I find in essence that it is in totally trusting God as a little one trusts a parent that we are seeking that total dependence on God.
As young children, we don’t think about where our food or shelter comes from, but just assume that our needs will be provided. We likewise understand that when we are “bad” that our parents will discipline us, and accept that when it is at least within some degree of reason, even if we don’t like it.
Later, as we learn to do things for ourselves, and get praised for “our” successes, we begin to take on a view that “life is what you make it” and that everything is “earned” by what we do and how we do it. Jesus made it very clear that ALL are loved by God and that that is a free gift that *cannot *be earned, nor can it be lost. We are always allowed to realize our misdeeds and offenses and express contrition with total confidence that we have not lost that love.
So I think that it is our dependence on our own actions and our beliefs that we can earn heaven or God’s love that Jesus was telling us we need to get over. That we need to joyfully accept that we are already loved and that God will provide for our needs. In doing so we can lovingly offer up who we are to Him as our gift, realizing that in the end it is the only real gift we have to offer.
When we do that, like the “little drummer boy” we’ll be able to say–in spite of feeling like our gift was small compared to others–“then He smiled at me”. For like the widow’s mite, our gift will have been one of great love, out of our need rather than from our surplus.
Peace,