Penance is a corrective action. It’s not a punishment or “You’re such a horrible person” session. For my last confession I was told to a)thank God for his mercy b)to go forth and glorify God and c)pray [starting with 5 Our Fathers]. I thought I got off easy. Then I started to say the Our Fathers. By the 2nd or 3rd Our Father it turned from “say 5 and I’m good” to “how great God’s love and mercy are that He not only forgives me, but has me praying for His help [the Our Father [daily bread, forgive us our sins, etc].” “How can I want to seperate myself from One who has such love for me.” I’ll sin again, I’ll go to confession again, I’ll say the 2 or 3 or 5 prayers again, but I won’t do this because I’m afraid of a punishment. I’ll go to confession and say the prayers because I don’t want to the seperation that is caused by sin. Confession and our penance are the means by which to correct this seperation.