Jay:
While you mean well, this is precisely the reason why we lose existing and prospective Catholics, the “my way or the highway” judgemental attitude…
…Encourage, don’t discourage. Emphasize positive things, don’t tell somebody he is excommunicated if he has an issue with a teaching. Who is going to respond well to that?
Hi Mike,
I understand the spirit of what you are saying.
However, the Church is very clear on its standing on abortion and contraception. CCC: 2272 reads: “Formal cooperation in an abortion constitutes a grave offense. the Church attachés the canonical penalty of excommunication to this crime against human life…”
The Catechism goes on in just 12 paragraphs later (CCC 2284) to say
“Respect for the soul of others: Scandal”
“Scandal is an attitude or behavior which leads another to do evil. The person who gives scandal becomes his neighbor’s tempter. He damages virtue and integrity: he may even draw his brother into spiritual death. Scandal is a grave offense if by deed or by omission…”
When Jesus told those who were following him that (paraphrasing John Chapter 6) “You must eat my flesh and drink my blood or you have no life in you!” Many following him said, “this is a hard teaching, who can accept it?” And they left his company thinking Jesus to be a fool." Did Jesus go after them and say…“hey wait a minute…I was just joking…what ever you think is fine with me.” No, he let them go on their way. Jesus then asked the apostles “Are you going to leave too?” and Peter replied, “Lord, you have the words of everlasting life, to whom else can we turn?”
The Catholic Church has the words and the teaching of everlasting life.
A person approaching the Church to become a member, and then calls the Magistarium foolish for its stance on matters of faith and morals in a public way… This causes me a visceral reaction and I must respond.
If people leave the Church because they don’t accept what the Church teaches, then so be it. God is merciful and can, in His own time, soften the hardest of hearts and these people can come back to the fold when they are ready.
When dealing with the eternal salvation of souls, “touchy feely” doesn’t suffice. My love for Jack is that I want the highest and best for him. And the highest and best is Heaven.