Presenting Flowers to Mary and Nuptial Mass

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When does this happen and what is the protocol? Again, I am clueless. šŸ¤·

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Hmmmā€¦ well we didnā€™t use any sort of ā€œprotocolā€ā€¦

After the ceremony we had some photographs taken in the churchā€¦ then more photos out in the Grotto at our parish (with a huge statue of Mary)ā€¦ while we were out there I pulled a few roses from my bouquetā€¦

Nothing ā€œceremonialā€ about it, thoughā€¦ šŸ˜ƒ
 
StratusRose said:
When does this happen and what is the protocol? Again, I am clueless. šŸ¤·

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Beleaguered Bride
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Have seen it done after the nuptial mass, after the priest has left.
Though once it was done at the end of mass, priest still there.
Normally a bouquet placed there.

Check with the priest as to what he suggests.

I had the florist deliver flowers (arrangements) to the church for the altar and one for Mother Mary. With instructions as to where to put them. And after the mass was over we took pictures in front of Mother Mary. The Sacristan told me to take them after and I said no all the arrangements were offerings from us.
 
This is usual directed by the parish. With our wedding it was arranged when we rehearsed. It is usually right after the conclusion of Mass.
 
For us it was during the Mass. We had Ave Maria being played/sung at the time. I canā€™t remember at which point in the Mass it happened :eek: I think it was some time after Holy Communion, but Iā€™m not sure. Check with your priest šŸ™‚
 
In our Nuptial Mass, we did the presentation of flowers at the end of the Communion Rite-- after the ā€œPrayer After Communionā€ and before the ā€œConcluding Riteā€.

Our cantor sang a solo (On This Day O Beautiful Mother) while we presented the flowers.
 
Let me check our wedding program šŸ™‚

We did it right after Communion. One of the choir members sang the Ave Maria as a solo. Logistically speaking, I had the florist make a small bouquet of roses and place it in the very first pew, where my bridesmaids were going to be sitting. The lily for Dh to use for the St. Joseph dedication was placed on the opposite side with his groomsmen. As DH and I came down from the sanctuary my sister handed the bouquet to me and one of his brothers handed him the the lily.
First, DH came with me and stood behind me while I knelt and offered the roses and a prayer at the Marian altar, then I went with DH to the St. Joseph altar and stood behind him while he knelt and offered the lilly and a prayer. St. Joseph is his patron saint, so we added the presentation of the lily.
 
adrift said:
This is usual directed by the parish. With our wedding it was arranged when we rehearsed. It is usually right after the conclusion of Mass.
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We did this tooā€¦

We presented white roses to Our Lady tinged w/ redā€¦
ā€¦ā€œto remind thee of thy glories, fruits of the sufferings of thy Son and theeā€¦ā€
 
Done right after communion, Had Hail Mary Gentle Woman sung. As far as protocolā€¦ In my parish, the priest has the bouquet on the altar, he brings it to you, you and dh go over to the Holy family. You place the bouquet at the Holy Family and kneel down. DH stands behind (and a little to the right) and places his left hand on your right shoulder (and bows his head) as you pray. When you are done, DH helps you up and you return to the altar.
 
We did it right after the sign of peace, the choir sang Ave Maira. This was however,before the latest changes in the Mass and may no longer be allowed during the Mass itself. Check with your parish, there is not a liturgical basis for it.
 
We did it directly after the vows, although I had intended to do it after communion.
 
Our priest asked us not to do it during the Mass. We did it afterward during the picture taking.

Kim
 
StratusRose said:
When does this happen and what is the protocol? Again, I am clueless. šŸ¤·

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Beleaguered Bride
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Like the unity candle, it is not part of the marriage rite, but like other cultural customs, may be allowed in your parish or diocese. Ask the priest when you are planning the Mass. Sometimes it is done after communion as a soloist sings the Ave Maria, or if the priest is very strict about the order of the Mass, can be done right after the last blessing and dismissal, and before the processional if there is to be one. Sometimes just the bride does this, walks over to the statue of the Virgin and lays down flowers, sometimes bride and groom go together. Brides usually obtain another bouquet or spray of flowers, usually roses or lilies, for this purpose, so they can keep their bridal bouquet.
 
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Our priest asked us not to do it during the Mass.

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Same here. What we were instructed to do was to have flowers put on the Mary Altar by the florist when they brought the rest of the Church flowers. There was an entry in the program which mentioned that those flowers were dedicated to the Blessed Virgin in the name of our deceased grandparents.
 
I had no problem with the Holy Family prayerā€¦ I just HATE the unity candle thing!!! Besides my MIL is agoraphobic and my mom is an attention hog, I doubt MIL would do anything up in front of people especially at a Catholic Church!!! (obviously in-laws arenā€™t Catholic and caused problems for us)
 
CatholicSam said:
For us it was during the Mass. We had Ave Maria being played/sung at the time. I canā€™t remember at which point in the Mass it happened :eek: I think it was some time after Holy Communion, but Iā€™m not sure. Check with your priest šŸ™‚
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This is when i have seen it done at all my friends weddings. Normal done after they finished their vows but before the gifts are brought up for the offertory.
 
queen_anne78 said:
Let me check our wedding program šŸ™‚

We did it right after Communion. One of the choir members sang the Ave Maria as a solo. Logistically speaking, I had the florist make a small bouquet of roses and place it in the very first pew, where my bridesmaids were going to be sitting. The lily for Dh to use for the St. Joseph dedication was placed on the opposite side with his groomsmen. As DH and I came down from the sanctuary my sister handed the bouquet to me and one of his brothers handed him the the lily.
First, DH came with me and stood behind me while I knelt and offered the roses and a prayer at the Marian altar, then I went with DH to the St. Joseph altar and stood behind him while he knelt and offered the lilly and a prayer. St. Joseph is his patron saint, so we added the presentation of the lily.
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That is sooo niceā€¦kind of like asking Mary and Joseph for help in your marriage.
 
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