nature always bats last.

All in all I thought is was a poorly written article with lots of speculation and little “facts”. But it was fun to tweak my brain with.😃
 
Oh, a lot of times people will skew statistics in the weirdest ways. It probably IS true that a woman who has her first child at 40 is more likely to have all sorts of material advantages (more money, more stability, etc) than a woman who has her first child at 22. But, that’s not the same as concluding that a woman ought to wait, or not have children at 22.

One thing I tortured myself with were the statistics on what happened to children raised by a single parent. My son is five times more likely to go to prison, to end up on drugs, to be killed by 25, yada, yada, yada… I had someone cite those stats to me when they were urging me to abort, and I heard them again when adoption was suggested. I literally wondered if I were being selfish, if I were DOOMING my son, if I didn’t give them to some nice couple who had it all. But, while I would LOVE to have a nice, traditional marriage to raise him in, I still know that those stats aren’t really all about me. If you look only at the stats of single women who DELIBERATELY sought parenthood, women who tend to be well-off, educated, and older than most single mothers, you’ll see their kids are more likely to go to Harvard than San Quentin. So, I figure I’ve got age and education on my side, and I don’t torture myself with the stats any more.
 
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katybird:
I literally wondered if I were being selfish, if I were DOOMING my son, if I didn’t give them to some nice couple who had it all. But, while I would LOVE to have a nice, traditional marriage to raise him in,.
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Stats … schmats:) … you trust in the Lord.? He has you covered … holding you both close to His heart.

I can’t believe someone would cite statistics to you to imply that killing your baby would be an act of mercy … sheesh!

You made a beautiful choice. God bless you and your child … and as for the nice traditional family? You never know … you still might.
 
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lies, damn lies, and statistics
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Kind of like the stories in the magazines profiling a homosexual couple that adopted a child and ooohs and ahhhs over their mahvalous parenting skills. Such a joyous family, such lucky children … if only all families could have such joy.😉
 
So my kids will turn out to be terrible, because I can’t afford them violin lessons and a Play Station 2? Some one call social services on me.

I think people in their 40’s are biologically better at being grandparents, which explains the spoiling of material goods and time spent doing extra special things as time.

I have two kids in my twenties, married, stable, but I have two sets of grandparents close by. I won’t be the always there parent, but the difference is that I’m there if they need me and they will know the door is open. Time should mean when you are there to listen to your child when they need you, time shouldn’t mean you came to their soccer practice and watch on the sidelines.

I hate how modern day society guilts parents for not attending children organized activities and sporting events. Why do schools set up all these child plays/recitals for the parents? Do they really benefit the students? Shouldn’t a child play sports because they like it? Should it matter that the parents are always there?
 
DH is 46 and I am 38 and are expecting our first child together in April. We have three other children from previous marriages. Statistics–HAAAAA!!!:rotfl: DH is no more ready for this child than he was for his first at the age of 22 when he had to get married. I, on the other hand, feel I am doing God’s will by bringing this baby into the world.

Just my :twocents:
 
I will take all the hope I can get. My two children are 17 and 15. My wife and I are expecting a boy in early January. (I will be 45). I could not be more thrilled, but I do not know if it will keep me young or age me.
 
I had my son exactly 2 months before my 30th birthday. And he is now 5 and we are still trying for #2.
 
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