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Is it a sin that I sent a girl a picture of my abs? I wasn’t talking dirty to her or anything. She was just curious what my abs looked like. I mean she would see the same at the beach so is it okay? I need to be at peace thanks!
 
Unless you intended it to lead her into sinful thoughts … I wouldn’t think sin is present. But just from what happens in the world when kids start sharing pics of their bodies … well, one thing leads to another and then it’s too late. Who knows who’ll see that pic or where (on what chat app or board) will it end up. Learn from this and in future be more prudent with what pics you send others. What seems harmless now, may not end up harmless later …
 
I didn’t intend to lead her to sinful thoughts and I will not send anymore pics but I get what you mean. Am I good though if I pray about it ? Or do I have to go to confession now
 
I don’t believe it is grave matter. If it was pics of other places on your body, and it was in the hope of sexting, then that’d be different. If it was more that along the lines of “I work out at the gym a lot and the result of all my hard work is I now have muscles on my abs” ← being the reason why you shared, then I don’t think you need to go to confession.

But it also sounds to me like you are scrupulous, and if so, then for your peace of conscience, just mention it briefly in confession to Father and ask his advice.

Secondly, if you are scrupulous, you really are not going to be helped by asking questions on the net, even though your really stressed and need an answer. You do need to develop a relationship with your own priest and abide by his counsel - if you want any peace.

God bless.
 
We were just texting and then started talking about abs and I said wanna see and she said yes. I didn’t intend for her to have any sinful thoughts or anything of that matter. So should I be fine? As long as I pray about it? And I emailed my priest rest assured!
 
It doesn’t sound like there was the intention to sin or lead another into sin from what you say. I also think the pic of the abs is in itself morally neutral, but in these circumstances certainly isn’t grave matter. It also sounds like there wasn’t much forethought before acting - so there doesn’t appear to be full knowledge about whether it would be wrong in any way before snapping and sending.

Make a sincere act of perfect contrition. Then abide by your priests counsel once he replies to your email.
 
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We were just texting and then started talking about abs
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And that’s how things get out of hand, and one thing leads to another, and before you know it, things have gone too far and are irretrievable.
 
I agree with what CRV has written. Make it a policy to send nothing in pictures or in writing that you would not want to see printed on the front page of the newspaper and handed out with Sunday Church Bulletins. There are thousands of people who have been embarrassed or denied an employment position because such ill-advised personal information can be accessed. If you can imagine that your parish priest would not approve, then don’t send whatever you’re contemplating sending.

Although what you’ve described, if you were clothed, may not be sinful, I’m not your priest. Since you seem apprehensive now, after the fact, I do think that you should discuss the incident with Father the next time you go to confession.

I’m thinking that you felt a bit antsy before you hit Send. ANY time you get nervous (strange sensations) when you’re about to do something—like take a solitary walk in a strange town, drive too fast, tease a snake, or send something questionable on the Internet—just stop. Listen to your mind and body. It’s their way of saying, “Don’t be an idiot.” Do something else, and talk to your Guardian Angel.

And . . . welcome to CAF!
 
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I don’t think this would be grave, but you should ask yourself what led you to send that image:

Did you send it because you like your own abs? That could be a little sign of pride.

Did you do it because you want something with/from that girl? That could be a little sign of lust.

Did you think that she might like your abs? Then you could be helping her a bit to sin.

Did you just send it without thinking too much? Then think a bit about it, and don’t repeat in the future.

In any case, tell God what you think you might have done wrong, and ask Him for forgiveness and for wisdom in the future.
 
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Is it a sin that I sent a girl a picture of my abs? I wasn’t talking dirty to her or anything. She was just curious what my abs looked like. I mean she would see the same at the beach so is it okay? I need to be at peace thanks
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You seem pretty clueless about it, so it may not be sinful due to that.

That beeeing said, I’m a woman and abs ARE typically seen as a ‘hot’ body part. Men go crazy at cleavage, and many women go crazy at muscles.

I would give her a little side-eye. I’ve friends who casually asked for pictures like that, and it’s not just innocent curiosity, haha.

Just don’t send pics like that anymore and you should be fine
 
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Ksm2 said:
Is it a sin that I sent a girl a picture of my abs? I wasn’t talking dirty to her or anything. She was just curious what my abs looked like. I mean she would see the same at the beach so is it okay? I need to be at peace thanks!
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Simple question; why did you do it?
 
Not to make her sin or anything. We weren’t talking sexually. I don’t know why I did but I just asked if she wanted to see and she said yes.
 
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We were just texting and then started talking about abs and I said wanna see and she said yes. I didn’t intend for her to have any sinful thoughts or anything of that matter. So should I be fine? As long as I pray about it? And I emailed my priest rest assured!
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While you may not of intended anything sinful, I would argue that can be considered scandalous because it may place her in a near occasion of sin.

If she starts to objectify and lust after your abs, then it would certainly be sinful for her.

So my recommendation, add this to your next confession. It’s most likely just venial based on what you say, but confessing would still be a good idea - the NEXT time you go to confession.

And in the future, I suggest you refrain from sending such pictures because you never know what another person might do with such pictures.

God Bless
 
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I wouldn’t call it a sin but one of the Catholic virtues is prudence, and I do think it is imprudent to send body pictures electronically to anyone but perhaps an online doctor. You just don’t know what other situation where those photos can crop up later.

I do get into body type discussions at times because I recently started working out and lifting, but would not post or send pictures (of course my abs aren’t something anyone wants to see🙄).

And if you are a guy and this is a girl, kind of hard to keep that kind of exchange from becomming sexual. Perhaps creating potential occasion of sin.
 
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