Here is a letter I heard read on secular radio one day that shows how badly a coherent teaching on human sexuality is needed across denominations.
Hello Ian–Your recent discussion about virginity in adulthood could not have come at a more bizarre (or timely) time for me…I just had a similar discussion with two friends of mine that are my age this week
We grew up in evangelical Christian culture, and I have a degree in historical theology–yet we can’t seem to come up with a coherent theology of sexuality. The only thing we can think of is that we’ve been told not to be sexually active with people we aren’t married to.
I am admittedly somewhat of an anomoly of this culture. I am single at age 25, which is a freakish thing in this community, and about to finishlaw school–equally bizarre to them. I have no regrets about not being married at the moment. As a result of being busily engaged in achievment, I haven’t activley pursued a dating life. Because of my convictions, I have maintained my virginity without any real pains of conscience over it up to this point.However, it has recently come to my attention that many of my friends who used to reinforce the expectation that virginity is to be maintaineduntil marriage have changed their minds rather suddenly and deviated wildly from these notions just in the last couple of weeks.
I just think it’s interesting that I had at one point I committed to something out of conviction and now I can’t even fully articulate a theology that I, myself, buy into. I know what the canned answers tothe questions related to sexuality outside of marriage are, but in coming to the realization that I am one of the few, the freakish, thevirginal…I wonder if that is enough to keep me on this same course.I am challenged by the idea that if I can’t even articulate a viable theology to keep me from being sexually active, I may have committedmyself to something that actually may be detrimental to my ability to engage in healthy relationships for no reason! If you know of anytheological works that can help me sort this out, I would be appreciative as well.
A few of my friends dare interested in engaging in some intentional study on this topic–we think it’s interesting that we are this old and haven’t really been taught this stuff…
Sincerely,Leslie