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DoxieMama
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My child was whining, and so I raised my voice at her. I felt bad afterward, and am also wondering if that is a mortal sin?
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Sunbreak
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I doubt whether it was a mortal sin unless you seriously frightened her.
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Cricket2
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You have not committed a sin, let alone a mortal one. I think people need to get over some of this “over protective”, never yell at your kid, never smack a hand, never say no, mentality. Sometimes a raised voice can be the difference between life and death.My child was whining, and so I raised my voice at her. I felt bad afterward, and am also wondering if that is a mortal sin?
My parents would raise their voice in an emergency to get our attention, or to make sure we heard them clearly. And when we heard “that certain tone” in my dad’s voice you knew to stop what you were doing–“yesterday already.” In conjunction with that we learned early on that NO meant NO, that tantrums got us know where, and how to behave in a variety of environments. We learned by their example and expectations.
Stop worrying about this. There is nothing worse than a whining kid or adult. Adults who whine were never taught not to do so as children.
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TK421
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I think it’s safe to say that sins from postmodern parents are far more often committed out of omission rather than commission.
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Elizabeth804
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No it doesn’t seem like a mortal sin, I’m assuming you just wanted your child to hear you and pay attention. I don’t think you should worry.
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sallybutler
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I hope it isn’t. If so, we are all in trouble.
As for the whining, whine back. My kids hated that. They’d say ‘mooommy’. I’d say Aaaangela or Caaroline, depending on the child. Sometimes they would stomp their feet and say stop it. I’d stomp back. Eventually they would laugh, as it did sound pretty silly.
Other times I would say something along the lines of ‘Were you talking to me. I didn’t understand your accent’ or ‘I didn’t quite understand what you said. Could you say it in your normal voice’
It didn’t completely stop it (kids are nothing if not determined to make you crazy), but it did cut it way way back. They did figure out I wasn’t going to support that level of drama.
As for the whining, whine back. My kids hated that. They’d say ‘mooommy’. I’d say Aaaangela or Caaroline, depending on the child. Sometimes they would stomp their feet and say stop it. I’d stomp back. Eventually they would laugh, as it did sound pretty silly.
Other times I would say something along the lines of ‘Were you talking to me. I didn’t understand your accent’ or ‘I didn’t quite understand what you said. Could you say it in your normal voice’
It didn’t completely stop it (kids are nothing if not determined to make you crazy), but it did cut it way way back. They did figure out I wasn’t going to support that level of drama.
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Luvz2travel
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Wow no way. Sometimes a raised voice is required to get your point across or to be heard. I think there a bible verse somewher that says God raised is voice to someone…I think Moses when he tried to get out of going back to Egypt. Or maybe that was Jonah. Oh well I just know it was somebody maybe more than one.My child was whining, and so I raised my voice at her. I felt bad afterward, and am also wondering if that is a mortal sin?
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styrgwillidar
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Uh, not enough information. What was your motive? You as the parent are responsible for discipline and the behavior of your child. I’m assuming you asked/directed them politely first? Have explained to them that whining about something isn’t acceptable? Was there something else in the circumstances – you were on the phone trying to have a conversation?
You do what is necessary for each child to teach/instruct/guide. If raising your voice was done in that context-- i.e. they were unresponsive to less strident direction, than I don’t think so. Did it work, did they then comply with your direction?
Have you explained to them that they really control/dictate your tone/demeanor and choices? You never have to raise your voice with a child who complies. You would prefer that they do as they are told? Do you reward when that occurs (i.e. praises, hugs, a privilege- activity, pick out a snack, show etc.)?
You do what is necessary for each child to teach/instruct/guide. If raising your voice was done in that context-- i.e. they were unresponsive to less strident direction, than I don’t think so. Did it work, did they then comply with your direction?
Have you explained to them that they really control/dictate your tone/demeanor and choices? You never have to raise your voice with a child who complies. You would prefer that they do as they are told? Do you reward when that occurs (i.e. praises, hugs, a privilege- activity, pick out a snack, show etc.)?
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EasterJoy
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First of all, you cannot commit a mortal sin by mistake. You have to realize that you are doing something gravely wrong and choose to do it, anyway. You don’t have to feel any particular way about it, it does not matter if you feel shame, defiance towards God, or nothing at all, but you do have to comprehend that your choice is something taught to be of grave seriousness. (Of course, knowing that there is such a thing as a mortal sin and being lazy about learning what is and is not gravely sinful could be seriously culpable, but that is another matter.)
You need to realize that how you feel about your actions is not necessarily any kind of a guide about whether or not you are sinning or how serious the sin is. You can be doing exactly the right thing and yet feel awful about it because someone else doesn’t like it or whines about it. Obviously, if a criminal screams at a judge over perceived injustices, that doesn’t put the judge in the wrong. Likewise, you can congratulate yourself for doing something that moral law has taught you is gravely sinful, but which you have arrogantly felt yourself free to do anyway, because you value your own opinion about right and wrong over God’s law as it has been clearly made known to you.
Yes, practice mildness around your child, but do not think that unrelenting mildness will always be your duty. Sometimes mildness will even be the wrong thing to do, when fierceness was called for. That ought not be your rule for disciplining your children, but do remember the cleansing of the Temple.
You need to realize that how you feel about your actions is not necessarily any kind of a guide about whether or not you are sinning or how serious the sin is. You can be doing exactly the right thing and yet feel awful about it because someone else doesn’t like it or whines about it. Obviously, if a criminal screams at a judge over perceived injustices, that doesn’t put the judge in the wrong. Likewise, you can congratulate yourself for doing something that moral law has taught you is gravely sinful, but which you have arrogantly felt yourself free to do anyway, because you value your own opinion about right and wrong over God’s law as it has been clearly made known to you.
Yes, practice mildness around your child, but do not think that unrelenting mildness will always be your duty. Sometimes mildness will even be the wrong thing to do, when fierceness was called for. That ought not be your rule for disciplining your children, but do remember the cleansing of the Temple.
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phil_at_dayboro
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How could raising your voice be a sin ? Or even a light slap on the butt ?
It is your responsibility to protect your child and raise your child in a loving , caring, nurturing
Manner, sometimes trying to do the right thing can cause you frustration,
But that all part of being a parent,
It is your responsibility to protect your child and raise your child in a loving , caring, nurturing
Manner, sometimes trying to do the right thing can cause you frustration,
But that all part of being a parent,
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Rau
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Do you worry often about mortal sins?My child was whining, and so I raised my voice at her. I felt bad afterward, and am also wondering if that is a mortal sin?
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