Sorry if my last message was not quite clear. That, It is better to forget it. Now, I am going to try to be more expressive about my thoughts on this topic.
I. Before all thing, for answering to your questions, it is necessary to define in these two special contexts (1. the marital act between wife and husband – before during and after the union of bodies --; 2. the medical and psychological treatment of sexual pain) some concepts.
a. Morally speaking in the catholic meaning, in the marriage and in general, between wife and husband, how do you know if an act of intimacy without marital act is moral or immoral? What are the types of acts that are morally okay (per se or in function of circuntances because neutral by definition) or objectively immoral (per se, always sinful)?
b. Morally speaking in the catholic meaning, in the marriage and in general, between wife and husband, how do you know if an act of intimacy that leads the marital act is moral or immoral? What are the types of acts that are morally okay (per se or in function of circuntances because neutral by definition) or objectively immoral (per se, always sinful)?
c. In fact the only question is: what is the acception of the notion of masturbation between wife and husband in the context of marital act? How do you define the masturbation during the marital act? What is morally okay or what is not morally okay??? What are the acts that are objectively immoral in the context of marital act? Do you know the black list of bad acts???
II. By definition, treatment can mean pains, efforts, sacrifices, bad times in order to solve the deep pain. Thus you and your wife if you want to cure, you need to be okay with a moderate pain: In theory, she needs to work on her psychological approach concerning her sexual pain (what is her level of pain that is acceptable and tolerable for her during the treatment?). In theory, you need to work on your psychological approach concerning the sexual pain of your wife (what is her level of pain that is acceptable and tolerable for you during the treatment?).
In practice, you [her husband] have the right to stimulate your wife in the human fashion (very long foreplay are okay) for preparing her before the union of bodies: that is not masturbation.
In practice if the pain is so horrible for her if you can not to finish what you have started, because sexual pain is too important, it is not a sin for you and for her to stop; and if you are scrupulous you can practice the " copula dimidiata ".
“The vaginal dilation and the " masturbation” to stretch and lubricate" done by you during foreplay is moral or immoral? That is the question? Can you adapt the treatment in the catholic way?
In the marriage, in order to cure the sexual pain of your wife, and thus to practice the sexual marital act between you and her:
What are the medical treatments, the psychological treatments, the moral treatments, the mental treatments, the physiological treatments, the sexed treatments, the sexual treatments that are compatible with the catholic teaching on the sexual conjugal morality ???
For giving an answer, you should avoid:
The sexo-conjugal fideism, the sexo-conjugal puritanism, the sexo-conjugal neopuritanism, the sexo-conjugal victorianism, the sexo-conjugal neovictorianism, the sexo-conjugal jansenism, the sexo-conjugal theoretical providentialism, the sexo-masculism, the sexo-genderism and the sexo-feminism, the sexo-moralism, the sexo-primary anti personalism.
If you want more, I can send to you a private message with many explanations.
