Part 2: Engaged AND discerning the priesthood?

[bellerina]

Thanks so much for the replies!! So here’s my next question. The girl, Lynn, that I mentioned in my other post… she does not know about me. Should I tell her? I have her email address. I’m not upset at her in any way as she’s clueless to what’s really going on. I just don’t want anyone to end up in my situation. It’s really challenged my faith regarding good Catholic men.

 

[SMHW]

Thanks so much for the replies!! So here’s my next question. The girl, Lynn, that I mentioned in my other post… she does not know about me. Should I tell her? I have her email address. I’m not upset at her in any way as she’s clueless to what’s really going on. I just don’t want anyone to end up in my situation. It’s really challenged my faith regarding good Catholic men.

I don’t really think it matters whether you tell her or not.

But it seems to me that any desire you have is an indication that you have aren’t willing to let go of the situation.

 

[ltbpoe43]

It depends why you are telling?

Are you doing it to punish fiance?
Are you doing it to protect Lynn? From what? Are they “involved”?

I’m not sure it makes a difference.

If you fell it clears your conscience go ahead. But it should be irrelevant to your ultimate decision to move on.

 

[1ke]

Nope.

Just move on.

 

[jrabs]

Nope.

Just move on.

I agree. To what end does that serve? It’s not her fault - move on and have peace about this.

 

[Rob_s_Wife]

Good grief.
What a mess.
Cut bait and go home and don’t look back.
This fellow doesn’t deserve you or the priesthood until he does some serious growing up.
Yikes.
Oh, and he isn’t going to grow up just for you if you stick around to love him enough. This fellow has a nice laundry list of issues that have nothing to do with you that only he and the good Lord can fix.
God bless.

 

[VR70]

No no no no NO!!!

You need to run and never look back. That means not taking his calls/emails/letters and NOT involving yourself in any further messes in his life, which may or may not include her. You don’t really know the full extent of that relationship for sure. You only know what he’s told you, which may or may not be the full story. You could wind up only getting more hurt.

I can understand to some extent the intent of trying to help someone else not get caught up with him. I suggest praying for her, but nothing more.

Trish

 

[BlestOne]

No… Just get out and leave him to grow up on his own…

 

[puzzleannie]

Thanks so much for the replies!! So here’s my next question. The girl, Lynn, that I mentioned in my other post… she does not know about me. Should I tell her? I have her email address. I’m not upset at her in any way as she’s clueless to what’s really going on. I just don’t want anyone to end up in my situation. It’s really challenged my faith regarding good Catholic men.

no, you are out of it, so stay out of it