Preserving my Virginity

[mron2]

I am a 19 year old female, born and raised in the Roman Catholic Church. While going to Catholic school, I met my current boyfriend. We’ve been going out for three years now and he wants to be more intimate.

but I would like your opinion on it. Thanks, and god bless.

Good luck on this-- i don’t know how many other guy’s who were once 19 years old-- but i can tell you that he dreams of having sex with you-- and that is actually “normal”

and having graduaded from a catholic highschool- run by nuns and priests-- i can tell you that – the education of how to deal with this is “lacking”

i don’t know many – who were successful in this-- but i do know a a few people – who got married becasue – it was an on going issue- and did not want to continue in sexual sin-

the things a guy might say-- to a girl- so as to have a sex event-- is monumental –

and as a guy gets older-- embarrassing

 

[Erich]

He’s respected my boundaries for all this time but has really been adamant about doing more.

By definition, people who are having sex prior to marriage are already demonstrating their capability and willingness to have sex outside of marriage.

 

[InNomineDomini]

It might not be a troll. Frequent forum members often use alternate accounts to ask sexual questions. I guess they want to preserve the reputation of their anonymous, online self.

Agreed.

If it is a troll, this situation may nonetheless be close to something some other reader is experiencing, and the answer may help them or encourage them or educate them.

But if it’s not a troll, then you’re isolating someone who may be struggling with a moral teaching of the Church, and you’re giving them excuses to give in to the pressures around them.

Reason is against playing “you can’t fool me” games.

 

[SouthernBelle00]

I am a 19 year old female, born and raised in the Roman Catholic Church. While going to Catholic school, I met my current boyfriend. We’ve been going out for three years now and he wants to be more intimate.

He’s respected my boundaries for all this time but has really been adamant about doing more. I, however, am adamant about preserving myself until marriage. He suggested that we do anal sex instead of vaginal in order for me to keep my virginity. I’ve thought about it for a while, but I would like your opinion on it. Thanks, and god bless.

I have so much to say about this!

1- You’re very young and I don’t really know if marriage is something that is on your mind right now. Perhaps, you should hold off dating until you are ready to find the man you truly want to spend the rest of your life with. Most boys around your age are only into sex and hookups. You say you’ve been with the same guy for three years and that’s great, BUT if he is pressuring you for sex, that is not good.

2- Anal sex is not just immoral, it is gross and one way to get diseases.

3- You didn’t say if your boyfriend was Catholic or not, but I think it’s very important for Catholics to exclusively date other serious Catholics. You want to be with a man who has the same values and priorities you do, you don’t want to be a non-Catholic guy who will lead you astray.

 

[Royalist]

Is this man husband material? He doesn’t seem like it.

If he isn’t, you’re wasting your time.