Pray for me: Frightened of Asking Girls Out

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This might sound like a silly prayer intention, but this is something I’ve been struggling with.

Iam a very outgoing extrovert and I have no problem meeting new people and introducing myself to them. In fact, this is my favorite thing to do. However, I am terrified of talking to girls I am attracted to, especially if I plan on asking the girl out.

Because my fear confuses me and goes against my very personality, I often am filled with regret and self hatred every time I fail to ask a girl out. I’m not afraid of rejection, I feel like I’m breaking the rules and it doesn’t feel right, possibly because I’ve never had a girlfriend or done/said anything romantic in all my 21 years of life.

No matter what the root of the problem, please pray for me so I may overcome this stupid and irrational fear so I may get married to a devout Catholic wife. Thank you 😊

I should add that my fear is also causing jealousy whenever I see people younger than me with girlfriends and jealousy when I see guys just walk up to girls they like as if it were nothing. This fear is clearly from Satan because it causes me to sin in many ways, including jealousy, rage, and self hatred to name a few. It also is driving me to drink since that’s the only way to get over the deep self hatred I feel when I think about how pathetic I am when it comes to simple stuff. Also, this fear probably gets in the way of God’s Will too since I feel called to marriage, and by not ever asking any girls out I can never get married.
 
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Don’t rush yourself. Be patient in all things. Listen to what God is trying to teach you.
I was a big introvert and was terrified of asking a girl out. I got anxious and ended up marrying a girl that was totally wrong for me just a couple of weeks before I turned 23. That marriage ended thirteen years later and has been annulled. At age 42 God brought me to my perfect match and we are married nearly 20 years and happier than ever. I’ve learned patience is definitely a virtue God has taught me, and I’ve learned to practice it in my daily life. God Bless!
 
You are stronger than you think, and the task is easier than you think, pray for assistance and then do…what’s the worst that could happen.

Dear Lord I pray that this young man has the mental strength and fortitude to be able to ask a girl out without over thinking and without fear.
Thank you Father.
Amen.
 
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It also is driving me to drink since that’s the only way to get over the deep self hatred I feel when I think about how pathetic I am when it comes to simple stuff.
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I will add you to my prayer list, Melodeonist.

However, drinking is not going to solve any problems for you. In fact, it may create more of them. Contrary to what you said, it not the only way to get over the deep self hatred you feel. There is:

1- Prayer.
2- Get professional counseling. It will not take long for you to see results once you start talking to someone.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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Hail Mary
Full of grace,
The Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus
Holy Mary
Mother of God,
Pray for us sinners,
Now and at the hour of death, Amen.
 
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
 
why do you think you’re afraid of this? why do you feel like you’re breaking the rules?

I don’t think it’s simply because you haven’t had a girlfriend.

bokbok
 
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Praying for you

Philippians 4:6-7 : Have no anxiety about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which passes all understanding, will keep your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
 
There’s a few things that I think I can see connections to this stupid fear. When I do something that I haven’t done before I feel like my parents would disapprove and punish me which is absurd since I’m 21 and my parents wouldn’t care whatsoever. I honestly feel that if I went to Walmart and just asked all the young ladies out there then my fear would be gone. I’m not afraid of rejection, and I honestly don’t care what people think of me so these aren’t any factors in play here.

Honestly, I’m only afraid of talking to women I’m attracted to and I know are Catholic. I think Satan could have something to do with this because this is a huge setback and it puts me way down.

I guess I also am afraid that if the girl did go out on a date then I wouldn’t have any idea what to do. I don’t know what people talk about on dates and I certainly don’t know how to flirt
 
You probably won’t have any idea what to do and you probably will get rejected. And it’s better to be friends first anyway. Get to have a bunch of female friends first and learn how to just be around women

You’re 21 now, try getting girls numbers. Maybe try at a bar first and move onto catholic women

And just a word of advice, the accordion ain’t that cool so maybe not bring that up super quick.

Bokbok
 
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I happen to have many female friends. I know exactly what I need to do, I just need to ask one of my female friends on a date. That’s very easy. My problem is that I feel like I’m not supposed to ask a girl out because “I’m too young” or some nonsense. Once I do it I won’t have this problem again.

As for the accordion, if the girl don’t like the accordion, I don’t like that girl.
 
that’s not something I’d lead with is all. it’s not the sexist instrument, that’s for sure

Just do it, then. ask a girl out this week. report back.

bokbok
 
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Our Father, Who art in heaven,
Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

†

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the Fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.
†
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle,
be our defense against the wickedness and snares
of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray.
And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the
power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other
evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.
Amen.
†
St. Thérèse of Liseux Prayer From “Story of A Soul”
May today there be peace within.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received,
and pass on the love that has been given to you.
May you be content knowing you are a child of God.
Let this presence settle into your bones,
and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise, and love.
It is there for each and every one of us.
Amen.
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Lord, thank you that you are with me right now.
Your love surpasses all fear.
I give you the anxiety I feel.
I surrender all my worries to you.
Clear my mind;
Calm my heart;
Still my Spirit;
Relax my being, that, I may
always glorify you in everything
I write, speak and do.
Amen.

†

Jesus, Help Me
Thank You, dear Lord Jesus.
Amen.

†

Prayers said. All will be well. Do not fear, the Lord is protecting you.
Do not be lonely, your guardian angel is beside you.
Be comforted, Mother will watch over you, and the
Holy Spirit will guide you.
Amen.
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Prayer Against Depression
By St Ignatius of Loyola
O Christ Jesus
When all is darkness
And we feel our weakness and helplessness,
Give us the sense of Your Presence,
Your Love and Your Strength.
Help us to have perfect trust
In Your protecting love
And strengthening power,
So that nothing may frighten or worry us,
For, living close to You,
We shall see Your Hand,
Your Purpose, Your Will through all things.
Amen.

†

Let nothing disturb you,
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.
Patience,
Obtains all things,
Whoever has God
Lacks nothing:
God alone suffices.
Amen.
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My Jesus,
I believe that You are
present in the Most Holy Sacrament.
I love You above all things, and
I desire to receive You into my soul.
Since I cannot at this moment receive
You sacramentally, come at least spiritually
into my heart. I embrace You
as if You were already there and
unite myself wholly to You.
Never permit me to be separated
from You.
Amen.
†
Thank You dear Lord Jesus, always and
everywhere, for everything.
Amen.
†
Jesus, I trust in You.
Amen.
❤️
†
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