Please help me, I had a bad Sponsor!

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I received Conditional Baptism this past Sunday, July 24.

I am EXTRREMELY unsatisfied with the woman who was my Sponsor.

For example:
  1. She applied for several jobs with the SSPX.
  2. She teaches with a certain online college that also has on its staff two Priests who just up and left their Dioceses, not for a group such as the Fraternity of Saint Peter, but just to be "independent Priests. This online college also has on its staff the editor of Catholic Family News.
  3. She insulted a couple of reputable Catholic colleges.
There are also several other issues that I have with her.

Before the Baptism, I did not want her as my Sponsor, but the Priest said to go ahead and have her, because he didn’t want to delay my Baptism. So I agreed.

Is there ANY WAY that I can take her name completely off of the records, and either:

A: Put another person’s name in her place

or

B: Just leave the records blank.

Could I have the records changed to show that she was just the proxy for the person who I would have preferred be my sponsor?

I cannot have a relationship with her, since we disagree on so many issues.

I even gave back the gifts that she and her son gave me. I said that I could not be a hypocrite and keep them.

Could somebody out there please help me with this?

I will give more details, just ask.

Thanks!
 
I would not be ashamed to have her on there. The Lord knows you disagree with her on certain issues and you are faithful to Him. It is a cross to deal with her I’m sure, but that is a cross that would be good to embrace and not avoid (to the extent you are not putting yourself voluntarily into occassions of sin). It is good to look at this situation with many facets of virtue. You could be God’s instrument in helping her to not get involved with disobedient clergy and a radical traditionalist group. God gave you this sponsor for a reason, so I would not be so hasty to just go and reject her. St. Therese of Lisieux sought out the nun who she disliked the most and who gave her the most grief, so as a Catholic, and one who wishes to embrace suffering for the sanctification of souls, I would say to embrace this situation in a spirit of charity. Offer the sufferings of having her as your sponsor up to the Sacred Heart through the Immaculate Heart of Mary, so that she may embrace obedience and humility within her own soul.

Although the damage is already done, she was trying to be charitable to you by giving you gifts, so I don’t think giving her back those gifts was the best idea. “Whatever you have done to the least of my bretheren you have done to me.”

I hope that everyting works out for you! God reward you and keep you!

Pax Christi
 
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GoLatin:
I received Conditional Baptism this past Sunday, July 24.

I am EXTRREMELY unsatisfied with the woman who was my Sponsor.

Before the Baptism, I did not want her as my Sponsor, but the Priest said to go ahead and have her, because he didn’t want to delay my Baptism. So I agreed.

Is there ANY WAY that I can take her name completely off of the records, and either:

Could I have the records changed to show that she was just the proxy for the person who I would have preferred be my sponsor?

I cannot have a relationship with her, since we disagree on so many issues.
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Unless you can somehow go back in time an undo the baptism, NO there is nothing your can do except maybe take on a different attitude. Maybe one of allowing Christ to work through you to bring her and her son back to the Truth?
 
Although I know this really bothers you, I think it can be a blessing. There is a good chance that God put this woman in your life so that you can help her come back to the Truth. Pray for her and her heart- God works miracles in situations like this! 👍
 
I think this situation just goes to show how God is so merciful…he used this cross of a woman to bring another lamb into the fold.

This was God’s welcoming gift to you…take this situation and offer it up in unity with the suffering of Christ. What a wonderful gift! Right out of the gate, God is offering you a way to be comletely united!

Open your heart to this woman and her son and let your love and example shine forth. Pray for her. If you don’t have a perpetual adoration chapel, spend time in front of the tabernacle, just praying and offer your prayers and sufferings on their behalf.

You will be amazed at what God will do when you give him this burden.

And welcome home!
 
She really sounds like a kind and generous woman. I don’t understand why you want to get rid of her just because she didn’t get completely agree with Catholic colleges. Most aren’t even “Catholic” anymore even if they are acredited. Supporting the SSPX and independent priests doesn’t make someone immoral or a bad person. We all have different opinions on the Church and that shouldn’t stop us from communicating civilly. We all disagree with people but turning our backs on God’s children is not the answer.

If she was a “bad” Catholic that would be one thing but it sounds like she is strong in the faith as she is applying to religious jobs. I don’t think you gave valid reasons to get rid of your sponsor. I think you need to give her a second chance. Hopefully someone is good enough to be your sponsor. :rolleyes:
 
She gave up her time and talents to be your sponsor. No matter what the situation is between you now that fact remains the same. You should be gratfeul that she was there to do the job, even if you don’t agree with her on a few points.
 
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GoLatin:
I received Conditional Baptism this past Sunday, July 24.

I am EXTRREMELY unsatisfied with the woman who was my Sponsor.

For example:
  1. She applied for several jobs with the SSPX.
  2. She teaches with a certain online college that also has on its staff two Priests who just up and left their Dioceses, not for a group such as the Fraternity of Saint Peter, but just to be "independent Priests. This online college also has on its staff the editor of Catholic Family News.
  3. She insulted a couple of reputable Catholic colleges.
There are also several other issues that I have with her.

Before the Baptism, I did not want her as my Sponsor, but the Priest said to go ahead and have her, because he didn’t want to delay my Baptism. So I agreed.

Is there ANY WAY that I can take her name completely off of the records, and either:

A: Put another person’s name in her place

or

B: Just leave the records blank.

Could I have the records changed to show that she was just the proxy for the person who I would have preferred be my sponsor?

I cannot have a relationship with her, since we disagree on so many issues.

I even gave back the gifts that she and her son gave me. I said that I could not be a hypocrite and keep them.

Could somebody out there please help me with this?

I will give more details, just ask.

Thanks!
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It could be worse, she could be anti-Catholic. All you have described does not qualify her as a bad catholic.
 
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She gave up her time and talents to be your sponsor. No matter what the situation is between you now that fact remains the same. You should be gratfeul that she was there to do the job, even if you don’t agree with her on a few points.
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AMEN.
 
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