Question on mass card

[AmyMarie71]

I have a situation questioning what is right or wrong in regards to mass cards.

My cousin’s best friend, for whom he has been his caregiver since the war, passed away recently from a heart attack. He was in his 70’s. My dilemna is this; my cousin has power of attorney and made all the funeral arrangements, however, when we go to the church for the funeral mass, we are unsure as to who will be receiving the mass cards once dropped off in the basket. The deceased has siblings (for whom we have never met) and we are unsure of their contributions to any of the services/arrangements and therefore, we want to make sure our cousin receives the mass card.

My cousin has enough to worry about the day of the funeral (this Thursday) and I thought it to be unpractical to give it to him personally when we see him at the service. Would it be ok if we enclose the mass card inside a sympathy card and mail it directly to my cousin? Or should we put my cousin’s full name on the mass card envelope and drop it in the basket at the church?

Any/all advice is appreciated and the sooner, the better. Thank you.

 

[PaulfromIowa]

There is no requirement to leave a memorial donation at the funeral. You can certainly mail him a check separately if you desire.

 

[AmyMarie71]

There is no requirement to leave a memorial donation at the funeral. You can certainly mail him a check separately if you desire.

Nowhere in this post did I mention any kind of monetary donation being made, This is a simple mass card where me and my husband already made a donation and in return, the deceased will be remembered during the mass.

I want to make sure my cousin gets the mass card, not anyone else if just dropped off at the church. So I am asking which, out of the 2 scenerio’s given, would be acceptable.

Thanks!

 

[pianistclare]

Mail it to him. If you left it at the Mortuary, simply say on a secondary sympathy card…I hope you received and take comfort in the gift of Masses for ---- -------, we’ll miss him so.

That’s the custom around here. No one leaves things at the wake. Even Mass cards from our own parish is mailed to the family by the parish office.

Just mail it.

 

[CB_Catholic]

If there are calling hours at the funeral home you can leave the Mass card in the office of the funeral home if you are attending them. They will give them to the person making the arrangements. Otherwise, you can just mail it with a sympathy card. Just address it “to the family of_____” and put your cousin’s address on it.

 

[FrDavid96]

… Would it be ok if we enclose the mass card inside a sympathy card and mail it directly to my cousin?

Yes, that would be fine. There’s no rule saying that a Mass card cannot be sent through the mail. We do it all the time. I cannot imagine how that would be an issue.

Or should we put my cousin’s full name on the mass card envelope and drop it in the basket at the church?..

The issue is that you want your cousin to actually receive the card. No one here can tell you whether or not he’ll receive it if you put it in the basket.

If you want the card to go to him (and that seems clear), then do whatever you need to make sure that happens. You can put it into his hand, or you can mail it to him; either way is perfectly acceptable.

 

[AmyMarie71]

Thank you all for your answers. God Bless!

 

[DignumEtJustum]

I’m sure the date has passed by now and that you noticed the table at the reception where cards piled up.