Lots of people, whether Catholic or not, seem to have bad things to say about the church, and it offends me.

Hello,
While there’s definitely legitimate criticism of the way the Church handles things, most of the criticism I hear comes from ignorance or bigotry.
i know of some Catholic people who say that the Catholic churches in my community are just after money…
This is a really stupid argument, going back to the classic “gaudy popery” stereotype of the Church, and I’m vexed at how often it comes up. It’s almost always a bigoted argument.
Are those parishes dwindling or having financial troubles in your community? Find out, and use that information as a counter.
…and than the other day a Catholic person was asked me if i was a “very religious person”, and I responded “well, what is a very religious person?” and he said following the bible. And, I said yes and also the church teaching. He questioned me by saying “where does the church teachings come from?” (I also had this discussion with another Catholic person who said the same thing).
He went on to ask "what is in the church teaching that is not in the bible, and I was no exactly positive about my answer but I said confession. He said that confession is a way for the church to control or have power. I was offended, and asked why they would feel the need to control or have power, and he didn’t have a direct answer. Anyway, can any of you tell me how I could respond to people who say such things about the church and it’s teachings? Thank you
The best way to respond to those sorts of questions is to be well-informed on the Church’s positions.
Your response to him on the confession question was great, putting the burden of proof back on his ridiculous claim.
You could also entertain his claim and disprove it. Even if the Church has great influence over confession, it does not have total control over salvation and forgiveness of sins.
First of all, confession and absolution of sins, or the Sacrament of Penance are two related but seperate different things. You can confess to anyone (not necessarily a priest), but you can only recieve absolution from the priest.
Secondly, the Church only teaches that the Sacrament of Penance is the only
ordinary way to forgive sins. That is to say there are other ways to forgive sins, including confessing to God in private (although this is not the ordinary, “assured” way).
Thirdly, even going the ordinary route to forgive sins through the Sacrament of Penance, a pentinent must be sincere. If he’s not sincerely remorseful, is the Church really controlling him? No.
Fourthly, ultimate salvation comes through God’s judgement (and control), not the Church’s.