Questions about adultery

[Trinitysunday]

So, my husband and I separated legitimately under canon law. He is now renting a room in his living space to another woman. Is this adultery?
He says it is non-sexual. Is it still adultery?

Looking for Catholic teaching, not opinion. Thank you.

 

[Fauken]

He is now renting a room in his living space to another woman. Is this adultery?
He says it is non-sexual. Is it still adultery?

What does the Catechism say adultery is?

Looking for Catholic teaching, not opinion. Thank you.

I’m not sure what you mean by that. You’re asking us to tell you whether or not your husband is committing a certain sin. Why are you asking these questions on a forum where anyone can answer and not your priest?

 

[F_Marturana]

Are you asking if the room renting is adultery per se, even without an intimate component.

I don’t believe that it would be.

 

[1ke]

He is now renting a room in his living space to another woman. Is this adultery?

Well, no. It isn’t adultery to take in a boarder who rents a room.

It might not be prudent to take in a female boarder when you are separated form your spouse, and I assume perhaps working to reconcile with your spouse. But it certainly isn’t adultery.

What makes you ask? Do you think it’s adultery? If so, please explain what makes you think so.

He says it is non-sexual. Is it still adultery?

No. Adultery is a sexual relationship with a person who is not your spouse. Renting a room to a boarder is not adultery. It’s not a sin at all.

 

[Lou2U]

From the CCC:

IV. OFFENSES AGAINST THE DIGNITY OF MARRIAGE

Adultery

[2380] Adultery refers to marital infidelity. When two partners, of whom at least one is married to another party, have sexual relations - even transient ones - they commit adultery. Christ condemns even adultery of mere desire.171 The sixth commandment and the New Testament forbid adultery absolutely.172 The prophets denounce the gravity of adultery; they see it as an image of the sin of idolatry.173

https://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a6.htm

 

[do_justly_love_mercy]

Of course it isn’t adultery. I can’t quote Catholic teaching on this because there is none that is relevant. Your husband owns a house (or whatever), there is a spare room, somebody pays him to have use of that room. That’s a very common commercial transaction. I knew a girl who, with her boyfriend, rented a room in a house owned, and occupied, by her brother. That’s not incest. I knew an older guy who rented a room in his house to a single woman of similar age whose main residence was out of town but needed a place to stay in town for work. That’s not fornication.

 

[Mrchatsworth]

He says the arrangement is non sexual. However if either the boarder or the renter is WISHING or fantasizing about a romantic relationship then one of them may be committing adultery. But only they could know that.

 

[Freddy]

One wonders how the op would have been worded if the guy was renting to another man…

 

[Dan_Defender]

The short answer is we don’t know. God knows and that’s all that matters. You are separated, so just move on.

 

[RolandThompsonGunner]

As others have said, it’s not sinful to rent a room to someone of the opposite sex, assuming that’s all it is. That said, I totally understand why this makes you deeply uncomfortable.

 

[phil19034]

So, my husband and I separated legitimately under canon law. He is now renting a room in his living space to another woman. Is this adultery?
He says it is non-sexual. Is it still adultery?

No, it is not adultery.

It might be considered scandal or near occasion of sin, but he’s not committing adultery if he’s not having romantic and/or sexual relations with her.

 

[TominAdelaide]

The staff apologist’s at Catholic Answers have addressed this question in the past:

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[1ke]

The staff apologist’s at Catholic Answers have addressed this question in the past:

Actually those posts don’t answer the question of adultery.

They do give informed opinions on boarders, tenants, and roommates— but those remain prudential decisions.

The posts about cohabiting couples are irrelevant.