I live a couple hours away from my monastery. Sometimes I think about how nice it would be if it were close by and I could just pop in whenever I wanted rather than having to plan a trip there. But it is what it is.
It’s probably best if the monastery is close enough to be able to make a retreat or visit at least occasionally. Part of being an Oblate is being part of a community, and it’s hard to do that if you never see the other members. Some monasteries also have groups that meet further away. Mine does this. That means there are members in more distant areas who meet together with one of the monks on a monthly or other regular basis.