Please help ease my heart about leaving my baby

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Hi everyone,
I will be going back to a job with mean coworkers that I can’t leave because it is free tuition for my older children who will be entering next year.
My 4 month old will start day care and I don’t think I can imagine how my 43 year old heart will miss him.
Too hurtful and teary even writing this so I am putting my heart to you all hoping to hear comfort that by working I am still taking care of him, that babies don’t miss you as much as toddlers, that I must trust his new full time caregivers etc…
What a mess I am, I will miss him so much.
The only thing I’ve asked God is to help me see work with His eyes, if I can focus more on Him throughout work I won’t get easily offended, miss my baby to the point of despair etc…
Anyone been there?
Even if you haven’t thank you for reading and for wisdom you can share.
Thank you
 
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I’m so sorry for your struggle! All I can think of is to take all that longing and love and pour it out on him when you pick him up from daycare, and love him all you can before you leave for work. 😇:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
 
May the divine providence of our Savior’s love infuse your heart with peace and strength.
It is obvious that you possess the fierce love of a devoted mother - the same love that allowed Mary to endure the birth, life and resurrection of her Son.
Seek her intercession daily - know that her Son loves You and your child with a love that cannot be defeated by Satan.

Pray the rosary daily.
 
I’ve been there! My heart is with you and any mom of any age whose family needs her to return to work after a baby. I had to go back to work with my first three babies. I cried for a lot longer than anyone knew.

It helped to think of my work as a cross. To use the pain of being apart from your baby as something to offer up for the souls of your children each day.

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I’m so sorry for your pain. :confused:❤️

If it’s any consolation, you’ll be joining the ranks of other career women who also raised families, St Zelie Martin (mother or St Therese of Lisieux) who was a lace maker and St Gianna Baretta Molla, who was a physician.

Also our Biblical example of the Proverbs 31 woman.

You can do this 🙂🙂🙂❤️:pray:t2:
 
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Thank you. The moment my eyes saw the words “Rosary” my soul was drawn like a magnet and before I could even finish thinking I wouldn’t have time I’d be too busy my beautiful angel or the Holy Spirit immediately reminded me how much down time I had at work. And even if I didn’t, life is a sacrifice and I need it. The Rosary is difficult, I prayed it every day for 3 months while pregnant and while my son was in boot camp, for my son’s safety and health. There were times I didn’t want to say it at all I was too tired in my third trimester, many times I said it laying down exhausted because it was worse to miss a day, it was for my eldest son after all and nothing would stop me from saying it, not even 3rd trimester exhaustion after a full days work. The worst times were when I really didn’t feel up for it and feeling “I can’t do this, all this repetitiveness, is it really anything? And then I would think of St Therese, didn’t she not enjoy it? and I had to say it in my head because I was too out of breath! And 4 months later after my last rosary, after my son came home safe and happy and the sometimes terrible effort it took … something in me misses it and I am drawn. Especially because I will need so much of His strength. And I know He will be pleased with my honoring His mother and I have asked her to help me feel closer to her. Thank you
 
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Thank you so much everyone. I will really reread everything here for strength. Please pray for me.
 
Thank you so much. Very kind of you to put me at ease this way. I prayed so much that there must be a way I could stay home…but I heard in my heart that as much as I dread it, going back to work is what is best for everyone at this time. I don’t know where that came from but it hurt very much, whether it was me or a divine nudge I don’t know.
 
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I have a migraine because I cried so much, it hit me hard tonight that my days with my baby are coming to a close. 5 days a week my arms will be empty. That hurts so much. He will wonder “where’s mommy”. I am totally not well guys, please don’t send me to a psychiatrist I just need kind words. My husband hurt me a little because when he saw me crying thinking about how I will miss the baby so much he reminded me I have to think of our other kids, their college that will be free and the neighborhood we live in. He must not understand what a crushed heart is. My mother took care of my kids 20 years ago and I didn’t feel this way, perhaps because I knew they were safe. My baby won’t be loved right away like his grandma, they won’t rock him for an hour to lull him to sleep because they have other babies, they’ll put him down too quick and he’ll wake up…and on and on.
I’m gonna miss him so much, there’s so little joy in my life, he is finally a joy and i must leave him.
I’m sorry for sounding crazy, I feel desperate for reassurance.
 
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I have been there. I went back to work when my children were each ten weeks old. It was one of the hardest things I have had to do. It’s really hard to leave your little baby, who needs you so much, and go to work for other people. Unless you are well off enough that you can stay home indefinitely, it’s what you have to do to keep a roof over your heads and food on the table.

Very, very difficult. People don’t realize how hard it is until they are put in the same situation.
 
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I hear your frustration. I had to work caring for someone else’s child when my baby was under a year old, and it was so hard. I tried my best to be kind to the autistic deaf child I was caring for, and I knew my daughter was in a good daycare, but it was still hard.
I used to think about the women who leave their children in another country to come and make a better life for them by caring for other people’s kids. At least I got to go home each evening to my children.
Your baby will enjoy hanging out with other children and will soak up new experiences. You may feel bad but he will probably enjoy himself.
praying for you.
 
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