Overcoming Porn and Temptations of Lust

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I am looking for tips, tools, advice, and (name removed by moderator)ut from those who have successfully overcome a porn and/or masturbation addiction. Specifically how did you learn to deny frequent urges to watch porn? Any advice regarding overcoming urges to masturbate and deal with serious lustful temptations would be welcome as well. I have seen lot of general information about this on these forums, so in this post I am really hoping to hear from those that have personal experience in beating or attempting to beat an addiction. Thank in advance for your responses.
 
Believe in the powerful intercession of Mother Mary. Pray the Holy Rosary daily.

When temptation starts I quickly pray 3 Hail Marys for purity. If the temptation is powerful continue praying Hail Marys and I block all my senses and thoughts.

Mortify or discipline your eyes like don’t look at beautiful things or pictures, that’s a good start
 
Although temptations are so troublesome and grievous, yet they are often profitable to us, for by them we are humbled, cleansed, and instructed. All the Saints endured many trials and temptations, and profited by them; but those who could not resist temptations became reprobate, and fell away. There is no Order so holy, nor place so secluded, where there are no troubles and temptations.

No man can be entirely free from temptation so long as he lives; for the source of temptation lies within our own nature, since we are born with an inclination towards evil. When one temptation or trial draws to a close, another takes its place; and we shall always have something to fight, for man has lost the blessing of original happiness. Many try to escape temptations, only to encounter them more fiercely, for no one can win victory by flight alone; it is only by patience and true humility that we can grow stronger than all our foes.

The man who only avoids the outward occasions of evil, but fails to uproot it in himself, will gain little advantage. Indeed, temptations will return upon him the sooner, and he will find himself in a worse state than before. Little by little and by patient endurance you will overcome them by God’s help, better than by your own violence and importunity. Seek regular advice in temptation, and never deal harshly with those who are tempted, but give them such encouragement as you would value yourself.

The beginning of all evil temptation is an unstable mind and lack of trust in God. Just as a ship without a helm is driven to and fro by the waves, so a careless man, who abandons his proper course, is tempted in countless ways. Fire tempers steel, and temptation the just man. We often do not know what we can bear, but temptation reveals our true nature. We need especially to be on our guard at the very onset of temptation, for then the Enemy may be more easily overcome, if he is not allowed to enter the gates of the mind: he must be repulsed at the threshold, as soon as he knocks. Thus the poet Ovid writes, “Resist at the beginning; the remedy may come too late.” For first there comes into the mind an evil thought: next, a vivid picture: then delight, and urge to evil, and finally consent. In this way the Enemy gradually gains complete mastery, when he is not resisted at first. And the longer a slothful man delays resistance, the weaker he becomes, and the stronger his enemy grows against him.

Some people undergo their heaviest temptations at the beginning of their conversion; some towards the end of their course; others are greatly troubled all their lives; while there are some whose temptations are but light. This is in accordance with the wisdom and justice of God’s ordinance, who weighs the condition and merits of every man, and disposes all things for the salvation of those whom He chooses.

We must not despair, therefore, when we are tempted, but earnestly pray God to grant us his help in every need. For, as Saint Paul says, “With the temptation, God will provide a way to overcome it, that we may be able to bear it.” So, let us humble ourselves under the hand of God, in every trial and trouble, for He will save and raise up the humble in Spirit. In all these trials, our progress is tested; in them great merit may be secured, and our virtue become evident. It is no great matter if we are devout and fervent when we have no troubles; but if we show patience in adversity, we can make great progress in virtue. Some are spared severe temptations, but are overcome in the lesser ones of every day, in order that they may be humble, and learn not to trust in themselves, but to recognize their frailty.
-The Imitation of Christ, Book 1, Chapter 13
 
Pornography, at least for some people, seems to be driven by a strong passion, so that even when someone’s will is fighting that passion, ultimately the passion wins.

The only way I know of to overcome a strong passion is by replacing it with a stronger one. We are not voids: you can’t remove a passion and leave a vacuum, for, like vacuums, the passion will just move right back in the fill the void, and is often stronger than before:

The unclean spirit, which has possessed a man and then goes out of him, walks about the desert looking for a resting-place, and finds none; and it says, I will go back to my own dwelling, from which I came out. And it comes back, to find that dwelling empty, and swept out, and neatly set in order. Thereupon, it goes away, and brings in seven other spirits more wicked than itself to bear it company, and together they enter in and settle down there; so that the last state of that man is worse than the first. So it shall fare with this wicked generation (Matthew 12:45-47).

You can’t just resist sexual immorality, you have to replace it. We must not just cast out a demon, and leave the house empty: we must let a certain Someone dwell in the house also.

Christi pax,

Lucretius
 
Brother,

you’ve GOT to, and i mean at the minute that you read this, got to get rid of ANY and all access to porn. If you are viewing it via computer, you have to somehow get rid of it. Sell it, give it to a trusted confidant to hold for a while, or do what i did and kill the battery and give the charger to a friend. You must root out the porn first, then work on masturbation. Porn, and i literally believe this to be 100% true, is the downfall of our society. It is extremely wrong, as im sure you are well aware, because it objectifies people and is harmful to your health, especially your mental health. it is as addictive as heroine, and numerous studies have shown this. but dont lost faith! you can overcome! Root it out. Then, find a hobby to distract your mind from masturbation. Exercising would be the best route, but if not, do something with friends and be out in public, especially when temptations strike. if you typically sin at night, stay up until you can no longer stay up, dont be in your room, go outside and walk. if it hits you in the morning, then get out of bed immediately. just do something. whenever one battles a temptation of lust, you must NEVER fight it head on. you must run away! this was one of the best things my confessor taught me because it rang so true. you must pray and make prayer a daily part of your life. receive our Lord as frequently as possible.
 
Stay close to all the sacraments.
Socialize with like-minded people who have the same goal via Sexaholics Anonymous:
www.sa.org
 
Change your desktop picture to Mary. Then if you have a usual spot where you fall into this have some pictures ready. Some pictures of people with real world problems. Like starvation. Or disease. Or disfigurement. Take out those pictures when you are tempted and pray for those people. Turn a negative into a positive. Turn a potentially selfish experience into a giving one. A routine like that and you’re done. You can quit cold on this. It’s a doable thing.

Peace.

-Trident
 
Hey Ray,
I know it’s tough, I’m going through the same thing. I have an appointment with a counselor tomorrow, and I’m hoping that can help me start taking some steps in a better direction.

The most success I had was when I was attending a support group. A guy in a local Parish had started a group similar to S.A., focusing on sex addiction.

Learning more about it does help. A few books I would suggest:
–Out of the Shadows, Carnes
–Wired for Intimacy, Struthers

You may also want to check out some videos online of Jason Evert or Matt Fradd. They are wonderful speakers on it.

We live in a tough world brother, hang in there
 
Praying the rosary definitely helps. God punishes me pretty severely if I watch porn so I stay away from it.
 
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