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jazzy0710
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Hi everyone,
This is probably going to be a bit long and I sincerely apologize, but I don’t know where else to turn because this is a very tricky situation which is having a very large negative impact on the mental health of myself and my other co-workers.
I won’t use real names of course, so just try your best to bear with me.
I work as a cleaner at a gym. I have been working there for 10 years. My father is the head of the cleaners. There’s definitely pros and cons to working with a parent haha!
There’s this woman who we will call “ Phyllis”. She has been there as long as I have. Our journey with Phyllis has not been an easy one. The last 2 and a half years have been the absolute worst when it comes to dealing with Phyllis.
Just to give a quick history about the kind of person she is, here it goes.
She grew up in a family of 5(I think). She had a brother that died at a young age. Her family moved around a lot and her parents got divorced. Her mother re-married a couple of times from what I understand, but had tendency to have affairs with married men. Phyllis’ biological Father committed suicide a little over 15 years ago. She still refuses to work on his birthday, father’s day, and the anniversary of his death. When Phyllis was 19 she got pregnant with a son. 2 years later she got pregnant again with a little girl. She gave the little girl up for adoption after learning that she had ADHD because she felt it was too much to deal with and that her son came along first anyway. Ironically she found out a few years later that her son had ADHD as well. She kept him though.
Phyllis is also an addict. She had a very severe gambling problem which put her thousands and thousands of dollars in debt. In the 10 years I have worked with her she has lived in several different apartments that she has got kicked out of because she can’t pay her rent. She has been going to a therapist off and on since I have been working with her,but more often in the last 2 and a half years.
She hit rock bottom 2 and a half years ago, started borrowing money from anyone and everyone and would not pay it back. She went on stress leave for a month. She came back for a month and then was off for another 2 weeks because she severely hurt her finger while at work. She was back again for another 2 months and then was off for 6 weeks because she got hit by a car. She was walking on crutches for 2 weeks and then was off them and other staff would see her walking by the building totally fine, but if someone noticed her and she noticed them, she would start limping. Myself and another woman who no longer works with us who we will call “Darlene”. Well Darlene and I were getting very annoyed because in all this time that Phyllis was off, she would be hanging around the building for hours at a time and Darlene and I were exhausted because we were the ones covering the majority of Phyllis’ shifts, plus our own.
We know that Phyllis has stolen things from the lost and found. We have told on her many many times but we keep getting told that it can’t be proven until she is caught on camera.
Phyllis has in the past, bragged to other staff in different departments that she only does what she feels like doing.
One thing that really makes me sick is that we have this man that works in our department named “Josh”. Josh is a bit of a slow learner with a learning disability and Phyllis takes advantage of him and gets money from him all the time. We all tried talking to him the first time he did it, after he gave her $350.00 and he stopped for quite a while and has started to do it again. Phyllis also got very fustuarated with him recently and swore at him. However when he was brought in the office for questioning he said that she didn’t but told some of the other cleaners that she did. There were 2 other cleaners at the time that said they heard her say it to him and they came forward but nothing was done about it.
She was promoted recently to a shift supervisor position. Things have just gotten far worse. Phyllis will often brag about her relationship with my father how he only asks her and her only to do certain things because he knows they won’t get down otherwise. She brags that they have also had coffee together at the local coffee shop as well. This has got other janitors very nervous because Phyllis, just like her mother, has tenedency to get involved with married men.
We have caught her placing things around the building to see if things are getting cleaned. We have told my Dad but he always seems to have an excuse for her and he gets very mad every time someone does make a complaint about her for what ever reason. 90% of the time he makes an excuse for her, it’s her health. She is often quite negative dragging the rest of us down with her. She has also been known to be very threatening toward other staff. She threatened me about a year and a half ago and I got up and told her that she was barking up the wrong tree and that if she is going to hit me that I better be out cold because if I get back up that I will snap her in half like a twig.
She often makes fun of other staff and customers and has made many references to what my parents sound like when they have sex and has told me that I could never handle a black man and that my Father would never let me be with one. Can you believe this woman?! She also for some reason feels that she has the right to tell me what to do with me life. What I should and shouldn’t be doing.I have told her to back off and have told her that she’s not my mother that I already have one, and no matter how I reply, she always replies back with “you don’t have do be so ***** rude about it!”
This is probably going to be a bit long and I sincerely apologize, but I don’t know where else to turn because this is a very tricky situation which is having a very large negative impact on the mental health of myself and my other co-workers.
I won’t use real names of course, so just try your best to bear with me.
I work as a cleaner at a gym. I have been working there for 10 years. My father is the head of the cleaners. There’s definitely pros and cons to working with a parent haha!
There’s this woman who we will call “ Phyllis”. She has been there as long as I have. Our journey with Phyllis has not been an easy one. The last 2 and a half years have been the absolute worst when it comes to dealing with Phyllis.
Just to give a quick history about the kind of person she is, here it goes.
She grew up in a family of 5(I think). She had a brother that died at a young age. Her family moved around a lot and her parents got divorced. Her mother re-married a couple of times from what I understand, but had tendency to have affairs with married men. Phyllis’ biological Father committed suicide a little over 15 years ago. She still refuses to work on his birthday, father’s day, and the anniversary of his death. When Phyllis was 19 she got pregnant with a son. 2 years later she got pregnant again with a little girl. She gave the little girl up for adoption after learning that she had ADHD because she felt it was too much to deal with and that her son came along first anyway. Ironically she found out a few years later that her son had ADHD as well. She kept him though.
Phyllis is also an addict. She had a very severe gambling problem which put her thousands and thousands of dollars in debt. In the 10 years I have worked with her she has lived in several different apartments that she has got kicked out of because she can’t pay her rent. She has been going to a therapist off and on since I have been working with her,but more often in the last 2 and a half years.
She hit rock bottom 2 and a half years ago, started borrowing money from anyone and everyone and would not pay it back. She went on stress leave for a month. She came back for a month and then was off for another 2 weeks because she severely hurt her finger while at work. She was back again for another 2 months and then was off for 6 weeks because she got hit by a car. She was walking on crutches for 2 weeks and then was off them and other staff would see her walking by the building totally fine, but if someone noticed her and she noticed them, she would start limping. Myself and another woman who no longer works with us who we will call “Darlene”. Well Darlene and I were getting very annoyed because in all this time that Phyllis was off, she would be hanging around the building for hours at a time and Darlene and I were exhausted because we were the ones covering the majority of Phyllis’ shifts, plus our own.
We know that Phyllis has stolen things from the lost and found. We have told on her many many times but we keep getting told that it can’t be proven until she is caught on camera.
Phyllis has in the past, bragged to other staff in different departments that she only does what she feels like doing.
One thing that really makes me sick is that we have this man that works in our department named “Josh”. Josh is a bit of a slow learner with a learning disability and Phyllis takes advantage of him and gets money from him all the time. We all tried talking to him the first time he did it, after he gave her $350.00 and he stopped for quite a while and has started to do it again. Phyllis also got very fustuarated with him recently and swore at him. However when he was brought in the office for questioning he said that she didn’t but told some of the other cleaners that she did. There were 2 other cleaners at the time that said they heard her say it to him and they came forward but nothing was done about it.
She was promoted recently to a shift supervisor position. Things have just gotten far worse. Phyllis will often brag about her relationship with my father how he only asks her and her only to do certain things because he knows they won’t get down otherwise. She brags that they have also had coffee together at the local coffee shop as well. This has got other janitors very nervous because Phyllis, just like her mother, has tenedency to get involved with married men.
We have caught her placing things around the building to see if things are getting cleaned. We have told my Dad but he always seems to have an excuse for her and he gets very mad every time someone does make a complaint about her for what ever reason. 90% of the time he makes an excuse for her, it’s her health. She is often quite negative dragging the rest of us down with her. She has also been known to be very threatening toward other staff. She threatened me about a year and a half ago and I got up and told her that she was barking up the wrong tree and that if she is going to hit me that I better be out cold because if I get back up that I will snap her in half like a twig.
She often makes fun of other staff and customers and has made many references to what my parents sound like when they have sex and has told me that I could never handle a black man and that my Father would never let me be with one. Can you believe this woman?! She also for some reason feels that she has the right to tell me what to do with me life. What I should and shouldn’t be doing.I have told her to back off and have told her that she’s not my mother that I already have one, and no matter how I reply, she always replies back with “you don’t have do be so ***** rude about it!”