Priest pulled my daughters hair

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A few months back my 10yo daughter was having a tough time in class. Her teacher, a priest, asked her a question she did not know. She was scared to admit she did not know the answer and hid under her desk. The Priest told her to stay after class. Now she is even more scared. When the bell rang, she tired to leave the classroom but the priest reached out, grabbed her ponytail and pulled her back in the room. When he let go, she ran around a table and out the door to escape. Another student said the priest ran after her but she was too fast and he went back to the classroom.

He is no longer teaching the class but is still around the school and saying some of their school masses. The problem I have is that he has not admitted to it, he said he didn’t think it happened, but then a few weeks later said his fingers got caught in her hair and then later said he was trying to touch her shoulder.

We have corroborating evidence from 3 other children whose recollection matches my daughters. Yet his story changed 3 times.

The parish is backing the priest.

What would you do knowing a priest lied to you?
 
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A few months back my 10yo daughter was having a tough time in class. Her teacher, a priest, asked her a question she did not know. She was scared to admit she did not know the answer and hid under her desk. The Priest told her to stay after class. Now she is even more scared. When the bell rang, she tired to leave the classroom but the priest reached out, grabbed her ponytail and pulled her back in the room. When he let go, she ran around a table and out the door to escape. Another student said the priest ran after her but she was too fast and he went back to the classroom.

He is no longer teaching the class but is still around the school and saying some of their school masses. The problem I have is that he has not admitted to it, he said he didn’t think it happened, but then a few weeks later said his fingers got caught in her hair and then later said he was trying to touch her shoulder.

We have corroborating evidence from 3 other children whose recollection matches my daughters. Yet his story changed 3 times.

The parish is backing the priest.

What would you do knowing a priest lied to you?
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We did and they are investigating. But it doesn’t seem like it anyone is taking it too seriously. But what about the priest lying?
 
What about it? I don’t know what you think can be done about it. It is on him, not you.
I hope that the diocese will be able to do their investigation quickly, but thoroughly.
 
How about the police? Assault? Don’t just let it go–that’s how we got into this mess in the first place.
 
Since you feel it is not being handled seriously, I’d call the authorities. Then it will maybe be given the weight you wish. It matters nothing to me that he is a priest. Teacher, parent I’d follow protocol. the accusation of lying is not warranted from what you wrote. He has a different version.
However as a parent I cannot even fathom a situation in which my child were ever in a classroom after they were so scared of the teacher that they had to hide under a desk. And as of that day I would never have them back in the room. Ever. But honestly I’m not sure this is the whole story. It just doesn’t seem right.
 
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There’s something strange going on here if a child is so afraid of a teacher for simply not knowing the answer to a question that they hide under their desk and then run out of the room rather than stay after class.

Also, to me the question is not really did he grab the ponytail or get his hand caught or whatever, but rather, should he have been touching a kid at all, even to keep them in the room when he told them to stay after and they disobeyed and ran out. I know in my day it would not have been unusual for a teacher to grab you to keep you in the room or in your seat or wherever if they told you to stay there and you got up and tried to run away, but that was decades ago, and policies have changed a lot. How old is this priest? Is he from an era when things were done differently? You also mention he is no longer teaching the class, so is there some reason we need to worry about him still being “around the school” saying Mass? Are there other priests or teachers around keeping an eye on him when he’s saying the Mass?

Whole lot of unanswered questions here that I would be concerned about.
 
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