Pre-Cana for Non-Catholic Fiance

[PassingThru]

You hit the nail on the head Rick. I didn’t want to go back and re-hash the argument. I was in no way implying some grand individual “Truth”. As you said, a group of people may adhere strictly to the Catholic Teachings as Truth. Another may stick to Baptist Teachings as Truth. Each individual, whether they intended to or not, has picked a Truth, so to speak, for themselves. One standing up and saying mine is “The Truth” and yours are just a belief is just not constructive. Both think they are right. And so begins the animosity.

*disclaimer, I am using these terms loosely, I am not trying to start a discussion on all the implied/historical intents of any individual term.

The specific point that probably rubs people, at least me, the wrong way is drawing the direct line>

God>Jesus>(insert church)

and then proclaiming if you don’t believe the above in absolute completion, then you believe none of it. That will certainly invoke reactions from people.

 

[rick43235]

You hit the nail on the head Rick.

Thanks, but as I think about it, I’m afraid I hit it with only a glancing blow. When I said:

The simple fact is that none of us REALLY know what the “truth” is.

…it was probably inaccurate to use the word “truth” in that context. It would probably be more accurate to say that we don’t really know what the facts are where the existence of God (life after death, the meaning of life, the origin of the universe, whether or not Elvis is still alive, etc) is concerned.

 

[sms]

Take some time to read the Catechism on marriage, what She teaches about mixed marriages - why even Pre Cana cannot be squishy and indifferent.

Thank you for posting that. I had read most of it prior, but it’s a good reminder. I agree that Pre-Cana should be honest about Catholic teachings and practices and give proper advice, but I get upset to hear that some in the sessions have made the non-Catholic participants feel inferior and unworthy to be marrying a Catholic, and I don’t want to see that happen with our future son-in-law. They are very much in love, and from what I can tell he will make an excellent husband and father one day. When one falls in love so beautifully and both partners bring out the true best in each other, I don’t feel marriage should be discouraged just because one is not Catholic.