Prob with holy day of obligation

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my church has announced that this tues will be a holy day of obligation, with a vigil mass at 730 pm mon, a 7 am mass tues and a 730 pm mass. unfortunately, the two evening masses fall during my swim practices, and with the 7 am mass will most likely run into my school day (school starts at 730). so, i asked my mom - do you think it would be better for me to miss one day of practice or about 15 min of school? her response was : no. im not going, i never have gone, and your not missing swimming and your not missing school. you have other obligations.

so now im at a loss of what to do. i know that if you have a valid excuse the obligation can be lifted - but i dont know does this qualify? and even if it did, i will still feel guilty. what do you think i should do?
 
If you’d only have to miss 15 minutes of class time I can’t see what objection your mother or school could have. A holy day of obligation is not to be missed lightly, and to me this would not be a good enough reason to miss. Tell your teacher or school administrator, or whoever you need to get permission from to miss the last few minutes of your class, that your faith obligates you to attend this Mass which only comes once a year. I’m sure they could accommodate you.
 
I also concur with IJJ, that oftentimes Protestants do what the Catholic Church teaches, but they don’t call what they do the same name as Catholics, so they think that Catholics aren’t doing what they are. I remember having this discussion with an Assemblies of God pastor and missionary. I told him too that what Catholics call good works he would think of as “walking in Christ” and living out the faith. He’s now a Catholic.
 
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no. im not going, i never have gone, and your not missing swimming and your not missing school. you have other obligations.
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Is your mother Catholic? Does she claim to be Catholic? If so, then, with all due respect, your mother is confused. Yes, you have other obligations. We all do. But some obligations are more important than others. Honoring the Church triumphant one day of the year is more important than whatever you’re likely to be doing in school for the first 15 or 30 minutes.

That said, I think that if your mother refuses to support you in this, or refuses to let you attend Mass at the expense of these other obligations, that you are not morally culpable. In other words, I don’t think that it would be a mortal sin FOR YOU as a minor, since you are bound to your parents’ authority.

For your mother, on the other hand, it’s a different story.
 
You’re dependent upon your mother, so this would be her sin, not yours. If you can’t go to Mass, nothing can stop you from praying. Maybe you could get the readings for the day on line (the USSCB website has them) and then reflect and pray over them. I think it’s wonderful that you have such devotion so young–many of us adults could learn something from you! 🙂
 
thank you everyone for all your advice. i just had another talk with my mother and i got a ‘fine do what ever you want’ 🙂 so it looks like i will be able to go to mass tues morning. 👍

and yes, my mother is catholic. she was actually brought up in a pretty catholic home, so i dont really know why she is the way she is. i dont think i will be able to persuade her to come to mass with me, nor will i most likely get permission to bring my younger sister along (i will be working on this one, dont worry), because we will be missing a little class. she says she see going to mass every week as important but not ‘all these extra days they throw in.’. please please please pray for her
 
I have learned many things from my children, as your mother is learning how important following your faith is to you. You will be a good influence on her. Make sure to thank her and be a great kid that day. She will feel blessed and God’s grace will be at work. Maybe ask her if she will go with you, so you can do something together. God bless you on your journey.
 
How sad, but how common.

You are obliged to Honour thy father and mother according to the decalogue.

When you are an adult and responsible for your own actions you will be able to place Christ the King at the pinacle of the social order and organise your life around things spiritual. This sounds easy but it is NOT.

When you say your evening prayers add an extra in for your parents to realise what is the more important…

God Bless You
 
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